getting bored, what to do?

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  1. spector

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    Hey guys and gals. I'm kind of in a funk. I haven't had sex in several years. I'm 44, but look younger as I work out and stay fit. No kids. I don't do drugs or drink much. I do smoke though. I would consider myself above average looking with a muscular build, light blue eyes and brown hair, although it is very thin. I got started with the opposite sex a little late in life (mid-20's) and had a few gf's and was even married for a few years, but haven't been involved since my late 30's. I'm a quiet person by nature and don't go out much. I've only been to bars a few times in my life. Part of the problem is I work 3rd shift and live in a fairly small town, but I don't really like busy places either.

    Anyway, I've been trying some dating sites (mostly the free ones) with limited success early on, but nothing the past couple years. The few ladies that do respond are not attractive to me at all. Any ideas what to do to get some action before I get too old? Lately I've resorted to searching for adult theaters and massage parlors and such in the bigger cities as I hear you can get some "services" there if you play your card right. I also noticed there are escort services on craigs list too. I'm kind of leary of going this route as I want to be safe and don't want to get in trouble obviously and it looks like the better looking ladies can be a little pricey. I've never had to pay before and don't really want to go that route, but then again maybe it will get my confidence up and get me back into the groove. btw, I know I may be a little picky too as I like women to be in shape with nice legs. Any advice?
     
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    Have you tried putting an ad on craigslist for casual encounters?
     
  3. spector

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    I haven't tried that. I recently did some searching on there and responded to a couple, but haven't heard anything yet. Seems like you have to be careful as there are a lot of scammers out there and you never know if the people are disease free, ect. I also live like about an hour from all the nearest CL locations in every direction.
     
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    Pretty much why you use condoms or can have std testing done and bring the papers but still use condoms. I never really had a problem using it once I waded through the spam.
     
  5. spector

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    Man I hated using condoms the few times I had to. I was actually kind of lucky as my ex didn't get pregnant and my last two gf's were "fixed" and disease free.
     
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    A lot of people hate condoms but are usually a necessary evil. If you don't want kids and a good chance of avoiding disease you should use them.
     
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    Has anyone else put a CL ad out? Maybe I should try it, but not sure what to put?
     
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    You just basically put down what you are looking for.
     
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    Jack off to my pictures! :)
     
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    Thanks for the idea! ;)
     
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    ...not a problem! <3 the thought turns me on!
     
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    What if I've already done that. :)

     
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    Then I would say it's time I post new ones! ;)
     
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    Craigslist casual is not the way to go it's all prostitutes and spam. Use men for women and put some effort into post write stuff girls want to hear not here's my cock let's do this