GASP! The pornification on my son.

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Barbwire, Oct 7, 2010.

  1. Barbwire

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    [COLOR=#00d00]I'm a bit aghast at my son. Found a disturbing pic he got off the Daniel Tosh site showing a blurry image of Tosh allegedly get fucked in the ass from behind by another man.[/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]I'd seen the original show where the pic was aired on Comedy Central on a show called Tosh.0 but, the pic was so blurry you couldn't see much. Tosh came on and plugged his site saying if you wanted to see a better version of the pic you could click somewhere on the site.[/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]The picture was small, and fairly blurry, but it was quite clear what the guys were doing. [/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]I showed my hubby then called my son into the room and launched on his ass. Made him delete the pics right there. (He had two copies of the same pic).[/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]Hubby just sat there on the other end of the couch and his only contribution was yelling out, "You can go to jail for that!" [/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]Anyways, there's a lot more to it but I'm too tired to type anymore.[/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]Just imagine if he'd been caught at school with this or on the bus?![/COLOR]

    [COLOR=#00d00]I'm getting the vapors up here, I tell ya! [/COLOR]


    Shit! I'm so upset I typed in GREEN! Spew!
     
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    CL, i dont know what to say. I have younger boys and have been worried about my youngest when I found that he had a bi friend actually more gay than straight, I have had several conversations with him so he will feel comfortable talking to me if he needs or wants to. Get some rest, take a sleep aid and start over tommorow.
     
  3. Barbwire

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    It's not a gay or bi thing for me, it's an "OMG!!! My kid is not even 13 and he's got naked pics on his toy, his friggin' TOY for cryin' out loud!" thing.
     
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    My humble opinion is that a computer hooked up to the internet is never just a toy, at any age. Any age under 18, I mean. Just my opinion.
     
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    Luckily my son came along before laptops were ubiquitous. Our PC was, still is, in the family room. But we wouldn't even let him have a game machine, he was not capable of self regulation.
     
  6. Barbwire

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    The picture is actually on his Nintnedo DSI. I'm not sure where he got the pic, it looks like it was taken off a video screen. (not his laptop screen) I wanted to cool down some and talk to him about it in the morning. I also want him to be awake all night wondering what punishment will befall him. Muahaha! :dgrin

    I also checked his DSI parental controls and the password's been changed. Methinks my son is a lot smarter than I give him credit for. *sigh*
     
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    Not to make light of the situation, but I kind of want access to this photo. lol

    As far as your son, unless you have a block on your computer, you should always assume that he's looking at sexual things. He's a boy and the net is littered with sex. There's no way to avoid it.
     
  8. Barbwire

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    He doesn't have access to my computer unless I am sitting on his side and I've set the parental controls on his laptop.

    He has the ability to connect to the internet with his DSI and his Wii. I'd set both of them with blocks but apparently, the little bugger has figured out a way around it.

    I also wonder if maybe the picture was sent to him via the DSI. I will investigate further tomorrow.
     
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    I honestly don't see anything wrong with it as it's posted on a non premium channel.
    If the other mods find something wrong with it, they can move it.

    As far as the picture, I think it's a fake. It's part of a game that was played on the show.
     
  11. HardRocker

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    It's fine.
     
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    I looked up porn on the internet when I was 12, and that was in 2003. I can't say that I'm surprised about this. As for the whole "going to jail" thing, they'd have to put half of middle school boys in there if that was the case (at least where I'm from). That's just what I think.
     
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    CL, I know what you mean. My daughter is only 8 and told me that sex is naked grownups kissing in the bed. She says she learned this at school. She likes to watch music videos on youtube, but not at my house. I just don't let her. They are exposed to so much these days, and I know you do your best to prevent him from seeing or accessing this stuff. Boy, when they are teens we are in for it, right??
     
