foreplay advise

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by kwill_1, Jul 17, 2004.

  1. kwill_1

    kwill_1 New Member

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    this is my problem.

    I reunited with an old flame after 6 1/2 years.

    Anyway, things changed in the bedroom,. Me.
    Being Married to an asshole, ( divorced now ) who never really wanted sex.
    when I did get it there was no foreplay. It was like you want to "okay"
    that was it.

    However The old flame " Buddy" is into foreplay and i understand why it makes the whole thing fantastic.

    I want to learn things about foreplay to make him feel wanted and me .
    Instead of me just wanting to get to it I need to learn how to stop and smell the flowers (sort of speak)/

    I really dont think that he would be into the whole anus thing.
    So anyone with other advise please send reply.
    He comes over 7/17/04 and i would love to try it out on him. Thanks
     
  2. lovedog

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    hey foreplay is every thing you do to your patner to araouse him or her , it may be in form of sweet talk caourousing kissing rubbing of the sensitive body parts. you can start from the top part of the body breast clitoris e t c all this is forplay that i know
     
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    There's one way to find out. :sex
     
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    maby a thong may appeal to him
     
  5. Logger

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    How did 7-17-04 turn out?

    I am making a list of what my wife tolerates well, and what often, or sometimes creates a rejection for me, things which she does not toleratre well.

    Too often I do not remember my lists, and try to do what I want to do, and get a rejection which shuts down the whole show. Then, Sometimes I fall asleep before restarting again. I would be better off just sticking to what she usually will go along with, rather than being creative.

    Maybe you have some ideas for me.

    Tolerates well:

    rubbing her pubic mound.

    Massaging her back muscles

    Massaging her but muscles.

    Sucking her teats.

    Taking off her pants

    Apply lubricant to her vagina

    Fingering beside her clit

    Unsnap her Bra.

    Oil up penis head and massage leg or but muscles with the tip.

    Massage Video on the TV.

    Hard pumping masturbating myself. (I have had girlfriends who would get jupseet if i masturbated myself.)


    SOMETIMES REJECTS:.

    Getting her Bra off.

    Moving her legs to a better position.


    USUALLY REJECTS:

    Sticking it in.

    Getting too close to the anus.

    Fingering vagina opening.

    Porn Video on TV.
     
  6. Logger

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    Foreplay Stages

    I have not been dividing up foreplay into stages. I have not seen other treads in this Foreplay section, that detail the stages of foreplay. Many different foreplay techniques are discussed in varous threads.

    What are the Stages of Foreplay? Foreplay is like a symphony, with various strategies working at varius levels of arrousal. How do you figure out the stage the woman? Which approaches are compatible with which stage, under which circumstances?

    Sometimes I feel that I need to move quickly, or my wife's mood will change to not interested. I think I should maybe try to take longer for teh varous stages, and prolong each stage, until the next stage gushes through, irresistably.


    How about describing the stages:

    Not interested, receptive only to a back or foot massage.
    Just rub large muscles, arousing interest.
    Friendley, receptive to some touching.
    Suck Her nipples, rub her pubic mound, Loosen clothing, invite oral sex, take time to wash privates.
    Loving: Receptive to petting and heavy breathing.
    Get the rod stiff, rub the rod around varous non-sexual areas. Undress furhter.
    Warm: Receptive to some sexual contact
    Apply lubricants, remove remaining clothing, put a sensual gown around her shoulders.
    Hot: Ready for insertion.
    Add Astroglide, and massage the vagina with the tip.
     
  7. Logger

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    Hesitating points.

    I guess K Will_ 1 was a woman asking for advise on particpatting in foreplay with a man who enjoyed foreplay. This is my sequence, so if tehr is any thing you want BF to do differently, you might just let him know what will take you to the next level. Or what is not working so well. "Can we turn to another position?"

    I am a husband, trying to be sensitive to my wife's objection, and trying to find stimulating stratgies for getting my wife aroused to the next level.

    I will try to expand my levels from my last post:

    Not Interested, just started a TV show or tape. Probably should minimize trying to get W to change position, from watching TV screen, for some 5 mihnutes, till her focus of attention is more relaxed, having watched a few minutes of the program she started.

    Not interested, receptive only to a neck, shoulder back or foot massage. At this stage W may be watrching TV.

    Just rub large muscles, arousing interest.

    Friendley, receptive to some touching.
    Suck Her nipples, rub her pubic mound, Loosen clothing, invite oral sex, take time to wash privates.

    Loving: Receptive to petting and heavy breathing.
    Get the rod stiff, rub the rod around varous non-sexual areas. Undress furhter. Ap[ply Albolene to her her clit, so that her clit can avoid irritation from lack of lubrication. Put my knee into her crotche, and changer her postion to her pussy against my knee, and my pushe agsint her pussy, my dick hanging on her stomach

    Warm: Receptive to some sexual contact
    Apply lubricants, remove remaining clothing, put a sensual gown around her shoulders.
    Hot: Ready for insertion.
    Add Astroglide, and massage the vagina with the tip
     
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  8. Logger

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    Not-Interested to Friendly:

    As I caress my wife, I have been attempting to imagine myself becoming an animal or reptile, and immitating the motions of that animal.

