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Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Stormy, Jun 21, 2007.

  1. Stormy

    Stormy New Member

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    Someone did a poll on this (I checked) but this is for advice on getting oneself a fuck buddy.

    Should one advertise in the Personals? Scout around the acquaintances? Use one of the many online dating services?

    Anyone have/had a fuck buddy? If so, how did you hook up?

    All suggestions etc.. appreciated.

    No questions please!
     
  2. Stormy

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    Well I see I'm going solo on this. Okey dokey.
     
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    craigs list has everything, plus it's not really something you can advertise for. The best thing is to ask a really close friend and/or ex that you are still on good terms with. This way you know it's safe and you already know the person.
     
  4. Logger

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    Dear Stormy,

    I usually respond with asking questions. That allows people to figure out their own answers. But you have asked for no Quesitons.

    I personally make an effort to direct my energies to my wife, and envision her as all the other women in the world.

    You mentioned that some of your toys are broken. To the extend that I am more in the mood than my wife, I try to find ways to have her psriticpate at a lower level, more in accordance with her level of desire.

    So my approach is to make my current spouse my everything. I use toys, porn and various times and positions to try to get my wife to be my companion, or fuck buddy.

    I have had some girl friends who have objected to my using masturbation when she was not in the mood. I am fortunate that my current wife seems OK with my self manipulation, and will cuddle with me to some extent on different times, and let me know if she becomes ready for some increased action, herself.

    Blessings
     
  5. Stormy

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    Logger, my man I am happy for you. At least your spouse is interested. Which is a damn sight more than mine is. I picked up on the masturbation cue. Sorry, thats getting real old now for me. I also have a sneaking suspicion he thinks so long as I do that, he's no longer obligated.

    So, having thrashed this out with him many times and nothing changing, I'm going proactive!

    Anywho, thanks for the input. :D
     
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    Stormy, I feel your pain, girl! I'm about ready to burst, myself. (sigh)
     
  7. Stormy

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    Aye. The worst is not being able to figure out what the hell the problem is. You stop asking after a while, otherwise your just being a nag. Screwed if you do, screwed if you don't. So to speak. :eyes
     
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    More like not screwed if you do, not screwed if you don't. :(
     
  9. SexyScorp

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    I would like a lover (not a fuck buddy...sounds fucking horrible lol)

    But, I am SO choosy its proving difficult to find a guy who I can trust...

    Would rather masturbate every day than give myself to some eejit who
    couldnt treat me right....

    :(
     
  10. Kronnie

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    I have never had a sexbuddy....as im single i sure wouldnt say no to that if offered...

    Its something that if you yourself are after its not easy to get going ( well it is it just depends on what sort of guy your willing to go for , As Sexyscorp said her wants are very high ( i sure hope you find a lover that fits the bill SS, the guy will be one lucky male )

    Imeanas for me , i dont see myself as a brainiac, or the best catch any female could find..i do think im kind ( i know im loyal) non violent, friendly, can be kinda funny ( in a dry sort of way at times lmao ) can have my moments of profound moments as well. )
    im not advertising , but just i guess meaning...ive been single a long time ( probably a reason for that)
    sometimes its not easy, i hear aboout these guys that have a females to be with, and dont do a damm thing with them....and im free , would love to just have a female lover, but can not get one....no figure lol....


    ahh well maybe in the next life :p



    Best wishes and i hope you to also find a guy that your seeking as a lover ( part time or other wise) StormY :)
     
  11. Plums

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    dangerous ground for me, i met a girl (i'll call her x) a few years back, only ever saw 'x' once or twice a year, but it was obvious there was a strong attraction from the start, last year mrs and I went thru a real bad patch, i was lonely, and felt rejected, thought it was all over tbh, things then happened with 'x', and we thought it might be fun to just hook up once in a while, after the first time we both agreed it was amazing, which, in all honesty it was. but things soon got too serious, mrs and I kind of got things in order, which left me with two choices, not a good time for me, a real bad headfuck for sure, eventually mrs guessed what was up, and i admitted it, not a good time for a while, we broke up briefly, but 6 months on, i feel we're stronger than we ever have been, which is a good thing, but everytime there's any doubt on my part, my mind reverts back to that tme with 'x', which i feel either guilt for, or the age old 'what if?' question pops in my head, as good as the time was, it has left a nasty scar, and i've lost a good friend thru it, and hurt both X and mrs. we talk very rarely now, on msn, but i know i'll not be able to see her again as i wouldn't trust myself.

    some say fantasy should stay just that, i tend to agree, especially if it only involves one of you in a relationship.

    so, if single, yeah, have as many as you like, if you're in a relationship already, that isn't an open one, then be sure you'll not let it get out of control !
     
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    It was many years ago and it was a friend of mine. Personally fuck buddies are not all that great and the situation gets complicated very quickly.
     
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    depends on the people i guess though...sometimes it wont work other times it will work and yet at others it will blossem into something else completly.
     
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    wow, I'm glad it's not just me, and it is women that also feel this way. What a relief. It's not all me
     
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    my relationship with my girl started out as fuck buddies
    she and her boyfriend was in a fight and she kicked him out.
    ive known her long time even before her boyfriend so i used to meet up to blaze once in awhile.
    so she invited me to blaze with her that day because she was so stressed.
    but while we were blazing and chatting her boyfriend started knocking on the door begging to come back in and she couldnt let him because there would be a misunderstanding if i was there. anyways he was knocking and begging until 4 am. so i decided to crash over her place. there was only one bed, no sofa and so we decided sleep in the same bed.... and... well that's how things started. lol
     
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    I've had a couple in my time. The first was a guy I dated, but we both found out we didn't really want it to go anywhere relationship wise, we were both very busy but we enjoyed the sex, so we had an arrangement. It was fun. He lived in another town and we hooked up for the weekend every now and again. Plus it helped that we had a laugh together too, so there were no difficult moments in between the sex.

    The 2nd was a friend too. He was in a doomed long term relationship, and it happened most times we went out together. It wasn't particularly fantastic, but sometimes a girl just needs sex!
     
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    id love one
     
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    I'd like a fuckbuddy too... where do I order at?
     
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    I used to have a fuck buddy a few years ago he was huuunnnggg he would throw me on the washing machine an go at it we did it anywhere he recently called me I had to say no cause of the bf
     
  20. angel_n_sneye

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    I will tell you that if you "advertise" on websites and whatnot you will be overwhelmed with pervs of all sorts! Have you talked to your SO about you thinking of finding a buddy? Do you think that he would be ok with it? I am lucky in that aspect with mine ... we both realize that sex can be just that ... sex. And sometimes, something different is just what you need.

    One direction to look would be to look at at friends that you can trust and that you are sure that it would not get complicated. This is something that has worked for me in the past before meeting my present SO ... just make sure to lay out the rules form the beginning and stick to them ... the hardest thing for most women to keep it what it is ... just sex.

    Just my 2.5 cents

    Later ~~~ Angel ~~~