Guys: dont you get tired?

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  1. p00shy

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    Sometimes i get tired of doing all the working during sex. sometimes we go at it like 4 times within like 4 hours and eash session is about 30-40 minutes. she just lays on her back and i end up doing all the work. and by the 3rd time, im exhausted but she wants more.

    my questions to everyone is who does most of the work during sex? the guy or the girl? i guess it seems mandatory for the guy to do all the work but sometimes us guys like to sit back and enjoy once in a while too like girls do.

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  2. Joe

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    Yeah, it's nasty work, but somebody's gotta do it. It beats washing windows.

    Seriously, why do you have to do "all the work"? I have to because my wife's back can't handle being on top. (She does go a little crazy in that position when it happens.) In my case, and I'm older than dirt and out of shape, I'll switch positions regularly, before I get too tired. The spoon position, as an example, is about as easy as you want to make it. But unless your wife has a problem getting off her back, get her on top for awhile. Most women like that position as well.
     
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    In my case, most positions other than guy-on-top are uncomfortable for my wife. In other cases, she can't seem to reach orgasm is she has to exhert herself too much. She can certainly reach high levels of arousal on top, but just can't get all the way there.
     
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    I know what you mean, my old girlfriend didn't do anything during sex, she just liked to be on her back and let me do all the work. I used to be pretty done after a session and it was pretty annoying not to have any help from her. I would just talk to your girlfriend about it, I did and it worked, things got a little more mutual during sex
     
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    I think he's talking about more than who's on top. A lot of Western women are passive with sex, and expect their men to be the active one from beginning to end. An active partner is fantastic, one who does her own arousal and your arousal from time to time. I've had a few active partners and in my past, and my wife's overly passive ways caused some friction between us for a while.

    I think those who have either had sex with a woman who enjoys having her way with a man, or a non-Western influenced woman will understand what's being discussed. From my experience these men will be in the minority, and possibly they won't even realise there is a whole different way to having sex.

    One of the attractions of paid sex is the way the escort is a more active participant. In Australia where prostitution is legal (and brothels are listed on the stock exchange), there has been research on why men pay for sex, and the active nature of working ladies comes out in the top three or four reasons.
     
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    She's on top as much as I am. I really don't think it's all that much work.
     
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    I don't think you need to do all the work. However, I for one, have to switch...If I'm on top the first while, I've got to switch or I'd never orgasm. If I'm on the bottom for the first little while, I can certainly get on top and go for awhile. :) I like switching it up, but he never has to do all the work unless he wishes to.
     
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    I think he's talking about more than who's on top, a lot of Western women are passive with sex, and expect their men to be the active one from beginning to end (sorry, I posted that before).

    In any case it's not about who's on top but who does the work, and there's a difference.
     
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    Well, I know I'm active all the time while we're having sex, and so is he.
     
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    We both like to be active in all forms of sex.
     
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    i agree and see what your saying. we split the work so it's just about equal on who's on top. i would get tired if i had to do it all the time, i think most people would.
     
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    We are both very active and busy during the entire act, unless one of us wants to be the "lay there and take it" partner. It's more than the woman being on top or bottom. She has to move too!