Do you prefer to orgasm before, at the same time, or after you girl comes? Personally I prefer after. I tried the simultaneous, at the same time orgasm, but I realized I was getting distracted on trying so hard to time it just right, that my orgasms were wimpier! So now I focus on getting my girl off first. Then I relax, bang away, and enjoy my orgasm without thinking of the timing! And me coming first, and then helping my girl to get there; I've only done that when there was no other choice!