[Ask a Girl] Girls I need some advice!

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  1. rbi911

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    Ok so here is the preface to my question. I own two companies and work another full time job so I work 16hrs a day, 6 days a week. Yes I know this sounds crazy but I plan on being retired by 35 and am well on my way. With a schedule like this it is hard to meet women and find a woman that understands my schedule. While I have no problem picking women up, I am just not sure how to approach the whole relationship thing. I don't want a billion different partners, but I don't have alot of time to devote to someone. When I meet a lot of girls I can immediately tell they see dollar signs and that would be fine if they were upfront with a we can have a lot of fun attitude, but they all claim they want a relationship and I do not wanna be in a relationship with someone just cus they are attracted to my bank account. I am a little lost and need some advice on what to do.
     
  2. SWOJLO

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    Just rent some until you're retired.
     
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    Hookers buddy.

    As your working 16 hours a day you can't seriously have a relationship.

    Just pay a hooker, then get to bed ready for work the following day
     
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    All choices have consequences. You have decided to put work before relationships.
    Apparently you will have to wait on the latter until you have made your fortune.

    You only live once.
     
  5. rbi911

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    I refuse to believe that there are not any more women out there that understand a man being a professional and appreciate a man that is driven and knows what he wants.
     
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    I think you are trying to have your vagina and eat it too, rbi911. I think that in your heart you must know that it's a rare woman indeed that wants to date a guy that works 6 days a week for 16 hour days.

    You just don't have time for a relationship. I think hiring escorts is a good compromise. That way you can get the sex you crave when you want it and don't have to bother with the relationship thing at all
     
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    Depending on who you ask, they'd be better off just getting a dog and hiring hookers.
     
  8. Alwayslearningsex

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    Sooner or later a person who WANTS a relationship will show you she wants it, and it's not a thing where a partner waits for you whatever time it takes to get it started seriously.

    You must decide between a serious relationship, or full time fortune building that takes all of your time.
    A relationship means taking down time, getting to know her, maintaining the bond. The others tell you to find part time women you have no regret of losing and letting go. For what you choose to do I can only agree with them here.

    Ah! Next is if a partner wants kids with you, you will be the dad the kids don't know well, you miss all the special milestones and events.

    Pick one or the other. Not an ultimatum, but good advice.
    If a woman leaves, tired of being alone in the relationship, then you have to pay .... goes counter to building your nest egg.
     
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    You'll soon be a rich guy. I know a few multi millionaires. One gave me this advice..."if it flies, floats or fucks.... rent it!
     
  10. Alwayslearningsex

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    The 3 F's of life to rent to achieve Fortune ...... Float, Fly, Fuck
     
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    women have needs...the woman you find, will find someone to fill those needs while youre away ...and you will be away almost always...just make it easy on yourself and pay for it when you have time for it..... and wait to find a woman until you have time for her.
     
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    There will be lots of women who understand your motivation and desire to work and achieve abundances, and that can compromise a relationship with your busy schedule.

    If all these women care about is your money, then kick em to the curb dude! They don't really sound like mature enough women especially if they cannot understand your schedule. It doesn't even sound like what you need. You probably need a woman who has her shit together and is taking care of herself and isn't reliant on your money at all!

    On your journey to find a good relationship and abundance and riches, you should not settle for any less, because you know damn well what you want. Just say no, women should not be selfish, and if they are selfish then they do not deserve you.

    A relationship can do just fine when your schedule is busy. If she has a problem with that, then kick her to the curb and find someone who is just like you are. You just have to accept you probably won't mix with needy women who have no desire to do anything in life. You need someone who lives the same way of life that you do.

    It sounds like you are an independent guy and you have your shit together. You need an equally independent woman who doesn't whine all the time about how you are never there, and I'm sorry folks, but that does exist. You need a woman who also has other things to do in her life and is perfectly fine with doing those things by herself. Someone who has things to do as well.
    You would be better off with finding a woman who is also determined in life, who has a job of her own, who has equal passions and who can truly understand your way of life, because her way of life is exactly the same. I know tons of busy go getter people who have amazing relationships, and they try to schedule both of their busy schedules to the best of their possibility at the same time, so that whenever they do get time off, they have at least one day together. And it doesn't fucking bother them at all. The lack of time they have together actually seems to fire up their passion for each other, and also they are more free then any other couples i have ever seen, because they have worked out their relationship so that their own personal lives and freedom are equally as important as the relationship.
    I even know couples that have careers in which they travel to all sorts of places on regular basis, hardly ever get to see each other, and maybe one time out of the whole month, they just happen to be in the same country, and arrange to get a hotel together. They text, they communicate, even though they are never there. They are working in order to eventually be able to settle down and have an amazing life later on.
    You just need to find a woman who is as into her career as you are. And that does exist.
    Not all women are 100% reliant on the man to be there to support them.

