hey all, me and my gf have been having sex for about 3 months now. we were both virgins when we met. the first time we did it, we took it really slow and everything, but in the end, i got all the way in, and she asked if we could stop. that's fine, i understood. but the thing is...we've been doing it for 3 months, and she still says it's still really painful for her, once i'm inside, and she's loosened up a bit, it's good, but for about 5-10 minutes she's in big pain, it takes me about 5 mintues to get all in her because i have to go so slow. is she just smaller than usual? my penis is above average, but nothing huge or anything, so i dont' think that'd be the problem. i've talked to her, asking if she's aroused enough, and she is. we have extensive foreplay, she gets VERY wet and all. is there anything i can do to help her? we use condoms, i lube it up on me, and she uses lube on her also. i've asked if she would like me to make her cum before sex, but she said no, as she wouldn't be in the mood for sex after she came, so that doesn't really help. i havn't tried fingering her at all before sex, so it's kinda like going from nothing to trying to get my penis in her, would it help if i finger her a bit, and maybe lick her a little before sex?\ any help would be appreciated, because she really doesn't enjoy sex, just because of the pain factor, and i really dont' like hurting her like that, but we both want to have sex.