[Ask a Girl] Give her an orgasm

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  1. jdtorr

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    I need help and advice to give her a vaginal orgasm. She can't. It's not an issue about how long I can last. I can go to town on her and try several positions. She just can't. Clitoral orgasms are a different story
     
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    Is it possible that she can't have a vaginal orgasm? Any stories of woman who found the secret? Any tips?
     
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    You might be on to something there. Many women simply cannot have vaginal orgasms, don't have g-spots, or haven't found them yet. I suggest you do a search under 'G-Spot' if you want to read some stories of how some of our members achieved vaginal orgasm.
     
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    For the longest time (years) my wife did not have a vaginal orgasm. It was likely ignorance on both our parts about how things worked. After reading up on the g-spot and giving it some practice, she had one. Now she has vaginal orgasms pretty much whenever we want to. They are her most powerful O's.
     
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    puss in boots i agree, i've felt it and played with hers. strathmore, i think it has to do with the will power as well. if she thinks that she can't have one, she probably won't. i've tried a lot. she loves is from behind but cant ever seem to get to that point. i need the brownie points thought so i can give her a much better feeling, something she's never felt before.
     
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    I've been sexually active for over 20 years and have only had one orgasm from just PIV intercourse. I was on top and it took a very long time and it was so mild, it wasn't really worth all the work.

    For much of my adult life, I felt as though something must have been wrong with me because I could not orgasm just from penis pistoning, like the porn stars. (I was too dumb to know they were faking it.) I could climax from masturbation and oral sex just fine, so I knew I was capable. I was confused and ashamed about it, and didn't tell the men I was with that I wasn't coming when they were screwing me. I learned to do a killer impersonation of a girl coming and that was how I got by.

    When I met my husband, I trusted him enough to let him know I could not come from just a penis in my vagina. He understood and did his best to get me off in other ways.

    It wasn't until a few years ago that I had my first g-spot orgasm. It's a feat I've only been able to achieve a handful of times. My husband has tried to give me one on many ocassions, but its not happened yet. I can still only do it when I am alone for some reason, probably because it takes a good hour of g-spot stimulation to push me over the edge.

    In any case.....the orgasms I have from having my clit stimulated are much more intense for me than the g-spot ones, so I haven't worked too hard on my vaginal orgasm techniques.

     
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    Does she have any signs of an orgasm such as any muscle contractions? Vaginal Os are a different breed then clitoral ones, more complex, not as consistent and feel different too (or so I've been told). They can turn on later in life sometimes.
     
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    Mosts women can't have vaginal orgasms and need direct stimulation of the clitoris or g-spot to rogasm. Intercourse is not good at achieving stimulation of either. My wife has had a few vaginal orgasms, only when she's been on top. She always has clitoral orgasms, and is very orgasmic. Personally, I don't really search for vaginal orgasms because I know they are extremely elusive. I believe that once some couples have found a key to them, they can have vaginal orgasms almost every time they have sex. Clearly they are there, but very, very rare.
     
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    I should clarify that it was initially, and still is, digital stimulation of the g-spot that gets my wife to orgasm non-clitorally on a consistent basis, although she does orgasm from penetration, but only after significant prior stimulation. It's been said many times on here that everyone is different. Keep working at it until you find your secret.
     
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    My wife rarely has an O from simple screwing except from the cowgirl position as we fit togeter perfectly and she can hit her G in the position.

    With that said, she has had an O from penetration, and from anal, but those are the O's that start in the mind. If I take a long time and tease and play and as they say "make love" to her by worshiping every square inch of skin, she can reach that mental orgasm. We talk alot during sex, I'll be telling her what I want to do to her, and that really gets her worked up into a frinzy.

    O's from oral are easy. But she was beside of herself when I gave her her first G-spot O. I like those because she squirts if the session goes for a while.

    Study the G-spot as mentioned earlier.
     
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    Indagroove, will you marry me? ;)

    A patient lover is a fantastic lover and you sound like a keeper. :bow
     
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    Thanks for the replies, I'm going to try different things tonight to see what I can come up with. Maybe a different mental approach
     
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    Ya know it is said that over 75% of women can't orgasm just from penetration alone. So don't be surprised if it never happens. It's fun trying though.
     
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    Thanks for the proposal, but I am spoken for :)

    I think the sexiest sight in the world is my girl getting off ! Can't wait to get home again. Only 7 days to go !
     
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    We went at it for a while and she just said it hurt and she got dry on me =[
     
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    Always have lube on hand, ALWAYS.
     
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    Apparently there is a wide variation to what can considered "normal".
    I have been very lucky that my partners have all been both clitoral & vaginal penetrative orgasmic, bar one and that puzzled me until now but I have not given up on that yet!
    In my longest lasting relationship (+30 years) we would orgasm simultaneously almost every time, well I would wait for her and then it would happen. I thought that was common and normal.
    Another lady; she multi orgasms almost at will and with her I wait until she is exhausted then have my turn. I suspect that she is exceptional.
    Another she could only come clitoral, that is until we found her G spot but that took over a year.
    Now that she knows where it is and how to get me there she can come in 5 minutes flat.
    In this instance perseverance and patience paid off.
    In the last case well the jury is still out to determine if she can or can't but it is my firm belief that she will eventually providing we don't make a big issue out of it.
    Here's hoping anyway.
     
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    There are various statistics around, but these seem fair. I think they're from Hite's research.

    Sex research has shown that about 95 percent of men nearly always have orgasm from intercourse while only about 25 percent to 30 percent of women do. Another 30-some-odd percent of women never have orgasm from intercourse, and a middle 30 percent to 40 percent report having them sometimes.