Getting cucked

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  1. pumpspurt

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    My girlfriend wants to cuck me. We're mid-twenties and have been together five years. Our sex is good. I have the manpower - size, stamina, and techniques - to satisfy her, but she says she wants this experience. So, I'm considering it. What should I expect?

    Any cucked guys out there who are into the lifestyle who tell me why they like it, and why I'd like it, Formerly cucked guys too, who can explain why they left it.
     
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    I am we can talk here or in private
     
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    My thoughts
    Make sure you understand what she wants. I could do the hotwife deal but no way in hell am I letting her go out on dates, stay overnight night with him, kneel outside a locked door as they have sex this is not my bag.

    Watching her have sex with another guy or woman for that matter I can deal with but I at least am there to watch.
     
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    What will you do if she ends up liking the other guy better than you? that's what I would be concerned about if I were in this situation.
     
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    Oh the horrors....I'd suggest watching a dozen or so cuck porn clips. See if you are up to that kind of abuse.
     
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    If your comfortable watching your wife with another man then do it. My husband and I have a cuckold marriage but he is always there with me. Nothing humiliating or anything.
    Figure out your limits and tell her.
     
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    I would only play the cuck role because I love Sara. I'd it do for her. If she loves the other guy, that's a new romance, and I'm out, both by what she did and what I need as self-respect.
     
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    I would recommend starting with mfm you are diving in head first and it's shallow water and nothing but rock below that. Go slow my friend
     
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    I'm only twenty-five, but I bet every guy fantasizes sometime in his life about watching his girlfriend/wife fuck-n-suck with another guy. But I also guess that fantasy could be satisfied by a single experience, unless the guy -- gf/w too -- gets hooked on it. In college, I knew plenty of dudes who set their gf's up. I was even one of the doers, the dudes who did the gf's. Whether Sara wants me humiliated, I have to figure out. It might be her unadmitted backstory.

    Like you wrote, Figure out limits ... and desires. That's what I'm trying to do here.
     
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    I'm not into having sex with dudes, but I know they wouldn't have to fuck-n-suck just because it's a threesome. They could tag-team, spit-roast and hard-pack. I done that, BS (Before Sara). And I'm not into sharing Sara that way, and she doesn't want it either.

    What do you mean by shallow water and rock below? Too metaphorical for me, I know you mean dangers. But what?

    Slow, yes ... but Sara wants a decision by the end of the year, that's three months. Her goal: new year, new life, 2017.
     
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    I don't know your personality but "she wants an answer by the end of the year" or what happens?
    I am not a cuckold or have that personality but I know that if my wife starts telling me what I am going to do and not do and visa versa we are going to hit the marital rocks fast.
    Others enjoy the role, all I am saying is unless you want this 100%for sure in your mind go for it but if you have a shadow of a doubt don't let her tell you how life is going to be. You love Sara I get it and I think people in that lifestyle agree they love each other but it's a two way street. Not someone telling you that you will do this or I'm gone or whatever.

    I sense something led up to this that maybe wasn't shared. Did you bring this idea up first and now she is forcing your hand?
     
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    Yes, what she wants, and what I want too. But am I always going to be tagging along or acting like a chaperone in my own house?
     
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    You won't be a chaperone you will be their bitch. Fluffing her and soon him, eating cum filled pussy. Waiting on them. It really depends on if you two set parameters up front. Is there a safe word? If it's not working will she stop and go back to the way things were?
     
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    I would say give it a go. My wife brought this up one night after a lot to drink. A week later I watched as another man gently pulled her panties off and proceeded to spend the next two hours taking her in every conceivable way. It was an amazing experience. I expected to be aroused, but instead I was soft throughout the whole time. After he left I took her in my arms and held her. When I tried to enter her myself she kissed me so gently but kept her legs together and just said "I love you, but you dont go there anymore" That was over a year ago. We are still in love and still have a very active physical relationship, but she has never allowed me to penetrate her since that night. I am her husband, and he is her lover. I know it sounds weird, but I find it very erotic.
     
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    My nephew was in this situation. Convinced he loved the woman and he would do anything for her. He finally saw the light, divorced and now is married and living happily with another woman.

    If you are like the above comment by all means go for it.
     
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    No, I did't bring it up, but Sara knows -- sometimes particular things, but mostly in a general way -- that I played around a lot before I met her. She didn't; that's a certainty, unless maybe oral, but she says No, and she's truthful. Unlike most girls I knew five plus years ago, Sara and I dated, we didn't hook-up. With Sara, I felt different, and I committed myself -- we committed ourselves to each other. Now there seems to be a change. It's possible -- I changed before, Sara is changing now. She has friends, they talk. She knows, even knew five years ago, that they had more teen/early twenties sex than she did. Cuck may be a term she just picked up and misuses. I can't figure that out right now, partly that's because she's still figuring out herself what she means. It might be as simple as her wanting to fuck-n-suck with (some? a few?) other guys. Maybe it will be a phase.

    I'm caught in a dilemma of wanting to do right by Sara.
     
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    No matter what if a mans girlfriend or wife sleeps with another man regardless with his permission or without he is a cuckold.
    My husband and I have sex often. He enjoys watching me with other men but our relationship is strong. I'm not leaving neither is he. Another thing cuckold doesn't mean you fluff the other man or clean up after he cums in the woman. My hubby does neither.
    Either way if your worried about her leaving don't go along with it and if she is pushing hard on it don't do it.
    It should be a decision both of you agree to.
     
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    Apparently you are easily threatened by women, as well as having an antiquated macho chauvinist attitude.

    Sara is not "telling me what to do," she is not ordering me. I didn't use that phrase ("telling me what to do"), you imagined it, You are showing how you feel threatened by women who merely want or ask. Sara is stating what she wants, just as she might say she wants to go to the movies. Do you feel threatened if your wife (presuming you have one) says she wants to go to the movies, or wants a new car, or wants another child? I think you don't get, that is understand, love. You say it's a two way street, but what you what you write shows that you expect travel in only one direction, yours.
     
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    I could never do it, as I'm too much of a natural dominant. If it's what you BOTH want, it could be good, but if you do, you might bite off more than you can chew.

    xx
     
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    Had plenty to drink now I see. End of discussion.