    I sometimes imagine myself a prowling Panther, as I run my tounge and lips around various parts of my wife's body. I am on my hands and knees on the bged. I change positions, and add oil, and create various views of my wife's nipples and clit. I create my own pornographic show with changing views of my wife, as I move around the bed on my fours, and rake off her clothes, with my claw-fingers, ever so gently.

    I am like a Snake, as my penis slithers up her legs, around her arms, chest and stomach.

    I have become an Elephant, as I use my lower thing and knee, to push against my wife's vagina. My trunk bobbing along her stomach and thighs, just gently making minimal contact. My lower thigh is like an elephant's foot as he rolls a log.

    As I run my lips and mouth over exposed parts of my wife's anatomy, I become more excited, and I get harder, as I lick more skin, perhps like a retriever dog, licking a person's hand, with his tounge.

    As my animal tranformations continue, I envison that my wife is becoming more intersted in becoming more accomodating to my desires, needs and fantasies.

    Blessings
     
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    SIGNALS AND OPTIONAL MEANINGS FOR AN OPPOSiTIONAL WIFE.

    My wife is fairly spirited and independent thinkng, as I am also. I did not realize that part ofmy spirit is of an oppositonal nature, that I have a tendancy to want to cut accross the grain, and not follow custom, or the easy way. Idid not realize my traits until after being married some time. I further realized that my wife is rather opposiontal, so W often feels like doing the opposite of what I have in mind for us.

    My wife is best approached while she is dozing, or drifting off to sleep. My wife will take on a postion on the bed, and I have to figure what the best approach is for each position, and what limits apply to each positon.

    On Her Stomach: This means that her back muscles are vbailable for massaging. I can take off her clothes from this an any other position. The object and vison of the back massage is to get W to be limbers for positons on her side and back.

    On Her Side: Teats are available for sucking. The objective is to get her vagina hot through sucking her teats. Lubricate her clitoris and put my knee between her legs, against her vagina and turn her to her back. Optiosn of rubbing my penis on her thighs can be taken if it seems that it is taking too long tgo get her on her back.

    On Her Back: Continue sucking her teats, massage her vagina with my leg, and get her comfortable on her back. Once she is comforable and feeling loving slip to the side, and aply Astroglide, and Vaseline, and get it going.
     
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    Challenges:

    So my wife generally accepts getting her pussy licked, but I have noticed that if I don't get into 69 with me, that she feels more assertive than usual. So I should get her going down on me first before I start going down on her.

    Sometimes my wife likes to startt an argument, and sometimes she satarts an argument before bed. So I just end off the argument, agreeing to disagree,usually, not winning or losing. But the atmosphere ofhte argument then makes me hesitant to approach W for foreplay, when she comes to bed. I usually try to give people space if they are in a bad mood.

    I suppose I should dvelop a more assertive role after a disagreement. Perhaps a ready phrase , "We can talk more about htat in the morning." or I want to understand more about that so I can better come up with a compromise." I need some self-image to re-apprach for foreplay after an unsettled aregument. My wife ordinarily makes me feel like I am a bad person when we argue. Perhaps I should take on the role of a happy burgalur, or a Troll, or some other evil entity. Too often, the argument leave me feeling sad, and undeserving.

    Still Learning
     
  11. zulie

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    maybe you could just say... "you know, I feel so bad about how I've upset you that I think I need a spanking."

    :brow

    asking forgiveness in another tongue, so to speak... lick the mad out of her.
     
  12. Logger

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    Maybe, "I have been so inconsiderate that I probably deserve to get pulled so hard it really hurts."

    Thanks Zulie

    Maybe the attitude of a Satyr, thinking only of fun and pleasure, putting any conscience or worries to the side.

    Blessings
     
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    Satyr Hour:

    I am considering taking an hour, or so. every other day, or so, for sensual relaxation and errogenous pleasure. I have been trying to time ejaculations with my wife, but our schedules are not clicking just now. So I may just set my alarm for 8 hours after going to bed, and just plan to have my Satyr Session. I am more productive during the day, if I ejaculate in the morning, as I am getting up.

    A Satyr was a mytical creature, with the torso of a man, and legs and hooves of a goat. Often with horns. There are paintings from the past centuries of Satyrs who lived in the woods, and chased women all day.

    If I wake up and ghet things going with my wife great. I told her to pinch my Pectoral Muscles if she wanted to move to the next step, but that since she rejects me 95 % of he time, I often feel like I am just pissing in the wind when I try to get my wife hot. So I am not really going to keep delaying my gratification, so that I can ejacualte with her. I am just going to keep my own system leveled out, and if she is not around, so be it. That is my approach for now.

    Next approach options?