Hey all, I have been going out with my GF for 4 years now. She is great and I love being with her. When we first met in college she was very horny and wanted sex all the time (although she never did like giving head). She gives me head about once month but never spontaneously. As of lately, her libido has been very weak. She has been on the pill for about 2 years so maybe that is part of the problem, but it feels like I am always the one in charge in bed. We have had a talk, and I made sure that I was very respectful of her feelings because I didn't want her to feel bad. It hasn't really worked. I told her I wanted her to take charge in bed and to tell me what she wants, but she says she wants nothing. She is willing to do things for me, but it's obvious that she doesn't enjoy them one bit which turns me off and makes me want to stop. She claims to be "grossed out" by stuff also sometimes. I'm willing to do anything if it makes her happy. I even asked her if she has any sexual fantasies and she says no? Is that normal for a person to have NO fantasies? I don't know what to do? I love her very much and the sex is good, I just want it to be better, and to be honest, I need to feel a little more wanted (maybe even used for her sexual pleasure lol). Anyway, just trying to figure out how to pep up her libido and make her want to jump my bones. Thanks.