[Ask a Girl] Girlfriend has sex with another man fantasy

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  1. gentlegent

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    Hi all,

    I'd like some help.

    I have a really big thing about my girlfriend having sex with another man. Something to do with seeing her in lots of pleasure! But apart from that don't know why :)

    She finds it very horny but doesn't want to do it for real.

    I'm deliberately not being pushy as I'd never want to push her into doing it. However I find it very horny and it drives me a bit crazy lol

    I do love her though so it's not something I'd want to split over.

    Any thoughts / help would be appreciated!

    Thanks,

    GG.
     
  2. igor

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    I don't know - is it Spring fever or what, but I have seen so many threads in various places lately about this very thing. Why not make a video of you two doing it and watch it. I can't imagine wanting to see my gal doing it with someone else.
     
  3. HardRocker

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    I don't know what it is. We've been going on here at SF for years and all of a sudden everybody wants somebody else to fuck his wife. I can promise you now, nobody else is going to be invited to fuck my wife. Maybe it's inspired by that Fuck My Wife video series that's been going on in porn for a while now.

    Now if she wanted to eat pussy with another chick, I would be a lot more interested, but that ain't gonna happen. Nor is she going to get an urge to want me to fuck one of her friends. That would be good if not for the problem of reciprocation.

    Do a search gentlegent. If none of those threads answers your questions, come on back and see if the crowd here can give you what you need.
     
  4. Drakonnen

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    Yeah, this really does seem to be going around, and I used to think I was the only one or very unusual at least.

    My advice is keep talking it over, preferably in bed. Have fun with the fantasy of it for now until she gets more comfortable with it.

    One thing you can do that we enjoyed was talking about her past experiences with other guys in bed, letting her relive and retell the details and me get to ask questions, while we're either playing with each other or having sex. That can help move along to talking about other things.

    If you don't have one already, buy her a sex toy, preferably one that looks realistic, and use it as part of the fantasy, as though it's some other guy's dick. If you're into the idea like a lot of folks seem to be, you may want to get one larger than yourself for the thrill of it for both of you.

    Depending on how comfortable you both are with all that, you can be more verbal about it when playing it out as opposed to just thinking about it, and if you really want to push the envelope, if there is a particular guy she is into, or that you two fantasize about in this regard, let her call the toy by that name.

    In our case, that has led to some pretty wild nights of my wife talking about a particular ex-bf in bed (one still around that she is friendly with no less) in conjunction with using a larger toy, describing past experiences and even fantasizing about some new one, which was a big start in creating the atmosphere of possibilities. :)

    Just be sure you know what you both want, and then double check before doing anything!
     
  5. Barbwire

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    You do see a lot of posts about this topic. What you don't see are a lot of them about people that have done it and had no issues in their relationships afterwards.

    Mere coincidence? I think not.
     
  6. suite91

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    OK I'll take the bait. We've done it. Repeatedly. And will do it again. Our relationship is fantastic to say the least. Swinging/Hotwifing has never had a negative impact on our lives.

    Are we in the minority? ABSOLUTELY!

    Opening your relationship to include new sexual partners is dangerous business. Experienced swingers can get tripped up in the unexpected minefield.

    I've already PMed the OP but for the rest of you who are intrigued by the fantasy, think long and hard, talk a lot with your partner, roll play the fantasy, read all you can, then decide if you want to roll the dice - once it's done it can't be undone.
     
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    Thanks for the voice of experience, it beats some of our guesses in all of these recent threads. I hope he comes back to read your comment.
     
  8. Barbwire

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    I KNEW you'd go for it, Suite! I was going to use you as an example of a couple that it has worked for, but like you said, you are in the minority for sure. That is why I said you don't see a "lot" of people coming on here and saying it worked out for them.
     
  9. gentlegent

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    Many thanks to you all for your replies. Very helpful although as usual in life, no holy grail of information to fix my dilema :).

    Thanks to all.
     
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    Just to add my own opinion, where you said , now if she wanted to go down on another woman , I would be more turned on. Why is that? I mean, why is it that most men , if they are truthful, would Love to be in a fmf threesome with their partner and another woman, but when it comes to the woman wanting a mfm then its taboo? Isnt that just full of ' double standards"?
     
  11. Drakonnen

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    Yes, it really is, though people should really only do what they are comfortable with, and not all of us men are afraid of an mfm, heh. In fact, reading these forums, and other forums, I'd say that people in general are becoming more open to the idea of mfm threesomes.

    The odd thing about it is, though, although you hear a lot more about the fantasy of two girls with one guy in popular media and such, and its definitely the type of threesome people talk about more, in college, the vast majority of threesomes I heard of that did occur, at least in the Greek system, were usually comprised of one girl and two guys, and the only times I've been close to having a threesome personally or skated along that edge were with my girlfriend and another guy, and also once where a friend's girlfriend brought up the idea in relation to her, my friend and I.

    I don't want to over generalize, but I think that generally men are more up for anything that gets them laid compared to most women, so it only takes one girl to say yes to an mfm threesome (and since she is getting two guys she presumably wants, its not as hard to convince her) where as for an fmf, you need to convince two, lol.