[Ask a Guy] Girls & casual sex - whore or good for them??

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  1. kay1968

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    I love sex and variety certainly adds spice, though I'm picky, but I'm intrigued to know how you guys see those gals that like sex as much as you do but have more than one sexual partner?

    Be completely honest but don't be mean about it.

    Ta :)
     
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    I see such a woman as liberated and true to her feelings. Sexy as hell too.

    Multiple partners. Not just for men anymore.
     
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    Not sure how you'd get the most from sex unless you got to know them well first....
    Multiple partners and casual sex might be fun but i've found the BEST sex comes from concentrating on getting to know one person, their body, and finding chemistry.... that doesn't happen over night.
     
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    I love chicks like that, you have no idea how many chicks I pick up at the beachh who dig my tats etc.. take them back to my pad and fuck hard all night, then then next weekend you see them at a party or somewhere hookin up with a diff guy.. There is heaps of pussy out there so its good that we all get some variety... We all learn some new positions on the way also which is a bonus as well..
     
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    I mostly agree... though like the BEST food, it's not something I necessarily want to live off of exclusively. Variety is just better than a mono-diet, no matter how good that one food may be. Casual sex while perhaps not as fulfilling as meaningful sex with someone you know well and/or care for deeply is still A LOT of fun in its own right. Also for myself, I can be in a relationship with someone I care for, have the BEST sex with them, and still not lose my appetite for casual sex with other, multiple people.

    Actually being sexual with one person exclusively for a long period has invariably caused our sex life to get boring and dull, but add some variety (for her as well as I), and somehow our appreciation for having sex with each other stays amazingly fresh.

    I just enjoy sex on many levels, whatever level my partner and I happen to be at, and find that it's most enjoyable if I don't have a preconcieved notion of what the sex 'should' be like or attachment to it being the best, and just appreciate it for what it is. I would never turn down a sexual experience because I didn't have a strong emotional connection to a person. Physical attraction is plenty of incentive on its own!
     
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    Thank you for your responses, it's nice to hear your side of things. I'm not quite the 'every weekend a new guy' and I've enjoyed being with the same partner for years and still having great sex but at the moment I'm enjoying being free to indulge and must admit that it has been great fun and wouldn't have missed it for the world but that doesn't mean I'll be doing this for a long time, just for now ;)
     
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    A friend of mine recently spoke angrily about how some guys he knows would sleep with an "easy" girl and then call her a whore afterward (presumably behind her back). This is a kind of sentiment I just don't get. I don't have any close friends who behave like this, so I'm not sure how they think, but I sometimes wonder if it is a clash between upbringing and human nature. If someone has grown up in a family where the general feeling impressed on the children is that sex is shameful, and should only occur within a marriage, then this mindset can be hard to shake. At the same time, most men will still be attracted to women who "show off" a little, no matter if they like it or not. I think this may create some kind of mental conflict for certain people, and in the worst cases (fundamentalist Middle-Eastern countries for instance), it can lead to extreme violence.

    On a different note: be careful if you think one of the guys you sleep with has romantic feelings for you. If he realizes afterward that it really meant nothing to you, then it could really hurt his feelings. (this goes both ways, of course)
     
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    (Him)I'm all for women who would like plenty of different sexual partners BUT most women I know like this have a major issue with using protection, fair enough sex may be a lot better without the use of a condom but your exposing yourself to whatever the other person has STD wise. Chances are they may be clean but why risk it?
    Let me list a few excuses usually used:-

    Im allergic to condoms.
    Usually a lie. I know I will get a few people coming on here later on moaning that they ARE allergic to latex. That's great and bad luck for you, but go get the latex free condoms available from your GP should your allergy be proven. Think over this little thought, Spending a little extra on non latex condoms is a pain:uhh: but HIV and herpes are worse:eek

    Im on the injection/pill/have an implant.
    So theres an amazing chance of not getting pregnant yay! Oh but wait what's that around the corner again? Oh yeah! thats right! it's Mr AIDS:dgrin

    I have low self esteem/lack confidence.
    That's bad luck hun, you should start looking for a guy that will treat you right to boost your self esteem aswell as satisfy your sexual urges, in the mean time try not to have so many different men so that you get a reputation as you may then find it hard to attact the decent sort of guy you obviously need.

    To all those women who enjoy many sexual partners while practicing safe sex I'm fine with and rage you to enjoy it just hold something back for when you actually want to get with a person you are going to be faithful to.:bow
     
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    My personal opinion is women who can go do what they want regardless of outside perspective are quite exceptional. Unfortunately we still hold too many double standards in society today. Ex. Say I bang my wife, ex wife, friend, and two other girls on Sat. Come sun morning I'll be forever immortalized as a sexual god to my male friends. Now say that same Sat my gf is on her own doing the exact thing. My phone would b blowing up with ppl trying to rat her out for cheating. And sun morning as I'm getting high fives and quite possibly being named towns greatest super hero. She would b the nastiest sloppiest and so on and so on. Stupidest shit to me. It's just sex ppl. Fact of the matter is YOU AND YOURSELF ALONE should be the only opinion that has any power to impact you negatively. Relax it's just sex.
     
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    I agree with Sandish. With men, it's viewed as conquests. With women, it's being cheap. That's a bunch of BS. As long as you have control and you are responsible, do what you want to do. Man or woman, as long as you are comfortable with your sexual identity then go have fun. It's all about gaining experience and creating great memories. You won't know who you are until you try some things.
     
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    I agree with the spirit of this statement but the effort to attain multiple sexual partners isn't something that really takes much effort for women.
    That all being said I'm all for women having had multiple partners before, because frankly, i go to bed to throw down, not teach. But I am territorial in the sense that as long as you are sleeping with me you don't sleep with someone else...if you feel the need to, go ahead but I don't backtrack so I'm now off limits.
     
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    I didn't read anyone's input, so for me if a woman loves sex, good for her.
    Brings me to say it's the same as guys, and not implying anything here saying to avoid double standards.

    I would not mind meeting an inexperienced woman, actually rather that than a prude one with experience.
     
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    I don't have an issue with more than one but once it's a different person all the time that's a different story.
     
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    Not a fan of double standards, whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

    I just expect a woman to at least tell me I 'm pretty 1st. ;)

    And would it kill you women to call the next day. :confused:o_O:confused:

    Don't make me shame you with a tag :p:p:p
     
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    Don't you have multiple posts about 3 ways? It seems its ok for you to want to sleep with someone else but not your girl?
     
  16. Sagittarius84

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    No it's not ok and that's never been my assertion, in fact what Ive specified in most of my 3some related posts is that i wouldn't be interested unless it was truly a team effort by me and my wife. I think what you're referring to is my not being open to another man in the 3some specifically because I will not engage in sexual activity with anyone I'm not attracted to, which involves all men and a percentage of women. I hold my wife to the same standards i hold myself, literally, meaning there's no sleeping with other men, and can only engage with other women with the spouse being involved. Being she has bi tendencies it seems like the most amicable arrangement for a potentially polyamorous setting.
     
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    No problem with at all. My wife enjoys multiple men as sex partners.