Have you ever been "terrified" to have sex with someone?

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  1. hollydollyrose22

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    If so, was it your own insecurities that held you back? Was it something the person did? If not, why do YOU think someone would be terrified to have sex with someone? Given the fact you knew this person was STD free of course.
     
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    For me it was insecurity coupled with inexperience (which fed into the insecurity). I think lack of confidence, insecurity, and being too tense are huge factors in being "terrified" of sexual interaction. It's like I've said in another thread regarding getting off - you've got to get out of your own head, relax, and just go with the flow.
     
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    I wish more men thought like this.
     
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    Her smell :(
    I don't mind normal pussy odours but this particular one was worse than bad.
    I hope that she eventually got some treatment that made it healthy.
     
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    Only time I'm terrified is when just start having sex and I feel I'm about to cum already. I hate quickies. I have had woman tell me they love anal sex and consider them selfs bj queens. Then after meeting me tell me they are terrified about fitting me.
     
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    I hate the all bark and no bite type of people.
     
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    Sometimes apprehensive, but never terrified.
     
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    My first attempt at sex was a complete and utter painful humiliating failure for both due to my inexperience - after that I was terrified of having sex.
    Luckily I was 'tutored' a few years later by an older woman.
    After that my trepidation, not terror, was when I really wanted to 'pleasure' somebody and not just fuck, that I would cum too quickly.
    Luckily again experience overcame this.
     
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    Us old dudes can afford to tell it how it was then ;)
     
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    Nope never.
     
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    Once. I hooked up with a really hot girl that I thought was out of my league. Turns out it was all in my mind. Being nervous. The sex was hot we both came multiple times the room was a mess and we both slept like rocks that night lol. The next day we both went our seperate ways.
     
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    Standing Ovation to 10_3XL!! {Clapping hands loudly}

    You said that perfectly and most accurately! I'm really partial to your reply because I tell people this all the time - because it's Truth! The Mind will either make you or break you in So Many circumstances, and in daily life in general.

    Kudo's Big Guy! ;)
     
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    I remember this one time I had this friend that always talked about her ex boyfriend who had a 10" cock and how she just loved it. I always wanted to fuck her as she was smokin' hot but we were friends and I didn't want to screw it up. There got to be too much sexual tension between us so one night we got high on some good Hawaiian smoke and she started to take my shirt off.." I've always wanted to dig my nails in your big chest as you fucked me".....game on but I was nervous because she was coming off a relationship with a super hung boyfriend. Me being "only" a true 7.5 to 8 I was thinking she may be disappointed. She pulled my cock out and I got instantly hard. "Wow" she said "you're as big as Steve I'm gonna enjoy this". So this proves how bad most women are at judging size and how most guys lie about it. It was a great night and we fucked to the sound of the waves until the sun came up.
     
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    Yep. Insecurities. All in my head. Fear of stage fright which causes stage fright. I have been so excited I was afraid I would screw up. I have also been caught off guard when someone I was very attracted too made a move on me and I had no idea it was even a possibility.
     
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    Terrified by insecurities, no, never lacked confidence, concerned a bit, yes. I started with a blow job on the way to the Lake of the Ozarks, next thing I knew she was climbing on me and we're fucking at 80mph. I started to pull over as we were using both lanes and the shoulder but she said keep going. One scary hot ride.
     
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    Did the same as BC once... only going 110mph over Deadman Pass in midwinter during a blizzard. On a motorcycle. It was boring, so next time we're planning on doing it on the wing of an airplane that is in flight during an aerial stunt performance. :p
     
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    Don't bother, it ain't all that great :p:D
    For real excitement, try doing it with her father and brother(s) in the next room - now that is scary.
    You can't try the ultimate - with her mother sitting opposite because I think long skirts are no longer in fashion.
     
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