This is what I think. The real crux of the issue is that woman like men that respect them as beings, instead of simply as objects of desire. Even if you mistreat a woman, she will be more attracted to you if you mistreat her honestly than if you treat her well dishonestly. What I mean is that many men treat woman "nicely" with the intention to get what is they want from them, which could be a variety of things, but mostly sex and affection. It's not to say that wanting sex and affection from woman is in any way wrong. It's just that approaching it dishonestly is something that woman instinctively sense. When you pretend to be a noble and perfect gentleman, woman see right through you. They'd rather be with an "a shole" who treat them like a real person and stands up for himself than a pushover who does the opposite. Also, woman want a dominant leader of men, not a submissive man who acts like a woman. The most important thing is simply confidence. Believe me, woman want to be treated well. If you can be confident and treat woman well than you will experience significantly more success than any "a hole" will. If you've ever seen the kind of messages men send woman on dating sites like <removed link> you would understand exactly what i'm talking about. A lot of men send woman messages expressing their affection and love for a woman they don't even know. These messages read like love letters. It seems both delusional and manipulative to proclaim your love for a woman you have not even met in person, doesn't it?