[Ask a Girl] getting hard for second time

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  1. thisnthat

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    My wife would love to get to cum for a second time. After i cum i go soft :mad it takes about fours to get hard agin.. So looking for answers from the girls on how they get there man hard again or keep him hard.
     
  2. Paula

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    To make her cum a second time, or more is possible. Nothing new about that.

    But for you as a man getting hard is a normal problem. You can take your time or she can help you.

    One technique is that she takes your dick in her mouth. But you must keep a standing position doing so. A hanging penis will sooner erect.

    The second is that she puts a finger up your ass after penetration. Maybe she can get you so horney you will shoot 2 times
     
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    What about the other ways you can help her cum that don't require a hard cock?
     
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    You are better off asking men what they do, or what works for them. I have no idea what it's like to have a dick, but I do know some men need "recovery" time after orgasm no matter how turned on they are, but apparently the male orgasm is a separate thing from ejaculation and you can learn to control them.

    Well I know men who can cum repeatedly in a row, and when I ask them how they have learned that talent they just say it takes much practice, a few can do it naturally, so i'm not sure what they do to get there, but I sure appreciate it. And I was with men who get hard a few seconds afterwards.
    As for the ones who don't, they are usually tired and wanting to eat or sleep.

    I don't know, I have the opposite problem with men, they get hard no matter what I do.

    I never really had the experience of needing to try to turn someone on, the men I was with always got turned on super easily. There was only one time in my entire life that I had to suck on a soft dick to make it hard. Most men get hard just by looking at me, and in that intense moment of realizing "we need to fuck now" before or after, we both do a lot to turn each other on, most times so into it i dont even think of what I do.
    Sometimes I just have to look in his eyes and he's ready to go again. Even if I just ask him for more it's enough to turn him on. I have no clue.
    I think even if I just poked some men I was with they would be hard.

    I don't know, but when im turned on I get so intensely into it, and my partner feels a connection to my tantric aura of lust, and if i do something as simple as communicate with touch, they know what it means and are instantly hard.
    This sucks, because sometimes I do this without meaning to. Like, i turn people on without the intention of doing so and I despise it :mad.
     
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    well the obvious would be to get her off once or twice before you fuck her....
    But you also may want to look into learning about male multiple orgasms , as our wise, resident sexaholic said above. it will teach you control and may help your situation...
     
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    she need's to play with your ass more that alway's works for me try it you will see
     
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    I think has more to do with the fact that you personally like it :D
    It certainly does not work for me.

    To the OP: what turns you on? To get hard a second time, I find that I have to be a bit selfish. If we do exactly what I feel like, it sometimes work. If you feel like playing with her breasts while she fondles you, then go for it (she's the one who wants a second orgasm after all :))
     
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    thanks ladies for all your replies.:) The reason she wants me to have two orgasms is i give her multiple orgasms. She would like to return to me.
     
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    Oh.
     
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    I posted some details on male multiple orgasms, but typically women can have many more orgasms than men. I once did a threesome with double penetration, and during that the woman had about 10 orgasms (and I am quite serious). And the end of both of us, her partner and I, she was orgasmed-out. That's the way it is for women, but typically not for men.

    Clearly she enjoyed it! I enjoyed her pleasure; it was awesome.
     
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    Men can die from multiple orgasms...:phat
     
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    What a nice way to go!
     
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    they can bleed to death...
     
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    No, I think that's what's supposed to happen in the twelfth Twilight movie.
     
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    It is true
     
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    Vicious rumor started by ne'er do wells!
     
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    niiiiice....lol
     
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    Are you in good shape? I notice being in extra good shape helps me stay harder longer and more often.
     
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    originally Posted by thisnthat [​IMG]
    My wife would love to get to cum for a second time.
    This was meant to say would love for me to cum twice.
     
  20. Alwayslearningsex

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    YES, there are many ways worth doing.