Guys wonder why women cheat..here ya go.

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  1. backcheck64

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    Confessions: 7 reasons why women cheat

    By Chelsea Kaplan




    You’ve probably heard that men cheat for physical reasons, women for emotional reasons. Sure, there’s some truth to that, but when we asked real women around the country to share why they strayed from their boyfriends, we learned they had a whole host of explanations — from bad kissing to sheer revenge. Read on for the truth about why women have given in to temptation.

    Reason #1: There’s no passion
    “I had been with John for about three years — he was a really nice guy, and I enjoyed being with him, but there wasn’t a ton of passion. Most everyone we knew had gotten engaged, and though John would have proposed in a second, whenever he brought it up, I’d change the subject. I took a trip to Australia for work and while I was gone, I got together with a coworker to whom I’d always been insanely attracted. I had a fantastic trip, probably because for the first time in a long time I experienced that excitement I’d been missing. I broke up with John soon after I returned home and began dating the guy from the trip. Even though I’m not super-proud of my actions, things ended up for the best: after dating for a few years, the guy from the trip and I got married and we’re incredibly happy together.”
    – Giselle, 30, Montvale, NJ

    Reason #2: To delay a breakup
    “Right before I was going to break up with my ex, Sean, he found out that he had to put his beloved dog to sleep. He was so broken up about it that I didn’t have the heart to end things, so I waited a month or so until he was in better shape. When things seemed to be better and I was ready, he lost his job, so I felt like I was back to square one! By that time I had met someone else that I really wanted to start seeing, so I went ahead and did it. I eventually ended things, never telling Sean about my extracurricular dating. I think I rationalized that I was trying to spare his feelings.”
    – Stacy, 30, Lexington, KY

    Reason #3: Because absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder
    “My boyfriend Greg and I decided to do the long-distance thing after I was accepted to a graduate program 200 miles from where we lived. The first few months were fine, but I soon found myself becoming extremely attracted to my lab partner, Henry. What began as innocent flirting eventually wound up with us getting physical. After the program was over, I returned home to Greg. Being with him was really difficult, but I didn’t break up with him initially because I was still attracted to him, too. I visited Henry a few times and realized that he was really more of a fling, probably done out of boredom, and that Greg was the one for me. I eventually stopped communicating with Henry. I never told Greg about what happened, which occasionally makes me feel guilty, but I chalk my cheating up to being young and silly. He and I are still together, four years after my program ended.”
    – Tamara, 33, Portland, OR

    Reason #4: To avoid being left out in the cold
    “I began dating Eric shortly after I had been dumped by Dave, my boyfriend of two years. I was devastated and Eric was definitely a rebound thing. After Eric and I had dated for five months, Dave came back and wanted to give things another shot. I still really missed him, so I began seeing him, but never ended things with Eric. I think I sort of kept Eric around for insurance purposes, just in case things didn’t end up well with Dave. Dave and I didn’t make it on round two, and after Eric discovered through mutual friends that I had been seeing him again, he ended things with me. I definitely learned my lesson about dating two guys at the same time, not to mention trying to rekindle a relationship that’s just plain over.”
    – Jen, 28, Oak Park, IL

    Reason #5: To make a break from a bad relationship
    “When I was younger, I dated a guy named Ethan who was really critical of me. He constantly made little snide comments about my weight, how stupid I was and how clumsy I was. For whatever odd reason, I was into him, despite the fact that all of my friends and family hated him. One weekend when he was away, I met Will at a party and we completely hit it off. He was the complete opposite of Ethan — kind, sweet and generous, yet completely cool and fun, too. We hung out all weekend and it was like a light bulb went off in my head: This is how mature, relationship-worthy guys act. I kissed Will the night before he left and broke up with Ethan soon after. Will and I dated for three years and now we’re married.”
    – Allison, 30, New York, NY

    Reason #6: To find that missing piece
    “I’m from Florida, so I adore going to the beach and boating, but my former boyfriend, Chris, a total city boy, hated it. We always argued about where we’d take trips, and he always won. About eight months into our relationship, I took a trip to Key West with my friends and we chartered a boat for the day. The captain of the boat was this totally hot, complete ‘beach guy for life’ type, and I spent the whole day flirting with him. We met him out that night and spent time alone together. I never told Chris about it after I got home and I never felt guilty; I think part of me felt like that’s what Chris got for being so stubborn! Chris and I didn’t make it, and after we broke up, I made sure any future boyfriends loved the beach!”
    – Lizzie, 32, Chicago, IL

    Reason #7: To give him a taste of his own medicine
    “My last boyfriend was a total player before we got together. I thought I could change him but I was wrong. I always heard rumors that he was seeing other girls while we were dating, but he always denied it. One night, I got a call from a girl he had been secretly dating, and she detailed their three-month-long relationship to me and told me about another girl she had discovered he was seeing as well. I was so mad that I went out with my friends that night, dressed to kill, and spent time with the most attractive guy; I felt like it was the least he deserved! I loved seeing the look on his face when I told him about what I did and that I knew about the other girls. And then I dumped him!”
    – Ashante, 25, College Park, GA

    Chelsea Kaplan is a Senior Editor at The Family Groove. Her blog, “I’m Somebody’s Mother?” can be found at www.rumymother.blogspot.com. For the other side of the story, read Confessions: 8 reasons men cheat.

