Having sex hard and fast

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  1. Dingo

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    At times my girlfriend likes me to make love to her rather hard and fast, usually from behind, and about 60% of the time this causes me to ejaculate after a short period of time. I've been reading up on premature ejaculation but that doesn't seem to be the problem as I don't have problems during normal sex. I've tried condoms with numbing lubricant on them, but these are usually way too strong and tend to take all feeling out of my penis all together, making me unhard quickly anytime I pull out of her. I've heard keegal (sp?) exercises work, but is there anything else I can do? Is there some trick that pornstars use for this?
     
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    Try cock rings. There are several on the market that are metal, hard rubber, silicon and ones that have vibrators attached for pleasure. I'm sure those could help.
     
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    Also try and control your breathing. For me, I can last as long as I want to if I keep my breaths normal paced and deep. Keeping your muscles relaxed seems to help me too. Once I have decided it is time to orgasm, I start breathing quicker and tighten up my muscles...and there I go!
     
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    It isn't that hard, you need to do kegel exercises to get your pc muscle into shape, and then when you feel like your going to come, squeeze that muscle really hard. At the same time, imagine the sexual energy being drawn away from your penis, up your spine and out of the top of your head. For this to work, you need to do those exercises every day for several minutes, but the benefit is your orgasms will be stronger with a strong pc muscle in any case.

    The other tips are regular breathing and keeping your eyes open. Watching your partner in passion is enjoyable beyond description.

    All three of these tips are Tantric.

    The other practical tip is to start slow and steady, enjoying the sensations, prolonging the act, teasing your girlfriend. Finish hard and fast if that's what she wants. By that stage, she's going to be dying for it in any case. Anticipation is one of the best parts of sex.
     
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    Who wouldn't cum in your case? Fukin fast and hard will make you cum faster. It's no brainer! However, I think you should give oral and make sure she is already close from cumming then give it to her fast and hard.
     
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    Maybe you should do what my SO and I do. When I ask for it hard and fast he does it until he feels like he is going to cum and then stops and goes slowly for a while.

    Once he has calmed down we go again. I like the variation of it and he lasts longer. Have you ever thought that she is asking you to do it like this to get it over with quicker?
     
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    Ouch.....:lol
     
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    Sometimes, chicks like to be fucked hard and fast. I know I do....I don't ask him to do me hard and fast if I want it over. I just wouldn't have sex in the first place.
     
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    Fast & Hard

    When my wife wants it fast and hard it is usually a quickie. When we travel or go camping she will get me all worked up with showing me bits of her beautiful flesh as we go about our business to tease me until I cant stand it anymore and then I will push her against a wall, a rock or whatever is handy and give it to her hard and fast. Sometimes she cums sometimes she doesnt but I get the feeling that the treat for her is seeing how far she can push me before I react with animalistic lust and take her on the spot. When we are in a bed we will usually go at it a while and then rest or go slow a while so I dont cum to soon. When we do the fast hard thing she seems almost drunk to me as her body seems to move and feel differently than normal and she also talks very nasty which I love:dgrin.
    :bow All bow to the ladies for they are what we desire most:brow
     
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    For me getting little older and more experienced enabled me to hold out much longer when going fast and hard. Condoms also worked as well because they desensitize the feeling. I never tried the numbing lube ones but I`m surprised those didn`t do the trick for you. I also wonder how the porn stars do it too. I figured they might use desensitizing lube but I guess it`s just a job for them.
     
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    Well, what sometimes happens with me is that I have something to do (ie a roast in the oven) or I am really tired and want some sleep, I will tell BF to go hard and fast cos it gets me and him off quickly and that way I can move onto other things.

    Just cos it is over with quicker doesn't make it bad sex. I cum really quickly when I get fucked REALLY hard in doggy, I love how his hands clamp hard down on my hips when I start to cum and he can't hold back anymore. It is hot, so I didn't mean that in a bad way.
     
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    agreed. We dont always like it slow and romantic.
     
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    My boyfriend likes fucking me hard and fast also..
     
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    My wife will occassionaly ask me to bang hard and fast. I have the same issue as Dingo. However, usually she likes to cum first then move on to the doggy position, then have me go hard and fast on her. Then I will usually blow pretty quick. And all is well...:)