Flirty vs friendly

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  1. xtacy4

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    When engaging with someone of the opposite sex, what are things that you interpret as flirting versus just being friendly?
    *In real life situations*
     
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    I think on a site like this one, it would be a safe assumption that most are flirty or enjoy showing off or being admired. As long as it stays in those parameters, A little attention shouldn't hurt anyone.
     
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    I meant in real life situations. In general
     
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    That's a different animal LOL. Doesn't take much to lead most guys on.
     
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    Ok, but what are those things? Or maybe when you're intentionally trying to flirt and not get friend zoned, what do you do? What cues from women make you think she's digging you? Or subtle cues men give? I'm not hunting for a specific answer, just a general discussion about these things. I think personality is a big part that comes into play, but it's an interesting topic to think about.
     
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    I would think by being extra complementary from either could be misunderstood.
     
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    If a woman, say;
    Sends me pic of her smiling face.
    Or,
    Makes a point of telling me her name.
    OR,
    Tells me something intimant like she burps
    :)
     
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    I think it's more about body language than what is being said. More smiles, an opener stance, eye contact.

    Conversation tends to be about them, not about general stuff. There's some extra helping of compliments.

    Some people will go as far as touching hands, arms, shoulders, or back.

    One'll linger.
     
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    Who is she?! :mad::rolleyes::p
     
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    it's different for every guy some guys take just a simple smile as flirting and not just being friendly. It's definitely more about body language than anything else, I feel once it moves to touching (excluding hugs from someone you know of course) it moves to the flirting.
     
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    Sometime it's hard to tell, I have male friends who are friendly in a flirty way but don't intend it too be flirty. (Not sure that it makes sense) I do think Itvdepends on how well you know the person. Some flirting is totally harmless. I have guy friend who touch me in an inappropriate as they were guys who hadn't been around long and threybdint knew me so well. Some guy friends We know the touching doesn't mean anything.
    And the 'inappropriate' moments are just fun, nothing more. (Drunk senceslees post lol)
     
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    Good question @xtacy4
    Well besides the obvious "lets go back to my room" agreement lol I'd say some of the things below are signals women tend to give off they are being more flirty than friendly...
    a lot can be told from eye contact. If someone seems to make a lot of eye contact, warm smiles, (playing with hair/twirling is often a giveaway for women too) all of that comes into play. Lots of compliments can be telling. The classic arm touch (or even more obvious thigh/leg touch) is often a sign too. Now all of these have to be taken in context as some of these can just be friendly things. I think in the end, most of the time, people are pretty good about perceiving when its flirty for real, flirty just for fun or just friendly.
     
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    That was long time ago. :)
    Really
    @xtacy4
     
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    Continuous eye contact, constant smile, constantly flicking hair, adjusting clothes, keep crossing/uncrossing legs, occasional touching. It's one of things that just suddenly clicks and you know when it's happening.
     
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    I think there's a sliding scale of what men consider flirty behavior from women. For a lot of us early on, seeing as we don't typically get the same romantic and visual attention as our female counterparts, any type of friendly attention can be misconstrued as romantic interest. Later on we may pick up on subtleties than discern between romantic and platonic interest, but I think even then it's determined upon a sense of self worth and social reinforcement.
     
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    Hmmm...
    If I sense the slightest flirt, my mind tries hard to tell me I'm imagining it, almost like wishful thinking. The last thing I'd want to do, is mis read a friendly gesture as a flirt. Maybe considered, being to safe an not acting on it if she's actually doing it. But, if there's a hint of a flirt, then I'd try to return a hint or atleast keep better attention to see if it is my imagination. As others have said, there's looks, noticeable eye contact, small gestures ( fluffing/teasing hair,touching her lips, etc) or just a comfort to come closer than usual... :rolleyes:

    Hard part is knowing when it's more than just a friendly flirt, an to respond accordingly...

    I think most ladies know to read a guy very easily, an we think we are subtle an that's actually only in our imagination that we're so smooth. I'm sure there are the few guys out there that are exceptions to this an are "suave n smooth", but I'll guess it's rare few. Just a theory I have.
     
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    Lady at checkout:
    Friendly: "would you like a box?"
    Flirty: "Would you like a little box for your meat?"
     
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    Flirtier: Would you like a big box for your meat?
     
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    You can tell in the eyes..or physical contact that is unnecessary. But I dont care what's said or being spoken about. I have been eye banged thoroughly before and there was no way to mistake it. But Flirty is just fun and games, I dont personally take it to mean anything.
     
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    Eye banged. That's a new one :p