Can you be friends with an ex? Does one party want more than the other? Does your current partner know? Are you hiding it? Is your current partner friends with an ex? How do you feel about it? I was friendly with an ex. He used to lean on me as a sounding board (messed up family life), tell me how his son was doing in school. It never got physical or even emotional for me. Just trying to be there for a FRIEND. He had some issues with his current girlfriend/wife and wanted my advice. He just sent me a message that we can't be "friends" bc he still thinks about me and it isn't fair to his wife. I never knew he felt like that. And I agree we shouldn't be friends under these circumstances. But now I feel like the other woman. Which I would NEVER want to be.