Friendly Lesson?

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  1. SWGirl

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    I've got one friend in particular, Krista, that I talk to about my sex life in graphic detail. I keep her posted on almost a daily basis. Steve's okay with that, and he's really not shy at all. She's mildly sexually experienced, and has been asking me a lot of questions about giving fellatio lately, as I tell her about doing that quite often, and about my occasionally having orgasms from doing it (which I'm learning to harness; yay!).

    I recommended some good porn videos with examples of good oral (and because she's fresh out of a relationship ;)), but she's not really into pornography, and is afraid that she doesn't really know what she's doing ONCE she's doing it; so imitation is hard for her. She's given handjobs to orgasm before, but says she's never made a man cum with her mouth and is afraid she's been looking like a fool for the last several years. Maybe you see where this is going...

    Yesterday at lunch, we were talking about all the sex I threw at Steve the night before, and she just kind of blurted out like she'd been sitting on it forever, "Would you mind if I watched you give a blowjob?"

    I was speechless for several seconds because it totally took me off guard, and she seemed to be very nervous and really embarrassed right away. Then she just started nervously talking, that she's afraid she's not doing anything right, and she's probably been looking stupid forever, and how she just thought since she knew me and Steve that it would be okay. Then she started back-tracking fast, saying how she hoped I didn't think less of her, and how she should never have asked, and how she hopes I can still be her friend, and how sorry she was...

    ...and I'm still just sitting here speechless the whole time not able to get a word in even if I could talk. So finally I get her to stop and tell her that she just caught me off guard, and it's just something I had never considered. We sat and had a long talk about it and I finally said, "Let me think about it; but we're definitely still friends. (lol)" And that seemed to calm her down a lot.

    So I get home yesterday and make out with Steve in the kitchen for about 15 minutes before I strike up the conversation, asking him if he ever thought "being watched" would be sexy. Then I told him about the conversation and he was just as taken back as I was. We mulled it over and decided that as long as neither of us thought it would hurt our friendship with her, that we didn't think it was too "out there" and that we'd be willing to help her.

    My question here is, how many of you have ever done anything remotely like this? And what do you suspect the effect to be on a long-standing friendship? She's generally a moderately shy girl, and neither Steve or I have a shy bone in our bodies.

    Thanks to all who contribute.
     
  2. rcc8611

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    never done it, I think it would be enjoyable for me to watch a couple tho..
     
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    I've done this multiple times. I had a boyfriend back in High School, Dave and a best friend Rachel. At the time Dave and I had broken up but were still friends with benefits. Rachel was a very curious girl, innocent as hell who hadn't even had her first kiss. Rachel has expressed attraction to him multiple times in discussion with me so I simply looked over at Dave while we were all hanging out in the room and told him to kiss her. They made out for a while and she thoroughly enjoyed her first kiss. :)

    Fast Forward to present time. Ian (My Fiancee) and I and Rachel along with her boyfriend were having some fun. It started out with Her and I having some fun that went from the kitchen to the bedroom wall. She was a virgin prior to her boyfriend (who was also her first boyfriend) unfortunately...he was far from well endowed...I mean....tiny...tiiiiiny.... She really wanted to touch/see/experience a larger one. I allowed her to play with him and enjoy him pressed up against her while I sat on the floor watching them.

    Things escalated to all of us on the bed. Everything was a blur with four people being involved. Needless to say, it didn't mess up our friendship or relationship at all. It was a wonderful experience that I would do again in a heart beat.
     
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    this is a hard question... Im thinking no, if it may even chance to risk a friendship i wouldnt do it. But im still thinking...
     
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    I'd do it..

    I've had a guy in a 3 some watch me blowing the other guy.. and took part in a MFM in which one of the guys finally admitted he was more gay than bi and really didn't have any desire to touch a female.. I got oral from the one and masturbated while watching them have sex.
     
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    It would not be my cup of tea to let someone watch us. We have seen this desire to "watch" really be a mask for a desire to "participate", which is something neither of us is into.

    We are not shy with our friends with our views towards sex, and during some of our "sexy wives" parties with a few close friends the women have worn things that they did not mind the other guys looking at. But that is where I draw the line.

    Ultimately you know your friend best, and have to decide the level of risk this might introduce to the relationships involved, and if you are willing to take that chance.
     
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    I think I'm really leaning toward doing it. I really think she sincerely wants to learn how to give a good blowjob. I KNOW that she thinks Steve is like the hottest thing on Earth. So getting the chance to see what's "under the hood" might be an ulterior motive ;). But I love her, and she's definitely not a creep. We've been there for each other through a ton of stuff, and I think our friendship would be able to handle it even if it went badly (I think that's very unlikely).
     
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    so your mind is already made up and you were looking for seconds to your motions??? ; )
     
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    Nooo...

    These were the questions I asked after I shared the situation. Neither of them said anything about asking for support in my pending decision that is still pending... hence the...

     
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    Ive never done anything like it....and honestly dont think I could.
    I guess Im too shy *shrugs shoulders*

    I love my friends..but not enough to let them watch me give my SO a bj or to watch us have sex. lol
     
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    I've just gotten off the phone with Steve who's off protecting and serving at an old folk's home where some sweet old lady called 911 to tell them that she's being held prisoner against her will.

    He said that he was okay with it and that it was up to me, but if I did decide it was okay, that there were a few conditions. I love him for thinking of things like this...

    1. That we decide exactly what's okay and make sure to say that. It's okay for her to watch me and him, but we aren't into it for sex or anything like that; so there's no confusion or mixed signals. Or "signals" at all... just words.

    2. That we pick a time and day right away so it's not just "some thing" we talked about once that just caused tension and never went away because nothing happened.

    3. If we DO do it, directly afterward he gets to take up both out to dinner. He says that when friends do something that may cause stress between them (much like this), they need to be kept together long enough to make sure that it gets talked out and the air gets cleared between them. If one person, or both, is uncomfortable or stressed about it and retreats away from the friendship with words unspoken, then that's how we lose friends. He said he'd take us both out to BJ's or Bravo or somewhere so we're forced to talk about it and laugh out all that stress over something we've never done before and make sure everything's still alright (which I have almost no doubt that it would be).

    I love my man...
     
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    Can you please clone Steve??? lol
    Id love a man like him!! I think you and Steve are just awesome!!

    Im curious how its going to turn out....hell you could always video tape it and let us all watch..lol

    Seriously...good luck with whatever you two decide.
     
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    i second that idea LB lol
     
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    cloning Steve? :D

    (just kidding, I know what you're talking about!)
     
  15. Kermit

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    I used to keep some of my FWB's (not a FWB anymore, just a friend now for obvious reasons) hair in a tin (from a hair brush brushing her hair one itme) and i joked i kept it to clone her lol
     
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    Just set some rules.
     
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    So funny, ironic, that you would pick out the resturant called BJ's Ha Ha Ha
     
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    invite your friend for a dinner and a blowjob watch at BJ's! lol
     
  19. Alwayslearningsex

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    BJ in front of your friend ..... if you think all will enjoy then GO for it.
    Have fun. Give yourself an orgasm too, just to get her revved up.
     
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    I don't think I would mind my wife giving me a blow job in front of her friend but it seems hard to believe that any friendship would ever be quite the same again.

    - how come this shit never happens to me?