He couldn't cum

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  1. LA_20

    LA_20 New Member

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    Tonight we had a rare night completely alone and because we are both leaving town soon tonight was the last night we had together for the next 9 days. One thing led to another and he decided he wanted a blowjob and to finish on my chest, which is probably the hottest things ever IMO and I've wanted to try it forever. As he got close I could tell that he wasn't really enjoying it, he seemed preoccupied and frustrated. Although I had no problem spending a few extra minutes on him, he eventually pulled away and told me that it just wasn't going to happen tonight. I did my best to assure him that I understood and that instead we could do other things. My orgasms are difficult to achieve most of the time so I completely understood his frustration but he acted as if he had let me down.
    We took a break and ran to Starbucks and afterwards went back to his place and cuddled for a hour. Overall the night went well but I could tell he was slightly distant because of what had happened earlier. I'm sure this will eventually happen again, how do I handle it? Do I try and tell him its normal and it happens, or is that not what guys want to hear when they are having difficulty cumming?
     
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    azezpz1 New Member

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    It happens to me some times for no reason. I don't know if he would be offended or not, but I wouldn't be.
     
  3. Kronnie

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    It can be a number of reasons as to why he had problems cumming that time, perhaps stress ?

    I think most guys have had a problem with cumming, I have only had that a few times in my life, where no matter what was done i just couldnt orgasm.

    Does he usualy have no problem in cumming ?
     
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    In fact I had a problem cumming tonight, It was because I worked tonight. It wasn't just any night it was a saturday night in a restaurant which is quite tiresome and hard.

    Anyway I was tired but wanted to have sex so we started and I was having a hard time luckly I was about half sail and finally came after some hard work. But it was because I was so tired.

    But I can understand how he feels I get pissed at myself if I can't cum either, you just need to give he some space but still let him know that it is ok and you aren't made at him
     
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    i always have difficulty cumming wen its my 3rd and 4th round of sex in the day lol :)
     
  6. LA_20

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    Thanks for the responses. Since he's never had a problem in the past I really didnt want to leave town on a slightly negative note. Today we cuddled and kissed for around a hour then I lubed him up with a rediculous amount of baby oil and gave him a really slow handjob. It took about 10 min longer than normal and at one point he asked if I needed a break but I just laughed it off and said that I was having way to much fun to stop. When he finally came he shot more than he has in weeks and had full leg spasms. I wasn't planning on doing anything today but I really wanted to show him that one "off" evening isn't going to change anything.
    Thanks for yalls responses, hopefully this was a one time thing, but if not it sounds like it happens to most guys on occassion when they are tired or stressed.
    Hope everyones having a nice sunday
     
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    Relaxed sunday for me :)

    Great to hear everything went back to normal :)

    A guy will usualy cum a lot more with a few days rest..also will cum more from having vaginal penitration, then a hand job hehe...

    Sounds like your sunday is going great