GUYS: Any tips for coming when you want to?

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Emart, Mar 29, 2007.

  1. Emart

    Emart New Member

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    I have some great techniques down for lasting as long as I want, I don't even have to stop thrusting or slow down anymore. The problem I have sometimes is after focusing for awhile on NOT cumming it's difficult to get out of that mentality of "don't cum..don't cum...don't cum...don't cum...", after I feel my partner is fully satisfied, I suddenly WANT to cum right there on the spot, but can't. Which quickly leads to thoughts of not being able to and it goes downhill from there, usually because of time constraints. I don't get upset about it, and it's really not a big deal, it would just be nice to be able to finish at the desired time, for my sake, but especially for hers. Not finishing makes her feel unattractive :ugh

    So any tips? Advice? Anything you guys do when the time has come for you to deflate the ol flesh balloon?
     
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    Missionary is one position that will make you come faster, so you could change positions.

    Also concentrate on how nice it feels with each thrust. You may need to emotionally disengage yourself from your partner for a while, thinking about the sensations and how nice it is and how wonderful the caress of her vagina feels against your cock. I don't use condoms, so the sensations are truly remarkable, and it doesn't take much concentration to build my arousal. Sometimes I slow right down, really getting into how it feels, which seems to work for me when it is time to come.

    With a condom, the sensations are numbed, so the paragraph above may not help you if you use them.
     
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    Oooohhh.....nice...

    Got any pics cbrmale?

    :)
     
  4. Fliteskates

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    Cumming when you want is easy once you learn how

    If you are in control, on top or behind her, just go really slow and the sensation from the head of your dick will be enough to make you cum - as long as you allow yourself to enjoy the pleasure and stop worrying about what you think would feel good for her

    If she is on top, just take control of her hips and get yourself off that way...it is alot harder to cum really fast when she is on top I find, but if you squeeze her ass together and work her hips how you want - you should be able to cum within a few mins.

    The worst thing you can do is start doing the porn star thrusts and going as fast as you can... you just make her sore and you are going too fast to enjoy how good it feels.
     
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    Tightening my leg muscles works for me. When I`m ready to cum I do that and in a few mins I cum.
     
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    my boyfriend find thats the hardest one to cum in.
     
  7. cbrmale

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    There's a story I posted about a hypothetical first time, and it has some interesting graphic descriptions of what intercourse feels like to this man at least. It's a long work because I write that way, but when you get to the sex parts of the story it isn't bad.
     
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    Same here. I also increase my breathing.
     
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    Thanks for the tips
     
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    wish I had that problem...
     
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    I just take things nice and slow,good steady thrusts and keep in time with my wife we thrust together so I can tell when she is about to cum and she can tell when I am.
    As a result we cum at exactly the same time almost every time,,with a few exceptions.