I'm in an 8 month old relationship with a woman I've known for many years before this. It's pretty obvious I am the less sexually experienced one (but for clarifications sake, we're both over 30). It generally doesn't really matter as we're generally very discussive about every issue, be it sexual or not. In short, the sex is really good for both. Well, at least I enjoy it and she does too and we go at it like rabbits, or she lies very convincinly Other than the above mentioned oral sex, though. I noticed some while back she really isn't into it when I do it, and I asked about it. Without really getting into the nitty gritty details about this discussion, I pretty much got told she doesn't like it when I do it, but has had no problems with other men pleasing her this way in the past. I asked what I should do differently and what would make it more pleasurable, am I too soft/hard etc. and I get the answer: "I don't know" ...and that was pretty much the end of this discussion right there (if you disregard the other few "I don't know"s. I don't know am I thin skinned or does it pertain to my inexperience regarding these things, but that was in all honesty, pretty f***ing insulting. I really don't understand what the problem is here? I'd like to give and I'm sure she'd like to receive, but what the hell am I supposed to do since I really don't know what the problem is and how to rectify it? Other than of course taking this issue up again...but I'd rather ask about this one first. PS. Sorry for my english. I guess this post came a bit more blunt than it should sound and it certainly simplifies some things, but I am having a hard time conveying everything.