Hard time keeping it up - what do you think?

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  1. Nuggets

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    Hi everyone,

    It's been forever. I used to really love your site. There are many people here who really know a lot about living and I have always appreciated the advice I found here.

    I come to you with a new situation. Last time I was here, I was probably in this terrible relationship that I should've gotten out of long before. This time coming to you - I am truly in love. There's a great possibility that this new girl (met in September) is "the one." Haha. I won't get all sappy because I need your help!

    This relationship is about 1000000000000 times better than my last one. I am truely in love. That's not the issue. I love my girlfriend to death, I know she loves me, she is a virgin, she's been waiting 9 months for me, and now she wants me to take her virginity.

    I've taken everything very slowly with her. Only recently have I begun to put two fingers inside her. I want to be careful with her. I don't want to take her virginity the way I lost mine to a woman who I DESPISE now: she just jumped on me and started fucking me while we were drunk haha.

    ***What's the issue?***
    I know she is ready for me to take her virginity and I feel mentally ready. I fit 3 fingers inside of her the other day, and she is a small and untouched girl before me. However, it is now I who is having trouble. :mad I used to have sex with my ex girlfriend on a nearly daily basis, and now, I CAN'T STAY HARD ENOUGH TO ENTER MY NEW AMAZING LOVER NO MATTER HOW BADLY WE BOTH WANT IT. :nerv

    Could it be:
    - she is too tight and not ready (she feels ready, 3 fingers is probably bigger than my manhood)
    - I smoke pot regularly, and a lot (there is VERY MUCH DEBATE about whether pot/marijuana can kill erections/create impotence. I'm starting to think this is my issue. Sometimes I guess I did have erection issues with my ex, and I have always smoked a lot)
    - Am I still heartbroken from my ex even though I REALLY REALLY love my new girlfriend? Am I like traumatized? Did she break my sex drive? haha :eek
    - I don't sleep right
    - don't eat right
    - stress/anxiety about finding a job seeing as I'm a recent uni grad!:eek


    I think I included everything. What do you think? I really think it has a lot to do with the marijuana making it hard for me to stay hard. It's not that I have a lack of desire - I want to make love to my new girlfriend every day, 3 times a day if possible! I love eating her out and making her come :)

    If it's the marijuana which I've always been fond of, I know it is time for me to make some significant lifestyle changes. I don't need it. I need MY LOVER. I need to make love to my lover and take care of her.

    Thanks, sorry for such an eratic post! I'm scared for my penis and my relationship :( haha
     
  2. Hot Wheels

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    Before we start working towards solving your current dilemmas Nuggets....
    can i ask your ages?

    And welcome back by the way:D
     
  3. Nuggets

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    Thank you!

    I'm 22 and she's 20. I know it's a bit too young to be having erection problems.
     
  4. 28152male

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    A urologist is the name of a specialist that deals with such things.Ive been to one ,he prescribed viagra for me,tho I haven t been lately.Theres places all over the internet that sell sex/ED drugs/Meds,use search engine.
    Health food stores sell lots of o t c items for sex related concerns like yohimbe extract,maca extract,sex formulas that combine different things;horny goat weed ext is one of the top items in use.
    As men get older,the testosterone goes down,like 1/2 of what it was between 18 to 25,at age 45 to 50 yr old,as does most of our major hormone levels.
    Talk with your doc about it,I had to get a referral to a urologist,Ive got heart troubles,which really mess with ones sex life,& viagra started as a heart drug with a boner side effect./Best Wishes/ not touching the pot controversy,I don t smoke,lots in jail over that,they re using them for slave labor in privatised prisons in America,these days,besides confiscating everything they own,& the cops keeping fat off all that!
     
  5. Hot Wheels

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    You have found a relationship that makes you happy and therefore should make you feel better about yourself Nuggets, and that puts you way ahead of many others......
    See the doctor, he'll help you beat the grass and advise you about what to do about the problems with your willy......think positive mate.
    :tup
     
  6. Barbwire

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    Smoking messes with your circulation and you need a good blood supply to make a proper woodrow.

    Quit cigs and weed for a coupla months and see if that helps.

    I'd also talk to your doctor. He's the one trained in diagnosing this stuff, not us pervs. ;)
     
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    On the pot thing,sweet potatoes do the same thing pot does,namely to raise the dopamine levels in the brain.A 15 oz can of sweet potatoes will do it,its just slower,to raise the levels over a 24 hr period of time,while smoke goes to the lungs,then straight into the bloodstream.Sweet potatoes are legal in contrast & could help one abstain from pot,I like em with sugar,cinnimon,& veggie oil ,with some salt,mashed n cooked.
    Makes a mean pie filling ,like this too,some mix 1/2 & 1/2 with pumpkin pie filling.
    Dopamine decreases with age,parkinsons disease has a marked lower level of dopamine in the brain,it affects memory,balance,co ordination,helps stimulate growth hormone too.
    Personally,I feel pot should be decriminalized,like the UK s drug laws in general.Helps ease pain in general,acts as a general tranquilizer/muscle relaxant,too,cheaper than prescription drug counterparts,IMHO.
     
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  8. Barbwire

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    Dude, you are either a wealth of information or a wealth of bullshit.

    It's a good thing I'm too lazy to Google right now. :lol
     
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    You know how marijuana can cause anxiety. That would be the first thing to quit. Or just back off to a daily tuneup, but don't get hammered. That and the possibility that she's ready, but you're not. Just because you're a guy doesn't make you "always ready." It's very unlikely there is anything wrong with your equipment. If you tell her your fears, maybe she can reverse the roles and help you along.
     
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    Cannabis indicas mostly do, but sativas will make you hyper... a party high, but that can come with paranoia.

    If he's buying weed, it's likely cannabis sativa because of the high yield plants. Fun high, but in the wrong situation it can be paranoia and anxiety.
     
  11. HardRocker

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    You are not even close to the first person your age to come to SF with that problem.

    EDIT: Damn, I'm post padding. Didn't start out to. Okay people, see what I've done??? Don't do that!:lol
     
  12. Mittimer

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    Ok,
    So I know a lot of druggies lol. I went to a pretty shitty public high school to be honest and over half the friends I had were pretty doped up 99 percent of the time. I'm still friends with One.
    I myself have only tried pot once in my life and did NOT like the feeling. It made me very anxious, very paranoid and disassociated from everything.

    I don't think it's so much of a "debate" on whether or not pot can keep you from keeping it up, it's pretty much an issue. As is drinking.


    Stress, poor diet, depression, those are all reasons to not be able to keep yourself up. I know that when my ex used to smoke out and then try to do anything with me, it would not work at all. lol

    If you spend a lot of time thinking about your ex, also, while your in a situation with your new girl, that could really set your mind somewhere else and cause you to lose your boner.

    Like cowboy said, lay off the smoke for a while, try not to drink and see where it goes.
     
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