I've been looking into bdsm more and wanting my husband to be really rough with me. Biting, clawing, slapping, name calling, being chained up, etc. He already knows my limits and we have a safe word. How can I get him to relax more and just go for it? We have time to talk about it more since we really can't do many of these things at home right now since we have a studio. Our date night is in May and I really want him to do these things to me among other things, it's all I can think about. Any suggestions?