Background Fourteen years ago, the first girl I ever loved dumped me after we were together for three years. She was screwing a friend of ours (who was married at the time) and she left me for him. We had friends together that were caught in the middle. They ended up staying friends with my ex-gf and not me. I hated that. Now, I have a couple of friends whose marriages are failing. Friend no.1 He's been married to his wife for 16 years. He's now cheating on her (wife now knows about it) and he intends and he intends to leave her to be with this other chick. Friend no.2 She's been married for 4 years. Now, she's leaving him. He's an immature guy, but he's loved her and her four children (yes - he married into four children. She had all four from four other guys in various previous relationships). He's not the greatest catch, but he's been loyal and loving to her and her four kids. I don't like what my friends are doing, and now I find myself caught in the middle. I try not to be judgmental, and I haven't forced my opinions on them. But that doesn't mean I have no opinions. I disapprove of what my friends are doing and I don't want to support them in it in any way. But I also don't want to lose the friendships. Any advice?