[Ask a Guy] hard again

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  1. thisnthat

    thisnthat New Member

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    My wife would love to get to cum for a second time. After i cum i go soft :mad it takes about fours to get hard agin.. So looking for answers from the guys on how there partners get them hard for second orgasm
     
  2. Paula

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    Isn't this a double-topic?
     
  3. RawDog

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    Yeah, this came up not too long ago. :lol

    I slay me
     
  4. Trond

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    This time the OP asks the guys :)

    Anyway, I already gave my answer in the other thread.
     
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    I don't know how she cums the first time, but try making her cum with your tongue, either first or second time. My wife has 2 different orgasms - one on the inside and one on the outside. They can occur simultaneously or one at a time.
     
  6. cbrmale

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    I do tantric and come multiple times without ejaculation, and can last as long as I like. Pack your bags for Sydney or Byron Bay and contact Kerry or Diane Riley. They will put you in touch with a Goddess who will teach you how to enjoy pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. Google Tantric Workshops for Men in Sydney and you will see what it's about.

    I tried reading and doing but never came close. It took one-on-one to make it happen.
     
  7. Paula

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    You will be the first one to make this happen :) I understand your vision...

    Whatever tantric says about this, it is unhealthy to hold ejaculation. It just isn't natural. Why don't man understand?

    Just enjoy sex and let it go. I want to enjoy and we do so. If he comes early so be it, it makes me damn hot. I don't want to be fucked until my pussy is raw...
     
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    I agree non-ejaculation is unhealthy, and causes prostate problems. I always ejaculate to finish. That may be my one orgasm, or it may be my third or fourth, depending. I don't fuck forever, generally around 10 minutes or sometimes longer if it's clear we're both in the mood for it. Particularly with my thickness, both of us will get very sore if I go for too much longer than 10 minutes.

    But what it means is that if I'm hot for whatever reason, I control and manage the timing of my orgasm until we're both satisified. Not so many men can do that. Also what it means for me is my orgasms are much more powerful and pleasurable than what I used to experience, and I don't feel tired and drained afterwards. So we use that to enjoy the afterglow together.

    We use Tantric to pick and choose what we do to make sex better for us, and all couples are the same. There isn't one set Tantric 'script' or position or anything else. It's just a set of tools you both use to make sex more satisfying for both of you.
     
  9. Paula

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    If you both enjoy then why want more?
     
  10. cbrmale

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    I enjoy to a point, and that point could be much more enjoyable. I enjoy my girlfriend more, because she is in-tune to sensuality and eroticism, which is something my wife totally lacks. So I can relax with my girlfriend but have to lead my wife each and every time. My girlfriend and I take turns leading and following, which is the way of most couples.

    If you've ever been with a guy who was sexually clueless but a lovely person beyond that, you will understand where I am.
     
  11. Paula

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    So it is the person that affects your sex probs. Not tantric or any...

    I know how I can make him hold longer. And how to push him beyond. His orgasm will be so much better.
     
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    i can relate to what paula and cbr are saying.....i'm not a "tantric" guy. but i have learned control and dont cum until i want to...having said that, my girl sometimes gets frustrated with me that i never just "lose control" ...
    it's wierd, as a man you spend much time learning control, then you find out they want you to lose it...
    women.....sometimes ya just cant win...lol...
     
  13. Paula

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    I have some tricks...hihi
     
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    do tell....
     
  15. Paula

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    nope...that will give you men an advantage :lol
     
  16. Paula

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    men.....sometimes ya just cant win...lol...
     
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    My girlfriend might have the same tricks!
     
  18. Alwayslearningsex

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    I am one of these guys who take a while to get hard again too, but not as long. I will enjoy doing oral, using my hands or toys but when I have MY turn receiving oral or masturbation, tittyfuck too at times, I will ask the fun to stop before I ejaculate, and continue again once the urge to goes away. Stop and go if you prefer. Since I will have "little" pleasure I prolong it with the help of a helpful gal who enjoys it too. At times it gets so close sperm comes out a little. Has not caused harm as within a few minutes I beg to finish, or let her finish. The sensations are wonderful.
     
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    in the good old days after I blew my first load I would snack on her snatch and that would get me all het up after just a couple minutes - often before she came again.Or she would gently suck me back to life after a minute or 2 break in the action. I was always better and longer the 2nd go round & every go round after that.Now-a-days after I get my nut she grabs her toy and wants nothing to do with me
     
  20. mikeh

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    One word, VIAGRA!