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    We started talking about sex to our kids at age 6. Not just the mechanics, but the consequences. My kids are very grade focused (my son has already taken the ACTs and SATs at age 12, daughter is also straight As, gifted program, orchestra) and sports focused, she is practicing with a AAA Tier 1 girls team, officially part of the team in April, and my son is on a A level but will tryout for 3 AAA teams in April. Both are popular in school with lots of friends, but neither are "dating" like friends (son is 13, daughter almost 12). We've made it perfectly clear what can happen if they have sex and that all the academic work and hockey practices will be gone. Thier college dreams will be dashed. We never said DONT HAVE SEX and leave it at that, best way to get them to do it. I see my son twisting his neck to check out girls, but he wants more. The kids laptop is in the office, they have computers in thier rooms for school work, but not hooked up to the internet. With all of the crap on the internet, TV, at school, and sexting going on..they need all the information they possibly can get to make the right decisions.

    And yes they love to watch TOSH.0, Family Guy, South Park, etc. But they also watch the Daily Show, Colbert Report, Top Gear, etc....so it balances out.

    You can't keep them locked in a closet and shielded from everything. They just need to know how to deal with it.

    It was around 30+ yrs when I was a kid...it was just Hustler, Playboy, Stag, etc. Not as much variety as now, but still available.
     
  15. Barbwire

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    I talked to my son about the picture this morning. He and his dad are taking a 5 hour train ride today and I reminded my husband to talk to him as well.

    Basically, he thought the picture was hysterically funny because it showed Tosh taking himself to Pound Town. (that's what Tosh called it on the show.) If you look closely at the pic it is indeed Tosh banging Tosh.

    He said the TV show came on as a rerun while he was home alone after school and remembering the funny pic that he'd seen in an earlier showing of the episode, he got his camera and took a capture off the TV screen. I asked him what he intended to do with the picture and he shrugged. I asked him if he'd shared it with anyone and he said he had not.

    I told him that if he was going to be able to continue watching Tosh on TV he was only going to be able to do it with his parents in the room and that he was NOT to take pics of or repeat anything he saw on the show, even if he thought it was funny.

    I didn't have time to discuss the issue of him changing the parental password but, from what I've learned online there are multiple videos on YouTube that show kids how to hack their game systems so the parental blocks are disabled.

    I need to contact Nintendo to see what direction to go in from here to make sure there isn't another security breach.Other than talking to my kid about it, that's about all I can do at this point. I don't think that taking away all of his gadgets is going to help and honestly, I don't have the time to keep an eye on my son 24/7.

    I'm just glad that my son and I have built a strong foundation of good communication and understanding with each other.









     
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    it's blurry enough!!
     
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    That sounds like a great example of how things should be to me. I was a little beyond that at eight (although I also thought that just being naked and kissing was the norm), and that was way before internet. At 13 (still before internet) some of the other kids were already looking at hardcore, but I just didn't want to. On the other hand I loooooved pictures of naked women at that age, and still do :D. A friend of mine had a gay-humping computer game at 12! Now, he is married and straight as an arrow as far as I know.

    Maybe it's just because I don't have any kids, but I don't think that these stories sound all that serious, although it's probably a good idea to talk about it.
     
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    CL,

    You are a good parent. It's sad that we cannot watch them 24/7, and you are right, taking away the gadgets is nothing...they will find something else.

    From your description, it seems that he just thought it funny, and nothing else...for now. Glad your hubby is going to talk to him.

    The joys of parenthood!!!
     
  19. wilber

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    I came into this thread a couple of days late. The password issue may be something you can't beat. Some less secure devices can go to default when the power has been dropped. If it is something as simple as taking the batteries out for 5 minutes and then anyone can reset, you are stuck.
    As far as him having access to things you don't approve of at his age you are once again screwed. I did my best to control what my kids had access to back when they were young and it didn't matter once they left my house and went to one where the parents didn't do the same. I did without things like cable tv to keep my kids from seeing things I felt were inappropriate. Then I find out they are seeing it all at friends houses and I don't even know what it is because I don't have it. You just can't win this one. You can still guide him in the right direction with positive influence.
    A 12 year old will get his hands on stuff regardless. I was younger than that when I got my hands on Playboy and those old nudist magazines. (The younger members have no clue what those are) Just keep being a good parent and the rest will take care of itself.
     
  20. HHH

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    You neglected to say how old your son was and they do get curious around the age of thirteen to fourteen. After that it's pretty normal to start finding straight porn. Then again he may have been wired differently. How do you feel about that? My two sons are straight adults but I think I would be just as happy if they were well adjusted gays. HHH