fingering problems

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  1. youngboy933

    youngboy933 New Member

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    Last Thursday, I tried fingering my gf for the first time. I licked my fingers before I went inside her, and she said it felt good at first, but then it started to hurt. I think it may have been a lack of wetness. Should I buy lube and how do I apply it to my fingers. How should I better prepare her before i do it. Should I feel around the edges more She's not ready for me to eat her out yet. what type of lube should I use?
     
  2. happy

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    no lube really, but if yo must just buy some ky jelly. Just keep re licking your fingers, and manly rub her clit, no need to go ramming around in her hole. I usually use the hole to gather more lube
     
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    what are sex bux?
     
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    Thanks for your reply but if im not stickin my finger in the hole what should I be doing?
     
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    Go a little slower at first, feel around the edges and then move fingers in slowly over a few minutes. The lube is up inside her and needs to be drawn out so keep first few minutes gentle. Good idea licking your fingers. I agree with happy rub her clit for a while first.
     
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    It takes a while for m y wife to get wet enough so I play with the clit and lightly rub the lips for a while before I stick a finger in. You might ask her to push you in when she is ready, then it is her fault. It is a lot wetter if you are slobbering all over the lips from sucking her. Instead of licking or sucking your finger, try spitting on it.
     
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    Also make sure you don't have fingernails ... don't want to scratch her :)
     
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    What works well for me is to run my finger gently on the inside of the labia, right down the middle, applying minimal pressure. Usually works pretty quickly.
     
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    For lube I like
    http://www.sylk.com.au/

    If you prefer to not use lube then give her oral...treat her yoni and the las thing in this life you are going to taste...spend an eternity kissing and licking her sweet sacred space.

    Ok really back to work now ;)
     
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    Lubricate her with your mouth first, making sure to give her clit proper attention. You'll know when she's wet enough and open enough when your finger slips in fairly easily, but you can feel she is swelling up. Always make sure that you go in palm side up, and use a "come here" motion against the roof of her vagina. Thats where you find the G-Spot. That stabbing motion like it was a cock is not going to work, unless you are shooting a porno :) And if you work her up enough, lube probably won't be necessary. Concentrate on everything besides her pussy (nipples, neck, face, you get the idea). That will get her wet enough to take just about anything you have to give her.
     
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    Ok thanks for all your replies
    She does not want me to give her oral yet and she's very self concious about her body. She doesn't even want me to take her underwear off
     
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    Anal.

    I had a similar problem with my boyfriend. We decided that anal was a more gentle approach. Don't ask her about this - just take her by surprise. She'll love it. I did. And I remained a virgin. My dad is proud of me.
     
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    if it hurts inside her do something different..

    try just hitting the G-spot.. what i found works best on my girlfriend inside her is this:
    to get an idea of how i'm positioned..
    imagine the back of my hand on her stomache, keeping that same position, i put my two fingers inside her until i hit her spot (2-3 inches inside) then make a motion like 'come here' with my two fingers so its pressing up on it and then backing away then pressing again on it..
     
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    lub is good but i advice you massage