    So to avoid problems...avoid these pitfalls.
     
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    It's funny, absent from that article are 2 words that are reasons that say more than all 7 combined: trust and communication.

    Articles that portend to give lists are usually filler crap.
     
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    #8 you date a dirty hoe that wants to fuck everything without thinking
    #9 she gets bored with anything she ever has, even if its the best
    #10 She's on a mission to bang 10,000 men
     
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    Reason #2: To delay a breakup

    quit being a pussy, stacy.
     
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    Hey, guys on here and another site ask, here's a list already made.

    Burned much?
    What are you saying? LOL
     
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    Why is it restricted to women? I think guys cheat for pretty much all those same reasons...
     
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    No, men cheat because:

    A. they are dogs
    B. it's nature, we have to, no control, must spread seed....
    C. men lack self control and are never satisfied
    D. Men's fragile ego needs constant boosting
    E. all the above


    Or you could use the excuses, their SO doent put out.
     
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    People will find any excuse to cheat, men or women. Whatever happened to acting like an adult and just breaking up. It's sad really. Every reason in that article is dumb.
     
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    While every reason IS dumb, I know women that have used most of them.

    I agree, break up, or find the right person that you have no excuse to cheat.
     
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    Not at all. Its just what I see when I hear about other people's relationships, especially around here
     
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    I guess I've never dated those types of women.
     
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    I saw that article but I never take these kinds of things seriously. Anything having to do with "what men think" or "what women think" or anything along those lines is fair game for my ribbing. :lol
     
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    I agree, and I have heard that reason from friends in real life. Some women are self-sacrificing to a fault.
     
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    Among my family and friends, I seem to be surrounded by women who lack self-control in everything except sex (there's eating, drinking, pills, shopping), so from a purely subjective point of view I don't think men have any less self control than women (or maybe the exception is sex?).

    I think the real reasons why men cheat are:
    A. Men are on average hornier than women (this has been shown in several studies)
    B. Men are more likely than women to be happy with short flings or purely sexual relationships

    Put those two together, and there you have it (I think). If you ask for the reason why men are put together like that, then Backcheck may actually have a point with his "spreading the seed" argument (whether he's being serious or not:)).
     
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    Is my wife THAT big of a freak... she watches everything she eats and measures portions, works out daily, doens't drink or take anything but vitamines, and can stretch a dollar for a mile.
     
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    Ok, let me modify my statement a little :lol

    I'm not saying that all the women I know are addicts or have poor self control, only that I know several women with such issues, more women than men in fact. But this may all be just the people I happen to know, or perhaps the guys are better at hiding it. My point is just that I doubt women have better self control than men overall.
     
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    absolutely write.......
     
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    In contemporary society about 60% of married men and 40% of married women are unfaithful, and this is a substantial number, no? Over the last 40 years, the percentage of men has stayed constant but the percentage of women has increased dramatically. We can hypothesise two reasons: greater liberation of women during that time, including sexual liberation, and / or more reliable birth control.

    When I studied anthropological psychology, which is looking at primitive societies not affected by Christian morals and values, we saw a different pattern. Firstly, we didn't find a single society which was faithful, and the majority openly condoned infidelity within certain boundaries. Secondly, married women were just as likely to have extra-marital sex as married men in these societies, and husbands would often get jealous as a result. The parentage of children didn't matter because these societies were generally matrilineal, which means a child's name passes down the mother's side (Kevin, son of Mary). Control of female sexual behaviour only becomes an issue if men want to become part of inheritance (Kevin, son of Bob). At this point we hit the patriarchy, and to create a patriarchy we may do things like invent God as the one and only single spiritual entity in place of a range of Gods and Goddesses, but I digress.

    The other variation to inheritance was fratriachy, which is still inheritance down the female line, but with the brother rather than the husband providing the blood-line (example: ancient Egypt and also Polynesia).

    So my belief and the belief of many others, is that Western female sexual behaviour is influenced by many cultural factors, particularly the supression of female sexual desire and experimentation until very recent times.
     
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    This all boils down to lack of trust and communication as one of the members here posted.

    I think the fault lies in both men and women. Open and honest communication is what's missing based on the reasons the women in the original post stated.