Goals and Increasing Pleasure

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by pbs, Oct 22, 2011.

  1. pbs

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    One of the things we do to keep things interesting is to have regular play days, devoted exclusively to giving each other pleasure, and I've found that goals can be used to enhance that pleasure for both of us. First, it gives me something to think about for the week before our sessions, and second, it has increased my wife's and my levels of pleasure immeasurably. We practice slow sex exclusively.

    She used to be pretty quiet and still when I made her cum, but intentionally trying make her more vocal by teasing, peaking, and denying has made her become quite loud and animated when she cums now. Other physical signs of pleasure that I try to make her do are becoming more animated and vocal during the time before she cums - the buildup and peaks. Also, I like it when she pants and sometimes moans a sigh of relief when I hit just the right spot or finish off a peak by gently letting her down. All of these things are the result of planning, even if on the spur of the moment, and I've never asked her to do any of it - that would ruin it for sure. I think these results have been due to making her "want" to cum so badly that she outwardly expresses her desires, which had been totally out of character for her early on.

    Does anyone else here do this kind of thing?
     
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    Days exclusive to pleasure? I wish we had time for that but that would mean very expensive costs for servants to take care of the family. LOL. We have kids that we drive around and feed and clean up after. For us its just a matter of trying to fit in quickies when we are not exhausted. Enjoy those days of pleasure whilr you can.
     
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    We're both retired and, with few exceptions, spend all day every day together - plenty of time for fun. These are the days I've lived for all my life.
     
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    We have done this, but more when the kids used to spend nights at one of their grandparents. We would look forward to those nights for weeks sometimes, talk about what we would do, rent porn, buy new lingerie. Some of those nights I won't ever forget.

    We are also looking forward to getting the kids out of the house and retiring (5 years!). Nothing but free time to figure out how to fill. Woo hoo!
     
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    About once every other month or so we spend the weekend in a hotel room, for purely sexual purposes. They usually involve taking pictures and making movies, in various sexy outfits, and Bunnie lets me call all the sexual shots. It excites her to give over total control to me, and it excites me because of all the enthusiasm she displays in receiving my "orders" - not just during sex, but during my "recovery" time where she does things to try to get me hard again for more.

    We are fortunate to able to afford it (though being a frequent business traveler I get a lot of these for free). These are wonderful escapes from the real world and helps keep our sex lives exciting.