Fingering Good or Bad

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    I heard figerin before sex kills the penis shock for women is that true?

    I finger my girlfriend sometimes (most of the time) before sex an the only difference to me is she looseness up a bit and also she is more wet before my penis goes in. Sometimes I even make her cum by fingering her deep and fast, this makes sex better for her because she has more orgasms during intercourse.

    The major difference is when i finally put my penis in her she is already going so she doesn't react to it as she would if i didn't finger her.

    Should I stop fingering her so much? Because to me a girls reaction when u stick your penis in can determine hard or soft. Although she is already in full drive making noises and the faces(the sex look) if she doesn't react much when stick my penis in that's a turn off for me, and no matter how good it is for her I don't enjoy it. And when I'm not into it I don't cum which leads to my little solider severely aching after sex also I may become soft while still in her.

    So can someone give some advice I'm only 19
     
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    the vagina tends to adapt to what is in it. so after adapting to your finger, ur penis will feel bigger. of course u can put much more pressure and friction on her g-spot by fingering her and ur penis won't be as intense. unless ur like cbrmale, and most of us aren't.
     
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    Does she orgasm during sex?
     
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    yeh she does often to but more orgasms are achieved when i finger her. But I'm the problem I get trouble staying up when I don't get that reaction i'm looking for, the sex is great for her but most of the time I don't have an orgasm unless I pull out and jerk off

    and whats a cbrmale?
     
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    I would not recommend figs inside her vagina though would make more more interesting cunnilingus
     
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    He's a member here.
     
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    ok thanks
     
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    Have you talked to her about this? She's not stupid, she's probably noticed something's up.
     
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    Re: Figering Good or Bad

    I worry that it sounds like your sex is alittle too much like a porn movie. My wife has always been hungry for my cock when we have sex regardless of what foreplay consists of. At some point she just wants me inside her so bad she's begging for it.

    If your gf orgasms during fingering it may be that she passes into a resolved stage of sexual excitement and this is affecting you both. Try to pay attention to her excitement level. When you sense her orgasm is near slow down and keep her on the edge. The more you can do this, the more intense her orgasm will be. If you work up her arousal phase a little longer then maybe when you you do enter her the feeling of your cock will be so much better for her and you will get the reaction you seek.

    Or I might be wrong. I would like to hear from the ladies on this one.
     
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    For me, if nothing touches that area in a few days, when it does, it's somewhat shocking. If it's a week. It's quite an exciting shock. In longer....my whole body shudders from excitement.

    There is a moment, in when i am being teased, i can get 2 things. 1, a pleasurable ache. This is a definite feel of my own pulse down there and a longing, a tightening, an excitement... And if that isn't satisfied it turns into a negative ache. When i assume I'm about to be toughed there, and really believe it, and I'm not- It starts to ACHE as in a painful ache, not a longing ache. I'm not saying it hurts, but it isn't pleasurable. I can feel my pulse down there but it's a uncomfortable feeling, very frustrating. When I'm penetrated in this state it is not only relief but pleasure also...and kind of like having an itch...the more friction after that point the more relief and pleasure i feel it's a really different state. I like being penetrated in both states and the excitement of getting so worked up that it's uncomfortable. I wouldn't really choose one over the other. You basically need to make her want it badly. If you finger her you're already satisfying her and she's accustomed t o something moving there, how can she be "shocked" if you put your penis inside her if she is already used to a presence in there?

    The secret is time between penetrations and how much she's been teased to want it (or just how long she's been longing. I don't need to be teased to want one inside me....)

    So I suggest, maybe tease her, perform oral on her, lick around, lick the button, not inside. Until she's begging for it. That personally drives me mad. And then when u finally do penetrate her, you will definitely see a reaction. Definitely.

    So yeah, probably lay off the fingering sometimes...Do it on less common occasions, for her? She would still cum from sex without fingering yeah?
     
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    No I haven't spoken to her about it but she doz inquire about how I'm able to go 2hr+ without an orgasm. I just tell her that the way I am. I don't tell her it because I can't. Its better one of us enjoy it than none of us. She really like how i'm able to give her multiple orgasms with out me losing momentum so I keep whats goin on with me secret, for her.
     
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    sounds good i'll try that one question though:

    Should I follow her demands while proforming because she is very vocal
    i don't follow them much i usually do my own thing, she seems to like it a lot
     
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    ok i will but i already do oral on her and she wants my tounge in her but i don't do it