Hey guys, looking for some god input, I just posted over at the member introductions Long post sorry. I am happily married to a great lady and have three great kids, I am 47 and the wifey is 45. I was recently diagnosed with borderline LOW T and have been taking T replacement. My libido before the meds was extremely high, now its just plain off the charts. My sex drive before the meds I would be happy with twice a day, I know that sounds unreal but its even worse now. My wife is very humble and enjoys sex but not often, once or maybe twice a month. She doesn't dress to show her legs or cleavage and I always tell her she needs to show a bit more, I think it will make her feel sexier. She is very self conscious. I cant keep my hands off of her and its driving her crazy, I have been waking up with boners to the point my balls ache and I have an incredible urge to ejaculate. Shes so tired in the morning that I take care of the problem myself, I feel a little weird when doing it in the bed when shes lying there, but think to myself, OK at least she knows whats going on. It gets weirder when I cum, I can be a bit loud and can't help but think shes bothered by me masturbating. But I really want her to be there when I do it. I get so aroused that I can cum by squeezing the head of my cock with 2 fingers and a thumb for a few minutes. That is why I have joined this site, to see what other folks think and looking for advice on either decreasing my libido or increasing hers Hopefully the latter. Aside from the increased libido, I have been trying to spice up things a bit. My wife is always reluctant to try anything new, but once I get her to try new things she likes it and it becomes part of our lovemaking or fucking. A perfect example is the magic wand, she loves when i use it on her and will use it on herself, I try to tell her its ok to use it alone, but she will not We have tried dildos, they don't do much for her as far as penetration. And it was only a few years ago we started mutual masturbation, although I get a look when I ask her where she wants me to cum, using a towel isn't as sexy as cumming on each other. She did let me cum on her tits last week (she hates that word tits), that really turned me on but not so much for her Anal tried it once and she said never again, I was amazed I got her to try it once. I respect the fact that this is a definite turn off for her so I don't bother her abut anal. When I told her I might enjoy prostate stimulation or being touched there, I got a ewww look, but what's weird about that is when shes playing with my cock shell apply hard pressure and rub under my prostrate when I'm gonna cum so she knows I like it and man do I CUM. Lubes and stuff, she is is so sensitive that any kind of lube irritates her badly, even mineral oil, one of our best love making events was plastic sheets and baby oil, man that was awesome, but it now irritates her delicate pussy (btw she hates that word), I have asked her give her pussy a name like kitty or some silly shit like that, frankly I love the word pussy. Dressing up, she has no problem wearing anything I ask her to wear, but has never expressed an interest in me wearing anything, should I bring this up? Games, Still working on this one, have a few card games and a board game but never have time to try them. Every once in a while we will have memorable sex, the other night she was so wet that it was thick, I haven't felt her that type of wet since we were dating, and she gave some incredible head as well. That's another thing she used to give me head till I came and swallowed, now its just a few minutes of head, but hell I ant complaining about that. Eating pussy, (yep she don't like that word either), I love given her head, she has great long silky white legs and her pussy is awesome, I went nuts in there last week (I looked like a bulldog eating mayonnaise), and when I asked her if she liked it she said yeah its OK so I said, will this get you off, she said no. Man I was disheartened because I thought I was doing great, working her clit and lips, and really wanted her to cum from head. She actually has agreed to letting me try to get her to squirt, hopefully we can pull it off, we almost had it a couple of times and she stopped because she thought she was gonna pee, I told her that's OK don't fight that urge its supposed to feel like that. I have also been looking into getting a sex swing, sometimes sex can be painful, she has trouble spreading because of her hips, she pulled something in there a few years ago and is only now going to get it checked out. Anyhow I have a bit of arthritis in my lower back I cant hold a position or thrust too much in these positions and when I do, she ends up in pain. Plus she has a tipped uterus and my member has a huge curve in it. We are both about 20 pounds overweight so I tried selling her on the love swing, she got a little freaked out, I tried to tell her its more of a tool than an erotic toy, I think she relates the swing to bondage. My member is barely 6" on his best day, and I do have a bit of a belly, that with the arthritis and her hips... I think this would really help us. I am looking into getting vibe panties or a wireless insertable egg that we can go out to dinner and I can work her up, I may be able to pull this off because I mentioned to her about my fantasy of getting dressed up and go out for dinner and have her go to the ladies room, remove her panties and come back to the table sit next to me and hand me her panties and grin. Alcohol, I can not get her to touch it, I tried last weekend chilled some wine and she said no way. I love my wife immensely and thinks shes sexy as hell, she says the same about me but wonder if she is being polite. I tell her this often. I tell her she's my best friend, extremely hot and how lucky I am to have met her. When we get dressed up and go to a social function, I look around and look at my wife and think how lucky I am. I have a lot of my fantasies about my wife, not to say I don't fantasize about other women, but many are of my wife. Our sex is great and when she's really into it,... it's mind blowing If she ever finds out I wrote this I am finished! I believe a lot of times people build up stuff in their heads and the thought of the act is sometimes more erotic than the actual act itself. I don't know for sure if its just the thought of taking a bite of the forbidden fruit, but hell I WANT THE CHOICE TO TAKE A BITE, A HUGE BITE. Thanks for listening.