I broke up with my ex about a month ago. We had no contact up until a couple days ago. I've been seeing a new guy for the last two weeks and we get along great. I thought seeing this new guy would help distract me and eventually help me get over my ex, but I think it's just making it worse. I had sex with the new guy for the first time a couple of days ago and it was very disappointing. I was just immediately reminded of how considerate my ex was in bed and how much I loved having sex with him. Another reason I feel this way is because somehow I get the feeling that this new guy is not interested in a relationship. At the moment, I'm not ready to be in a relationship either, but I'm afraid that this will turn into a casual/sexual relationship, which is not what I want either. I'd like to go slow and eventually develop a relationship if it so happens. If not, that's ok too. Anyway, after sleeping with the new guy and feeling disappointed, I contacted my Ex and asked if he wanted to have lunch this week -- as friends. He jumped at the idea and said he would call me when he got back in town. I'm not sure if he will really call, but I would really like to see him. He hasn't contacted me, but he also doesn't seem to have any negative feelings towards me. I don't really want to get back together with my ex because I know how terrible we were for one another, but why can't I get over him?? I thought finding someone new would help me move on, but it hasn't. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? This is my first real relationship breakup. Thank you.