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  1. matt4265

    matt4265 New Member

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    Hi,

    i have been with my girlfeidn for 6 months now, she is my first partner, and am her first, so we are new to evrything. i fingered her for the first time, and she said that it hurt and she didnt really enjoy it, i dont know why this is? also whats the best way to stimulate the clitoris?

    i am new to all of this, help would be appreciated,

    Thx :ugh
     
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    happyhousewife3 New Member

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    You have to make sure she is wet, if she isnt use ky or some other lube, it will hurt if she isnt wet enough. Also start with one maybe two fingers, and myself I perfer just sliding in and out, dont get to wild and move your fingers all around, for a lack of a better word dont dig around in there, just slid in and out gently. as for clit stimulation be gentle with that also, not all women like direct stimulation on their clit.
     
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    taking longer for foreplay could do something too, if you enjoy kissing... u might try to kiss longer... lots of skincontact together,,,,and before fingering, try to use your tong at her clit for example. good luck.
     
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    kissing AND fingering at the same time is nice....but i find it hard to multitask like that tho i find i either kind of stop kissing or fingering...lol
     
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    The only thing I can say about this is don't go straight into the fingering, you defo have to kiss and stuff first or even touch her over her trousers there, that way she'll be wet. Because it really does hurt when you're not wet. :)
     
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    thx for the helped, we do start from kissing and i did touch her over her trousers there, but i think she is just not used to anybody touching there, may just take a bit of getting used to :)
     
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    It does take some getting used to.
    The first couple of times my boyfriend fingered me, it hurt and I was sore afterwards. Now I'm used to it and it never hurts.
     
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    I didn't feel like reading the other threads so this may have been said already

    Start slow,
    First wet your finger, i use salivia(sp)
    Next wet her clitoris, keep it wet if it starts to dry wet it some more
    Next gentle press, slowly and gently
    Do this for a while it may take some time to turn her on, a good way to help with turning her on is plenty of foreplay, kissing, stroking, neck biting etc...
    Once she is turn on you can go a little stronger and faster but watch her motions
    Key is to go gentle until you learn you don't want to hurt her
    And also don't do anything to crazy, simple is key to fingering, I have found anyway

    Hint: trim your finger nails they can hurt her

    Good luck and been gentle until you learn
     
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    thanks for the advice vampire raver, i will have to try it.
     
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    Yeah, now that I think about it, it did hurt a bit the first few times for me... it'll probably just take some work :)
     
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    thanks for the help everyone.

    muchly appreciated
     
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    Each woman gets stimulated differently. With my wife, just massaging her nipples is enough to get her wet. She used to love to have me finger her clit after she was aroused when her sex drive was higher. You need to take your time and find what gets her aroused and then start on her clit after she's already wet. Performing oral sex on her first might help.
     
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    Yes make sure she is nice and wet. My gf gets turned on when I just get on top of her, and dry hump her and move my crotch up and down on hers. She gets turned on too by just seeing my dick which is nice. Once she is turned on, then you can finger her, but do it slowly at first, and make sure your nails are clipped and not sharp so you dont scratch her or anything bad.