One of the things we do to keep things interesting is to have regular play days, devoted exclusively to giving each other pleasure, and I've found that goals can be used to enhance that pleasure for both of us. First, it gives me something to think about for the week before our sessions, and second, it has increased my wife's and my levels of pleasure immeasurably. We practice slow sex exclusively. She used to be pretty quiet and still when I made her cum, but intentionally trying make her more vocal by teasing, peaking, and denying has made her become quite loud and animated when she cums now. Other physical signs of pleasure that I try to make her do are becoming more animated and vocal during the time before she cums - the buildup and peaks. Also, I like it when she pants and sometimes moans a sigh of relief when I hit just the right spot or finish off a peak by gently letting her down. All of these things are the result of planning, even if on the spur of the moment, and I've never asked her to do any of it - that would ruin it for sure. I think these results have been due to making her "want" to cum so badly that she outwardly expresses her desires, which had been totally out of character for her early on. Does anyone else here do this kind of thing?