    The most important thing for me in a relationship is to preserve that freedom and that our personal lives do not become eachothers life. That is just one thing about relationships I have never understood. Both people should be able to live out their passions. I don't want to be around him 24/7, because I have shit to do. Yes, I love him, yes I care about the relationship, but I also care about everything else in life too. I wouldn't NEVER put a bunch of boundaries on him like "nope, you no longer have time for basketball, you can't ever hang out with your friends, you can only work these many hours" that is just bullshit, and I would expect him to do the same and let me have my own freedom too.

    I love men who have their shit together and that are determined and motivated. I don't like men who never do anything in life. I would NOT survive in a relationship that was soley based on doing everything together. I need my space. I want time for myself to achieve my own goals, to achieve in work for myself and I certainly don't want to have to rely on a man to do that. I want him to be able to go out and do whatever it is he needs to do so that I can go out and do whatever it is I need to do.
    And I don't give a flying shit if men are wealthy or not because I can take care of myself, as long as they are working towards their life passions and have goals.

    Lastly, who says that you have to be the provider in a relationship or marriage? It just doesn't sound like the type of thing you really want. You are doing all of this for yourself. It sounds like you would find a lot more happiness with a woman who is independent enough and doesn't need you to provide for her. Can you only imagine that? I can just see it now, I bet you will find one hell of an awesome chick, one that will retire around the same time as you, and will not ever accept any of your money because she has worked her ass off for her own. By that time both of you will be fucking millionaires haha.

    What it comes down to is you just have to find the right person. And you have to find someone who has the same lifestyle, and desires as you do.
    Even if you don't find someone with the same lifestyle, you can sure as hell find someone who can adapt to it. It's not impossible.
    My own parent's for example have the longest standing marriage in this whole community. My dad was a farmer, working 24/7, she was just the house wife, and their relationship has always been just fine.

    And don't be worried or get your hopes down, because it does exist. We find what we need, and you'll find it when you least expect it, and usually when you aren't looking desperately for it LoL.
     
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    I completely dispute this ! :D
    Yeah women have needs, but why on earth would that mean she would find someone else, just because he's gone when she wants to have sex? That's what sex toys were invented for. There are lots of ways to deal with it and keep the sex life amazing without having to cheat on someone, good lord.

    Do all of you immediately assume that all women cheat, and that all women are incapable of being independent? This forum is sometimes crazy. And that's come from a sex addict LoL.
     
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    No you do not. I'm starting to think that no one on this forum even comprehends what it is like to have a healthy relationship. You can have an amazing relationship while having a full time job and there are MILLIONS of people in this world that do.
     
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    should have been more specific ...sorry ... what i meant was emotional relationship related needs......not just sexual... i spoke from my own experience...i was a workaholic for years...once working 4 months straight without a day off...i have had a 56 hour workday...stopping only to eat...(and use the restroom..lol..)....my wife of 20 years put up with it for a while but eventually needed someone that was "there"...and eventually found someone...what i was told by everyone i knew, and every counsellor we went to ...was that her "needs" werent being met.....

    i also should not have said "women have needs" when i meant "partners have needs" as it works the other way around as well. didnt meant to ruffle any feathers out there,...and in no way did i say, or imply , "women all will cheat" as its not gender specific...
     
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    absolutely you can have a full time job and a healthy relationship....men and women go off to war for months and yrs and still have healthy relationships.....but i dont think thats what he's talking about here...he's talking about turning the relationship "on" when he wants it on and "off" whenever he wants it off, and i cant imagine finding that acceptable to be on the receiving end of...you know?
     
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    bottom line here......is im responding to an ask a girl question....so im out....ladies , carry on....
     
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    Like 12 BBsays and working to the point a relationship takes a backseat is where the reasoning is on this one.
    I totally agree it's possible to have a full time job and a relationship.
     
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    Full time work is 40hrs a week, 5 days a week. Working 96hrs a week as this guy suggests he is doing leave no time at all for a relationship.

    something's gotta give....
     
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    Somewhere on the planet there may be an equally career orientated woman who would find this the match made in Heaven.