Ok, most of you dont know me. I was very active on this forum for a long time, went thru a divorce, now I am back because I am bored and I missed this place. Now I am trying NOT to date, as I ran the gamut when newly single, but I have a question about how men operate. Frankness does not upset me. I met a dude from a town two hours away. We chatted some, then dropped it. I was traveling to his town (the beach), and just random texted him on the way. We met for drinks, talked about four hours, then we attacked each other. Best sex I have ever had. He was worried I would not see him again. I have traveled there twice since, and the same scenario ensued. Last time he bought me a nice bottle of wine, had candles everywhere, it was awesome. That was two weeks ago and we have hardly talked since, and he will not answer my texts or chats. I left my necklace there totally by mistake; ripped it off and threw it on the floor while giving him head and forgot it. He said he found it, thats it. I texted him tonight and asked him to mail the necklace to me, and of course have had no response. Our deal was we would be fuck buddies, and if we changed our minds or wanted to date or hook up with others we would tell each other. I am totally not dating now, sick of it, but I really like this guy, stupid me. Ok, the question is why did he bother with intellectual conversation for hours, candles, wine, seduction when it was just fucking. That shit drives me crazy. Why, if you guys just want to get laid dont you just let us walk in, fuck us, and kick us out? I dont understand, and my mind is wired to understand. I want my necklace back. Thanks, FC, aka doesnt know how to be successfully single at 45.