Going to have sex with a virgin, what to expect

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  1. sectra95

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    Hey, I'm a virgin and im going to be having sex with another virgin. What shall I expect? Would she be amazing? Would she want it hard? etc.
     
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    Clumsy, lots of guessing, not really knowing what you really like....things like that
     
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    I would expect two arms, two legs and if she's female, two boobs and one vagina.

    Other than that, there's no way of telling what she's going to be like in bed simply based on virginity alone. She could be nervous, clumsy or she may just knock your socks off. How are we to know?
     
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    I would expect to be nervous. I was on the shy side and a little scared.
     
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    Since you both know that you're both virgins, you don't have to act like you're two experts. Communicate a lot, take your time, experiment and explore, bump into each other, say oops, laugh, have fun. I think the chances are good that she's going to want it gentle, not hard.
     
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    I'm sure it won't last very long but it's the conversation afterwards that will improve your next lil get together.

    Go slow and enjoy it. There is no script for first timers.
     
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    Well...

    I've no idea, but tell me afterward so I can make notes.
     
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    Sectra95; Best have no expectations whatsoever.
    It could good, it good be heavenly or it could be a total disaster and in all likelihood the last one.
    Try to remember the first time you tried driving a car.
    Did you manage to control everything smoothly straight away or did you stall, kangaroo hop or hit the bloody fence?
    The thing is to build on the experience ;)
     
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    Hey, I did damn well my first time, thank you very much.

    of course, it was an automatic too
     
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    two words...TRAIN WRECK. The older you get, the more self conscience you get, and when it's X2, very awkward.
     
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    Um, yeah I'm betting she wont want it hard at all. Don't have too high expectations, anything can happen.
    Just take your time, go slow, and preferably make it a gradual thing (my first time HURT but even though i was fingered before hand)
    Go slow, and ask how she's enjoying herself. You'll probably have a great time, or get stage freight. Which is ok. And you'll probably finish really early too. But there's such a thing as round 2 ;).
     
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    Expect to go slow.

    Unless she is odd and wants it fast, sloppy, and "now".

    I know that there are many cases of someone's, particularly a girl's, first time being amazing; but that isn't usually the case.

    Also- while she may be a virgin sexually- there are many factors that could have physiologically diminished her virginhood. That being said- you (and her as well) should treat the situation with care and steadiness.
     
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    I hope you two are discussing something like being "life partners". I also hope you have spent time - at least several days, even weeks or months - getting acquainted with each other's bodies, pleasuring and responding to each other, learning to bring each other to climax, with non-coital activities.

    And I hope that both of you have put some thought and effort into safely and responsibly enjoying your first times with naked genitals and a natural insemination. STD's and contraception are VERY REAL problems that you MUST deal with before having sex - but "condoms" is NOT the only answer. Teens, especially virgins, tend to use condoms incorrectly, cancelling all the "safety" they are expected to provide - and creating a false sense of security.

    My wife and I were both 23 when we traded virginity (she took mine, and gave me hers in return) on our wedding night. Read about it at http://www.sexualforums.com/29819-my-first-time.html#post285866 . The very first time was physiologically rather lousy sex, but emotionally one of the most significant events in our lives.
     
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    LIFE PARTNERS...are you joking. What are you, living in the 1920s? It's simply sex...that's it, sex. There is no way in hell ANYONE should get married before finding out if that person is a sexual match. Yes it is just sex, but the drives need to be compatable if the relationship is going to last.
     
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    Whatever goes down, you're going to want to do it again...I promise.
     
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    The desire to make it work and satisfy your partner is more important.

    Sexual compatibility can wain over the years
     
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    Great advice!!