"giving in" to rape in front of SO

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    As far back as I can remember, I've been incredibly turned on by the thought of a woman, who is involved in reluctant or non-consentual sex, "giving in" to the pleasure and her lust. The thought of her going from begging for it to stop, to begging for it not to stop turns me on so very much. A little more recently, my fetish has evolved to it taking place in the presence of her SO, who is helpless to do anything, and if she is fighting with herself between her lust and her guilt, its even better. Most recently, my fetish has evolved to be about my fiancee. The fantasy usually goes something like this:

    Someone rapes her while I'm tied down and watching. She's begging for him to stop, but slowly starts to get wetter and wetter and eventually begins to fuck him back, still asking for it to stop. She gets more and more into it, wrapping her legs and arms around him, this time asking "not in front of my fiance..." feeling so guilty for enjoying it that tears are rolling down her face and sobs punctuate her pleasure moans. Soon enough she looses all control and begs him to cum inside her unprotected pussy, something that she doesn't let her own fiancee do, while she is rocked with an insanely powerful orgasm and stares at me with a look that says, "I'm so sorry.. but I can't help it. It feels so good..." and she kisses him on the mouth and asks for more of his cum in her pussy.

    Here's where I need some help/advice: I have no idea how to express this fetish to my fiancee. Its not something I would ever feel comfortable doing, I just think it would make good pillow talk. We currently role-play sometimes and dabble in rape fantasy and she know that it drives me crazy when she starts to want it and starts to "give in" but we've really never discussed it. How do I bring it up to her without making her feel like I don't treasure her, which couldn't be farther from the truth. In reality, id never be okay with her giving herself to someone else. But then why is this fantasy so sexy to me? And is there anywhere that anyone knows I can get stories or videos about this subject, or possibly a group of people with the same fantasy? Is there a name for this fetish? Its specificly about her "giving in", not just about her being with another man. It has to start out being non concentual. Any comments or help would be greatly appreciated.
     
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    nice fantasy :) ....except for the kissing him on the mouth part.

    that's why it's called a "fantasy". there are plenty of fantasies people have but would never think of actually acting on. it's all good in your imagination, not so much when it's actually played out.

    i think your best bet would to just....bring it up. yall have already talked about rape fantasies before so there's your open door. tell her just what you told us. you would never truly want it to become reality, but the thought of it turns you on. not a big deal.

    do some searches in google and see what you come up with but im not sure there is a specific term for this kind of thing
     
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    I don't think that she would have a problem with my fantasy, but we have both struggled with some insecurities in the past, and I just really don't want her to feel like she's not important to me.
     
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    And thanks for the compliment. :)
     
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    i think being open and honest with her and being able to share things like this is a good thing and shouldn't make her feel insecure. the fantasy is about her after all, maybe she'll see that as a good thing? this is not uncommon, the fantasy of wanting to see your SO be fucked by someone else, and i dont think those people don't care about their partners.

    you might just be overthinking it :p
     
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    :) you may be right. I'm on military orders through the end of the week, but when I get home this weekend, I'll talk to her about it. I'm still scouring the web for media, but its difficult to be specific about what I'm looking for in few enough words for google to help me out much, lol. "Stockholm syndrome" kinda touches on it, but it really doesn't cover it.
     
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    Consensual non-consent. It's a term used in a BDSM scene when you are giving consent to another person to do whatever they want even if you say no, more or less. Like NH up there has suggested, talk to her. It may be something shes interested in herself.
     
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    I mean, we currently play around with this, like I said, but I'm just looking for the "non consent" to completely be gone about halfway through and she's begging for it, in character, and the forced aspect is gone. I think it would be easier to bring it up to her if I showed her some videos or stories that specificly dealt with this particular aspect. I don't know, I may be beating a dead horse, but I know there has to be more information about this out there. Thanks for all the help so far y'all.
     
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    This is my favorite fantasy! Although I also enjoy when the non-consent aspects lasts the whole way through. But what you are describing, the concept of being so very turned on, so very excited and just not being able to stop despite trying as hard as you can... that is what I love! The mix of extreme emotions involved in wrestling with your feelings and the incredible physical sensations of amazing sex. That is potent stuff!

    I call it force fantasy; many people use the term rape fantasy but that isn't really correct because it is not real rape. There are lots of websites that offer porn dedicated to this type of fantasy although I have only found one I really like. It has great videos and the actors are good looking and some of them can act pretty well. Am I allowed to give the name here? You can also always check out my blog too as it's dedicated to this fantasy. As I said, that's my favorite fantasy and I think I am addicted!

    As far as sharing these thoughts with your fiancee goes, I would start by asking her about her fantasies. If you can find out together what turns each of you on, it may feel less scary and threatening than just telling her what you like. Also, you can make it very clear that it's a fantasy and you do not, in any way, hope that what you are describing will actually happen.

    Good luck and let us know how it goes!
     
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    Totally awesome! Could you PM me the website?
     
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    Will do :)