For Hours Before Foreplay

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Logger, Apr 14, 2012.

  1. Logger

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    I sometimes overlook opportunities to stimulate my wife, in moderation, when we have our clothes on, in the house, 8 or more hours before bed time.

    Sometimes I will use the thigh of my leg to massage her bun muscles, while she is standing in the kitchen, and reach around for her thigh muscles, breasts or pubic mound.

    Sometimes I will come up behind her, and start massaging her bun muscles with my lower abdoman and hips, grinding in small circular movements. My limp penis is in her crack, but with clothes inbetween.

    Sometimes I will push her onto a couch, or bed, and grind on a thigh of her leg, or massage her back. Then I release her after some 3 to 20 seconds.

    My wife usually initially, modestly refuses to be kissed, when I approach her for a kiss. She often turns gently away. So I sometimes apply moderate pulling, putting my arm around her back, and pulling her close for a kiss, even a passionate kiss. I seem to get a more loving response, if I don't held her close too long.

    Afterwards, my wife seems to have have a more loving feeling, and usually seems to appreciate the attention.

    Giving attention to my wife, in a meaningful way, is one of my objectives, for my wife.

    Sometimes I have been too assertive, or not used a sufficiently light touch. I need to remind myself to use a light touch.

    Most of the threads under Foreplay, seem to start without pants on. So I was looking for suggestions for the times before foreplay, when we still have our clothes on.

    Pre-Foreplay does not really give me a big charge, but seems to help to keep my wife in a mood, so that is ready for more love action, later.


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  2. Clintriprock

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    We're in a constant state of foreplay. Fun sexting during the day, kisses on the neck while in the kitchen together, candle light at dinner. By the time we get to the bedroom we're already warm
     
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    Precisely! You beat me to it. Also, just talking about sex, particularly matter-of-factly --- not sensually or pornographically. Just talking about what we may or may not do later in the day, does wonders for the actual act.

    My wife will also playfully, "flash" her gorgeous breasts at me. That does it.
     
  4. Alwayslearningsex

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    I didn't read below your post, one thing jumps to mind.
    Never overlook the mental muscle too !!!
    I have living proof it pays off, my ex GF came the moment
    started penetrating her and I came 5 seconds later.
    Short sex, but the brain works as much as the body in sex.
     
  5. thunderseed

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    Oh it seems like your wife likes the romance aspect of foreplay, you can work with that. Instead of the classic Oh i accidentally fell on you trick, you can use the romantic gestures like the classic, Oh are you cold? Let me warm you up honey, and that will lead to very nice foreplay. Or the, Holy shit, look at that storm coming in, don't worry I will protect you because I am a big strong man and I love you so much.

    Or, Whatever you are cooking smells so good, I can't believe you say you aren't that great of a cook, here let me help you with that...

    Or try this classic suddenly and out of nowhere, _____ i just can't stop thinking about how much i love you, and i just need to express my love to you by doing this... LoL

    One of my favorite sexual foreplays is play fighting or playful activities in general. I am very playful, and foreplay doesn't always have to be serious or sensual or aggressive, it can also be fun and innocent. I love to laugh with my partner and embrace my inner child (and immaturity). You can turn anything into foreplay, even a boring game of cards. I once turned a boring conversation into foreplay by starting a game of throwing pennies down each others shirts. Or playfully stealing something from him and getting him to chase me.
    I love to play sports with my partner, it's one of the easiest ways to get into foreplay, playing basketball for example, you can make a lot of playful physical contact. I also love practicing sparring or wrestling. And the best foreplay ever in my books, is clothed play fighting and wrestling.

    Sensual types of foreplay are always more awkward when you have no reason to start it in the first place especially if the other person isn't in the mood. But if you come up with imaginative reasons to touch them, it spices it up and they will be surprisingly pleasantly surprised. Just be creative!
     
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    We call this fleasing... Flirting and teasing.

    It's another way we can enjoy variety.
     
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    Forplay starts when you wake up and stops when you fall asleep :)

    Laughter creates closeness.

    Touching helps you bond.
     
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    I have an alter ego named Ramon, the worlds greatest lover. Sometimes Ramon is my stand in and has a totally different sexual style than Clint. Where Clint is the "pick you up and do you against the wall" guy. Ramon is the slow, sensual sensitive lover with a Latin accent. With Ramon she doesn't get all the inches but she does with Clint. With the Real me she gets the hybridized version.
     
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    I really, really, really love the way my hubby smells. I consider that foreplay. It makes me crazy!

    Just reading what I wrote above makes me think I'm a very strange person.
     
  11. Logger

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    My wife is turned on by after-shave. I used to make splashing after-shave a routine part of starting foreplay. I have fallen out of the habit in recent months. I should start back using aftershave more often.

    Thanks for the reminder.
     
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    No comment , only thank you
     
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    Interrupting for chores. Sometimes I spend too much time in foreplay, when I should be doing chores to make the marriage/relationship more pleasant.

    maybe, "I'll come back and we'll do more."

    Maybe envison some position from my wife, expressing her appreciation for my efforts on my chores. My wife often is not thinking of how she can inspire me for chores that actaully make our marriage better. So I need to create inspiration, flowing from my wife, but not receiving direct encouragement form my lover.

    I could be more explicit to ask for inspiration from my wife for my chores, but sometimes things get twisted into points of contention, then she tries to make her points, rather than encouraging the chores that I do, routinely.

    It may be best just to interrupt foreplay, and create my own visions of rewards from my wife, hoping that sometime later, I will receive emotional appreciation, in some form or another. Maybe not exactly what I have slected to envison during my chores, but something nice.



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    I rub up on wifey all the time. Usually I will run my hand down the back of her arm nice and lite to make her get goose bumps. Also, like Logger i use my thigh on wifeys butt. The slow foreplay all day long. The only problem I have is that she now expects this type of stuff everyday.
     
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    Also, mental foreplay is important as I discovered.
     
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    "Also, mental foreplay is important as I discovered."

    Perhaps projecting the facial expressions of apprecaion of her beauty.

    Sometimes I will be quiet for a minute, and see if I can envison where she would like to be caressed, and then try out that location, to see if there is a pleasure reaction.



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    Hello,
    have you tried giving her a naked massage? Give her a foot massage or a back rub after she comes out of the shower. Believe me this will earn you a BIG BONUS! ;)
     
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    What is wrong with the expectation of foreplay everyday? We do little things all the time, him more than I, but they are there.