[Ask a Guy] Getting enough at home?

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  1. pbs

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    This is a question for guys who are married or in relationships. Are you getting enough sex at home, and if not, how are you dealing with it?
     
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    I get a lot, but my drive is so high I do othere things too....without cheating of coarse.
     
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    Married 6y. We have sex 2-3 times a week. That's all we have time for, or it would be more. My wifes libido is higher than mine and mine is high.
     
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    I am getting nothing at home. Haven't for years. She doesn't like it so I get it elsewhere.
     
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    Married 20y. Three times maybe four a week. But its been kinda slow lately. Its not as good as it once was. She's going thru her "changes" and the quality has suffered. Im sure if I would accept once a month she would not have a problem with that. How am I handling it? I've been with no one else in 25 years but recently started kinda flirting with ladies I know. Don't know if I would actually follow thru with it but I'm really tempted. It sux when masturbation feels better than the real thing. Don't know how long I can hold out or if the chance came up what I would do.
     
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    Married 20 years and have much higher sexual desire than her. She gives me handjobs and we shower together to make up the difference when she just cant build up the desire. I am learning to adjust my needs. Sometimes just cuddling and feeling my hard dick against her thigh or between her cheeks when we spoon in bed, is enough to make me feel close to her. That is really the most important thing. Whether or not we actually fuck is secondary to feeling close to her.
     
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    Married 27+ years, and am fortunate to be getting almost more than I can handle. We both have high sex drives but my Bunnie will sometimes go into "overdrive". I just hang on and do my best to keep up.
     
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    yep. Girl is kinky and takes care of herself. That helps.
     
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    More than I can safely handle at home yet still window shopping :)
     
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    I would say satisfied (2-3 times a week) but can never have enough. :)
     
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    Not as much as I would like . I have tow disabled boys and one that requires me to stay by his side until he is a sleep. I also have to check on him every few hour. I take the brunt of that . Not because my wife doesn't help she does a million other things and we both kind of just handled what we can. So it works out nicely. As for your answer I usually have time two time a week. Some weeks I go with out any god forbid one of them gets sick. If my youngest who's 10 gets sick I have to stay with him all night. Which usually gets me sick. This can kill our sex for weeks. Especially if she comes down with something as I'm getting better. However this is very important to remember. I found that two much sex is not good. Now this could just be me. I have to tell you when we make the time and I'm horney and shes horney i get a feeling when I'm doing her like I never had before. It feels so good I feel the pleasure all over and when I cum i cum more then I ever have. The same with my wife. I don't consider my situation bad. I'm very lucky. Spending this time with my son has made us very close. They are both my little business. My youngest boy who does not talk sticks to me like glue if we go anywhere. He does not speak and has a digestive issue. He wares depends and know that he is the size of my wife I have to be the one that changes him bathes him and dresses him. Picking him up is rough. He can only go to the bathroom if he is sleeping. Thats why I have to check him every few hours. I usually change him 2 times over night. Usually around 1 am and then around 4am. I have it down to a science and can do it in about 5 minutes. So my sex life definitely suffers but this is life and my little punks that are not so little come first before me or my wife. I just make sure that when we do find the time I guess god knows and he makes it real good for us. I think about what I'm going to do when I have The time and I follow my plan. I love that. She has no clue what shes in for when I make my move. I think because of that and the fact that i just take her makes it good for her. Se has never complained about anything so I'm taking that as a win win. And after 13 years. She still kiss me with that same lust from when I first made love to her.
     
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    Married 8yr and her sex drive has all but disappeared without some alcohol. We shoot for once a week, I long for every day. Masturbation gets me by, albeit poorly. I'd love to say I could never stray but I'm unsure if I could resist an opportunity. Lately I'v really been wondering what it's like to have sex with someone who loves it as much as I do!
     
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    Let me tell you that there is nothing better! I gave up on sex in my marriage and looked elswhere for it and had some wonderful experiences. I don't regret it at all.
     
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    Ditto that KM but then finally found one who loves it even more than I do.
    She desiccates me!
     
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    Certainly not. Besides meds that kill her libido, she has Alzheimers and doesn't care about much of anything, especially me. So when I am in the mood I take care of things myself to at least somewhat relieve the tension.
     
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    Not nearly enough. Once a month at best. I often find porn too cold and impersonal, so I sometimes (not terribly often) go to strip clubs to flirt a little and have a lap dance. It helps a little bit. :eyes
     
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    Together for 17 years and she's pretty much given up. I love her to bits and still fancy her like the day we met, but she's not in the slightest interested, such that we haven't touched each other since May, and it was many months before that prior too. My new years resolution is to find a fuck-buddy, FWB or whatever as I can't go on like this.
     
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    Surely I hope that I will not loose interest I want sex untill I die
     
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    Paula that was the longest post I have seen from you so that must have evoked a strong reaction :)
    BTW, a bit like you, I want to die still having sex!
     
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    once/ twice a month, me needs more, I love my wife so not to stray. But when theres an urge for it and she dont want it you go frantic......Could do with more and role play but have to live with it, especially if you love someone and I do her.....