for the fellers: how loud are you?

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  1. gurlcat

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    why is it that women almost always moan louder and more frequently during sex? whether its porn or real, it's always the woman you hear moaning and hollering the most and loudest. even when a man does vocalize, it's more grunting than moaning. what's up with that?

    i hope at least a few guys will respond to this because i'm very curious: how does your vocal reaction to pleasure compare with that of the partners you've had? when you're having sex, does it occur to you to make more noise (or less noise?) do you think it's feminine to do lots of moaning and gasping? what's going through your mind when you think about the sounds you're making?

    me personally, i'm actually the most turned on by hearing a man whimper and moan very much like a girl. it's arousing to me to hear a dude so desperate and vulnerable.
     
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    All of the guys I've been with have just breathed heavily the whole time. Sometimes I can't tell if they're enjoying it, or if they're just tired and out of breath.
     
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    For sure I'm not nearly as loud as my wife during orgasms. She talks a little more during foreplay and screwing than me too. Most of my talking is telling her what acts to do, some dirty dalking for her, etc. Then when I am getting off I do moan and talk loud sometimes, but not yelling. She vocalizes (sometimes loud) words that express her pleasure and excitement during the build up then really lets lose loudly during her orgasms. Yeah, we have to make sure the windows are shut.
     
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    I am concentrating pretty hard and prob a minute before ejaculating, I can be quite vocal, and soon, I do groan fairly loudly. She is more exciting to me as I do it to her just to hear her moan before climax. I talk to her pretty hot stuff, hard cursing, and how that pussy is (she loves that), but for me, that's my part, loving to hear her. She's not said anything to me about my groans, I just know that I do.
     
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    I do plenty of exhaling and grunting during sex and orgasm. i love to let my partner know that she is pleaseing me. do you make lots of noise gurlcat?
     
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    Honestly, growing up from the time I started masturbating up until now, majority of the time I HAVE to be quiet. Now, this may seem strange to some of you but my girlfriend never had much interest in masturbating until her and I got together, and quite honestly she STILL doesn't like masturbating. I think she's too impatient to please herself, and would much rather pleasing me as I please her. Anyway, when her and I started messing around, it was HER that had to start learning to be quiet.

    There were a few times where her and I were alone in the house, and she asked me why I never made any noises. In fact, I had NEVER noticed that before. So now we know that when we're alone, to not hold anything back and just let it all out. She's still a more frequent moaner than me, as well as a louder one, but when we're alone and nobody else is around, I've been letting a few moans out myself. At first, I almost felt embarrassed... but then I started thinking... embarrassed? In front of the woman I love?

    Needless to say it only turned her on MORE hearing me make some noise... Worked out well for both of us!!! :brow
     
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    I'm too busy to be thinking about making noices too. I'm trying my hardest to think the exact right amount of sexual thoughts not to come too quick and to still be able to come. It's very demanding mentally and physically already! ^_^

    I don't know.. maybe it's just because women don't have to be afraid of comming to fast that they really can let go. I so can't do that, because I know what happens and it sucks.
     
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    I moan when I'm getting close, and I usually say something like "ugh I'm gonna cum soon." I usually grunt as I'm cumming.
     
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    Me I'm different to all the respondents so far.
    I constantly feed back verbally to my pardner as to what i am feeling.
    She has never said outright if this is turn on or otherwise but seeing as females are more verbally attuned I am going to continue this pratice and anyway it does enhance the moment for me as well.
    Ahhhhh here I come again..............!
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    Depends on how excited and what we are doing but I can be very vocal, for the most part moaning and dirty talk is what I do
     
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    Im just loud enough to make sure she knows shes doing a good job, heavy breathing, a little moaning, and moderately loud verbal compliments.... i think a lot of it is just because theres a preset standard that girls make the noise, i know a lotta guys that feel stupid making to much noise because "it just dosnt seem right"
     
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    I think it's really up how comfortable one is . I personally think it's hard to focus on speaking anything else when the sensation is so intensed. I would be to scream instead. :lol My honey, on the other hand, is really more vocal than me. He likes dirty talking, moaning loud and screaming loud. Reallllly sexy :eek:
     
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    When I'm getting a bj or hand job I can't help but scream LOUDLY when I cum, whether it's an ejaculation or a full-body orgasm. Up until that point I mostly mumble and moan.

    During intercourse I don't think I'm too loud, but either way I'm louder than my wife. If I MUST be quiet, I keep a pillow handy to put over my face. Had to do that yesterday, as we were camping and had neighbors close-by. My wife reminded me that "we have to be quiet", so I grabbed the pillow. :lol

    A few years back, when with my late wife in a hotel, someone called from the floor above us to comment on the party going on in our room. I innocently blamed it on the tv, but the caller just laughed at me.;)
     
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    I'm actually pretty vocal. I don't yell and scream, but I grunt and groan... I say things like "oh yeah!" "Ahhh".

    My wife is as silent as the dead and I hate that.

    I tell her, "When you eat the food I cook, you say, 'mmm'. When I rub your back, you say 'ahhh'. But when we have sex, you don't even have heavy breathing!". She says she doesn't like making noise because she feels like she's being a fake porno woman.

    that's messed up.
     
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    On the female side I absolutely love it loud. Moans, groans, screams are all great :cool The audio aspect of sex is so primal and such a turn on for me. The woman I'm with now can wake the neighborhood with her orgasms :bow

    On my end I had always been pretty quiet but as I've gotten older and more confident I have added some dirty talking or words of encouragement and maybe a little grunting every once and a while. I'm still fairly quiet overall I guess but at least its something now.
     
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    I used to feel like that. My girlfriend used to question if she was doing things right or if it even felt good because I had little reaction and made virtually no sound. I think I was just tense, because that was in the beginning stages of our physical relationship. I guess I just grew up and was like, what the hell, this is my girlfriend, she's seen every inch of my body and I shouldn't hold back. So now, I let it all out. But she definitely takes the cake for being the loud one.
     
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    When I am fucking my wife, I am usually fairly quiet, saying some tender words of love to her, some "I wanna fuck you's" and so forth. However, when my wife does a hand job on me, especially when she rubs my glans with lotion on it, I go wild!

    I knew one guy whose wife would start screaming so loud, during sex, that the police would show up, but, after a while, apparently they got used to it.
     
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    I get a little loud as I approach orgasm, unless the kids are home, and then while I am cumming I pretty much quit breathing and my face turns really red.
     
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