Going out w an ex

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  1. HotForHoney

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    Has anyone ever gone out with an ex before? How'd it work out?


    I tried with a short term boyfriend once, didn't work. We didn't change, neither did our issues.

    My friends parents got married, had a baby, got divorced. 3 years later (he grew up), they got back together and married almost 30 years now.
     
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    I have never recycled, not saying it can't or won't work but once i was done, that was it
     
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    What about remaining friends with an ex?
     
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    Friends, yes, with a few. Nothing more than that though
     
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    I am friends with one or two of my ex's. The more long term relationships though, I didn't remain friends. Only because there's more of a history there and history generally includes some sort of mess.

    I did "recycle" twice. Once with a boyfriend I'd been with for three years. We broke up, got back together briefly after 3 months, broke up again within three weeks. Nothing changed and the semi-hatred that was there before was still there.

    The other one I dated for about 2 months. We were childhood friends and it was just...awkward lol. We knew everything about each other, our families were friends, his grandmother was my librarian through grade school. We left on mutual terms the first time and months later, got back together. This time I decided that I wanted him to take my virginity. I was an awkward, just graduated 18 year old at the time and wanted to experience it with someone I trusted. We kept that routine up for a little while and split when we went through a sort of...breakdown. He felt he was going nowhere with his life and didn't want to take me down with him.
    We're still really good friends though but nothing will ever happen.

    All in all, I would never get back with a boyfriend again. It's too messy and comforts from before are there when they really shouldn't be. I guess I'm older and wiser lol.
     
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    I am still friends with all my exs, those I still have actual contact with and in a way those I don't.
    Luckily none of my 'break-ups' were acrimonious.
    Three who live in the same village I can meet and chat to just as if we had never been together (although sometimes memories creep into my head and I can't help wondering if the same is happening with them).
    A different two I have got back together with but things still haven't worked out, so we mutually parted again.
    With my eventual wife we were together and separated four times - we we young, 19 > 20, and weren't sure what we wanted - before we found out that we wanted each other.
    Those separations added to our knowledge of life and aided our final decision that we wanted to be together.
    Sometimes, under the right circumstances, separating and getting back together can be good thing, if in the interim you thought things through, it brought you both back to your senses and you could make a final decision, for or against.
     
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    I cannot comment on the grounds that I might incriminate myself; nuff said!
    BTW, I never burn bridges ;)
     
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    What about.... "A guy I know once...."?
     
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    What about a guy I knew once, would that be more correct?
    Have we ever met HFH?
    Thought so ;)
     
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    Tell your story but say it happened to a guy you knew.
     
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    Once upon a time.....
    Some dude I know went out sequentially with all of his exes, one at a time and.....he is still smiling :)
    Moral of the story; never, ever burn bridges!
     
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    Come on... Tell us who it is!
     
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    No, did not remain friends. They were not ugly break ups. We just moved on.

    I would not consider it with any of them.
     
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    Shame that you can't remain friends with somebody you have shared 'intimacies' with.
     
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    Same story here. I never got back into a relationship with any of my exes. I had one last breakup sex but that is all. I don't think it's a good idea.
     
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    I know an older couple that were married and got divorced. They remarried others and raised families. Both their spouses died and they met up years later and remarried. The man (the one I knew) moved to another state to be with her, and as far as I know they are still together and in their 80's now.
     
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    That is so sweet.
     
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