First Time Anal

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by idk, Aug 5, 2006.

  1. idk

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    ok so tonight me and my girlfriend were messing around and we both decided we wanted to try anal sex, i probly should have done more reasearch first but i have some questions.

    are girls different then guys cuz i heard gay guys get some problems when they have anal sex cuz it pops blood cells or something in there, is that a problem with girls?

    second is when we were done her but was bleeding a little, it was very very little, is that ok?

    later that night she said it kinda hurt and is a little nervous of what to expect as far as pain goes for the next couple of days?
     
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    I'm not a doctor,but I heard that blood vessel thing can happen to males and females.

    A little bleeding can be normal,you're body isn't used to it.However, you should be very careful.You don't want to rip anything.Lube helps.

    It will probably feel a little uncomfortable.It'll probably feel like that for a few days.It should improve with time.

    It can be fun,just be careful and make sure you listen if she's uncomfortable.
     
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    thanks,

    she said she really liked it and the sounds she made i could tell she liked it, we are just a little worried if its safe to do?

    and i read something about noxonly 9 or somethin in a lube will make the skin break or something should i use a special lube?
     
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    I really don't know about that.I would think as long as you or her have no sensitivities toward them,it wouldn't matter.Personally,I don't use any,but some of my friends do,I'm not sure which kinds though.
     
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    ...and try not to be too rough.Ease into it.
     
  6. Rose

    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    It is good to do some anal foreplay, as well. This helps loosen up that tight opening, so it doesn't hurt as much.
    She will probably be sore for a few days. I know I was. And I walked funny, too! haha But as you experience it more, it doesn't seem to hurt like the first few times. Definitely use lube. We just use KY (old fashioned, I know), but whatever you guys use for vaginal sex should be fine.
     
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    Anal is such a great thing when its done right!! Thx.. I just needed to say that cause me and my girl loves it @ most points i wish thats all we did LOL..
     
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    is anal sex safer then vaginal sex, i know she cant get prenant but is there anything that can happen?
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    "Safer" in what way?
    Unless you use a condom, she could technically get pregnant. Sperm could find it's way into the vaginal area, and those little boogers could swim right on up to an egg, fertilize it, and guess what - - You're gonna be a daddy!
    As far as "STI's", again, unless you use a condom, you are open to giving and recieving any virus that is present.

    Also, if you are large, or tend to slam, you could damage her colon area, so restraint should be used.
     
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    Did anyone else find this particular saying completely ironic and hysterical?
    :lol
     
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    Ironic? No. Truer words have not been spoken. "Ease" emotionally, symbolically, physically..... indeed. LOL.
     
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    Perhaps "ironic" was the wrong term to use, it just struck me as applicable and utterly funny.
     
  13. Tommyhot

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    Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..

    The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.

    Anal play for beginners

    Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

    First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
    Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

    Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

    Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
    Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
    After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
    GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!

    The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
     
  14. pussycat69

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    Hey,don't laugh at me:lol ...it's true.There was no better choice of words:p .
     
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    Why thank you.See,a girls who knows a thing or two...;)
     
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    It sounds as though you probably rushed it, did not strech it prior to entry, and did not use enough lubrication. A little blood is alright as it is due to the skin tearing a bit and there might be some blood in her stools too, again that is normal. Anal sex unlike vaginal requires allot of preparation due to the fact the anus does not lubricate like the vagina. Best thing is to use allot of lubrication, enter slowly, and strech out the anus with some finger play prior to entry.
     
  17. Bluesy

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    Hmm... I've read a bunch of stuff about anal sex because I would like to do it someday, and what I've read comes from sex education sites, from people who have medical degrees, and so this isn't based on hearsay. Everything I've read says blood is a bad sign and pain is not good, either. A tear too deep, and you've got an anal fissure, and the only way to correct that is through surgery (which is not at all fun from what I understand).

    It's not an area designed for sex, so you have to be gentle and go slow. Pain means stop. It should not hurt if you're doing it correctly, and if she's ready for it. I've been using a toy only slightly larger than my index finger for a little while now and that is all I am able to comfortably play with. Slow dilation is best.
     
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    Bluesy said it best. Progress slow and easy. A 1/4 inch feels like a mile on the receiving end. There should be no pain or blood. Communicate, lube, communicate, lube and more lube. When you think you have applied enough lube, add more. Hemorrhoids or fissures are no fun. I also beleive guys should also be on the receiving end. There is no better way to know what it feels like for your partner than to experience it yourself. Face it, both sexes have the same orifice. Enjoy!
     
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    There should be no blood, nor pain. What you're describing could be an Anal Fissure, a rip in the anal lining. I'd suggest not attempting anal sex until the pain subsides and the bleeding stops (else you're just reinflame the wound), but note that sometimes anal fissures require medical treatment to completely heal. If she is feeling pain now whilst having bowl movements this most likely what she has.

    As for girls being different from guys, there is no difference.

    In the future if you want to attempt it again, or if anyone else is thinking about starting to try anal you could do what my wife and I did. I bought a butt plug about the size of my penis, and over 6 to 9 months we slowly worked on her anus until she could take the entire plug in. It is a slow process, but in the end it definetely paid off.

    The basic rule is however it should not hurt, there should be NO blood and you should be using ALOT of lube, I suggest "Maximus" its a water based lube and stays around longer then most other lubes.
     
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    You all should have gone to medical school! Ha, ha! Reminds me of a bunch of surgeons before they handle a case waiting in the operating room!