halp! Am I gay?

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  1. footfetishboy

    footfetishboy New Member

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    I remember when I was 14-15-16 at the pinnacle of my sexuality. And I watched porn alot, and me and these other 2 guys (we became friends from having gym class together 2 years in a row). We were all friends. All horny. But all still just friends. I never ever doubted my sexuality. But honestly, watching a guy masturbate turns me on. I mean, guys don't turn me on at all. In fact, the basic structure of other males is some what of a turn off.

    Any ways, one day one of those guys came to sleep over my house and his names Jon. So, we were chillin and we started talking about typical sex questions and we eventually got to masturbation... And at some point, we ended up masturbating infront of eachother simultaniously. Afterward, we didn't really say much, but then a good 15 minutes past and he asked me if i wanted to do it again... and I agreed. And we watched eachother masturbate and I came so hard. It was our secret and we masturbated alot together after that, and eventually started giving eachother handjobs...

    It's all so weird though, like, I just never thought of it the way I do now, looking back on it. I was never sexually aroused by men and I'm not now. It's just weird how we both kept a secret and masturbated with eachother and even gotten eachother off a few times, but we never did anything but that. Like, the entire concept of heightened sexual activities didn't even occure to us. We were satisfied with watching eachother cum.


    Is that at all normal or even like... Heard of?
     
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  2. burton

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    sounds pretty gay to me.
     
  3. melicious

    melicious The Old Maid
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    Yea? I disagree completely. I think... you had an experience in the past with a man. Shrugs. You like women, want to fuck women, but don't want to fuck men (at least at this time, maybe not ever). It simply does not need a label.
     
  4. Nettle

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    A person is gay not a sex act. If you are attracted to women, then you are not gay.

    I have heard of young men masturbating together before, I don't think it is that unusual.
     
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    it's still a gay encounter.. infatuation of another male/his genetals.. that's man + man = the same = homo. i mean, the guy likes to fuckin women now, could be straight, could be bi.. but before.. that's encounter should be evidence that he has an infatuation with that, that only a male can please or arouse him by.
     
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    If you are not sexually aroused by men, then you probably aren't gay. Maybe what turned you on was only the fact that the situation was sexual, I don't know... And I too heard about young men masturbating together. I don't think it is that unusual ;)
     
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    The truth is, no one here can say that you are or are not gay, and know. Only you know if you are or are not. Are YOU questioning that? Or just want others to let you know that what you experienced in the past wasn't crazy or wild freaky kinky? It wasn't. Promise.
     
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    yeah.. i agree with this.

    and i don't think its that uncommon either.. i mean, where'd the term circle jerk come from :coocoo
     
  9. Nettle

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    He said he wasn't sexually attracted to the man.

    It was a time of raging hormones and curiosity about sex.
     
  10. Miss Kitty

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    There's nothing wrong with experimentation. If you ask me, you or your friend were experimenting, and it doesn't make you gay. You are gay if you are attracted to guys as much as a straight guy is attracted to girls. You are straight if you are attracted to girls. Bisexuality is a big gray area, but that's something everyone needs to answer for themselves. I could see myself doing sexual acts with another woman, as long as there's a guy involved as well, and I can definitely appreciate a beautiful woman, but I am not bisexual, because I can't think of and don't seek women as sex partners.

    Also, the OP's story didn't strike me as odd when I read it, because it's along the same principal of why there are men in porn made for men. It's so you can picture yourself doing what that guy is doing. I would think seeing a guy get himself off would be very arousing for similar reasons.
     
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    If I were in your shoes......

    I wouldn't even ask yourself the question, "Am I gay?"

    Why attempt to categorise yourself with any label?

    I don't see any need at all.

    Be yourself and enjoy all relationships and opportunities that present themselves to you.