For all you married/long term couples

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by UtherPendragon, Feb 15, 2008.

  1. UtherPendragon

    UtherPendragon New Member

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    How do you keep the sex exciting over all the years?
    Interesting to know how long you have been together too.
     
  2. Barbwire

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    Well, first you get a near-sighted badger, some duct tape, and fireworks....

    Seriously, if you want excitement you might try to incorporate toys into your sessions. Erotic massages are good, too. Fantasy and role playing can also be used to spice things up. Try making love in unusual places; take the action out of the bedroom.

    That's all I have for suggestions, I'm sure you will get a lot, here. SF is the land of some pretty exciting people, if you ask me. :)
     
  3. littlelady

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    My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years and our sex is still very exciting. I think its really up to both partners to keep it fun. We both love sex, and enjoy it very very often. To keep it fun we sometimes use toys, and in different ways, have sex in unusual places or places that are public, try innocent role playing, and try alot of new positions. It seems many long term couples fall into a sexual pattern of the same time, or same positions and routine. Surprises are always fun, so you might want to casually bring up a naughty new expierience to try. Or act as flirtacious strangers looking for some fun. As long as you and your partner are open and comfortable about your sex life things will run smoothly
     
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    I've been with my husband for three years ( married a month) and our sex is great, especially when we are really sweet to one another throughout the day. Nothing turns me off more than a guy who was bitchy to me five minutes ago begging for sex. So, we don't do anything special, we just keep our relationship in order in general and that does wonders.
     
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    21 years and sex still sucks!!!!:(
     
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    Role playing and games have kept it interesting for us over the years. An assortment of toys keep it lively also.
     
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    SO and i have been together 11 yrs. we dont see each other alot. so when we have sex its always great. we make plenty of trips to the sex shop. i made a trip there alone for the first time yesterday so he was excited to see what i came home with.
     
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    I like the way you think Lady.
    I really would recommend the things you said
    as I have been married 22 years and we role play often.
    Her a prostitute or slut and She can dress the part.
    Also we have had sex in so many public places that
    its amazing that I'm not in jail.

    Hiker
     
  9. cbrmale

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    We've been married almost 22 years, and there is both routine and variety in our sex life. We vary the time of day: early mornings on weekends and holidays and mid-afternoons at other times. Beyond that, we have little treats every now and then like some light role play, working out a game and playing to win or lose, outdoor sex, a dirty weekend away every now and then and so on. But you can't do these things too often or else they get stale also.

    The most important thing is love. If you are deeply in love, then routine sex in bed and cuddling and talking afterwards is often as good as it needs to be. Another important thing is for both of you to be in tune with each other's sexual script. Sexual compatibility is elusive to many couples, but only way to get there is through communication.
     
  10. eandvk

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    Been together over 11 yrs. and married 8 of them and our sex life is still pretty hot n spicy...we use toys at times, do different positions and techniques, having sex at different times of the day also keeps it unique...different rooms too...and just about 2 months ago we started to watch some porn vids together....which has brought out other aspects of our sex life.
     
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    My fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years and have 2 kids together and it's lie we were still a fresh new couple. It's only about the sex but he is still attracted to me and I am him. We still flirt with one another, if we are in a room full of people I may sit across the room and we give each other little looks and gestures. If I am cooking or doing something the occasional walk up behind me and touch a naughty spot. We still call each other several times a day t just talk to one another about anything. Our relationship is still fresh, so it gives us something to look forward to. We use toys, and we are a very open minded couple, we watch porn, we also try and find positions that we may not have done before.
     
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    I have been with my husband for 8 years (married 3 on the 20th!) and our sex life is better now than it ever has. We talk about things that we think would be interesting then follow through on trying them. Just last week we were having sex and used a silicone lubricant. He starting rubbing it on me and I quickly advised him to stop since that doesn't come off with anything! So we got the bright idea to get some baby oil and a vinyl sheet. We ended up buying a vinyl shower curtain liner and a huge bottle of baby oil and ran home that night like teenagers. I have to say it was one of the most fun experiences I have ever had!

    So I guess my advice is to voice yourself. Had I not mentioned I wanted to try baby oil, we may have never had all that fun. Speak up and get creative!
     
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    This is our 15th year being married. I think variety and really paying attention to each others wants and needs is key.
     
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    Man, this is absa-friggin'-lutely true (for me too, even though I'm a guy!). Sex and intimacy start a long time before the bedroom. Love is supposed to be kind...'nuff said.

    Some ideas:
    - Toys...try 'em on each other! Drop any and all inhibitions and go for it!
    - Fantasize...some of the best things you can do is involve additional people in your imagination. By this, I mean fantisize together, not by yourself. Drop you inhibitions and go with it!
    - Go to a strip bar and get a couple's lap-dance. You'd be surprised how hot this can actually be for both of you! The dancer's are generally quite turned on by the idea of entertaining a woman as well as entertaining a guy (I guess it's quite a change of pace!)

    Cheers!
    BD
     
  15. slamd097

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    11 years. I dress up like little bo peep and run around with the can hanging out my ass while she skiis behind me swinging our cat over her head screaming "the red coats are coming"

    actually, we just do what we do. Each time we try something new, or we do something we liked from a while ago. We try not to repeat anything too often....or we do as I said before..:D
     
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    Married 42 years and still have wild, kinky sex 3-4 times a week. We watch sex DVD'S during sex. We especially like to watch group sex DVD'S including DP and fantasize. DW loves to watch men masturbating and cum shots on DVD.We do mutual masturbation, all sorts of oral, toys, different positions, fantasize, prostate massage, cum swapping and strap on sex and anything else we happen to think of.