[Ask a Girl] Fingered myself for the first time and I felt nothing. Is this normal?

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  1. RocketHanna

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    I couldn't sleep so I decided to masturbate. I usually go for clitoral stimulation but I decided to finger myself instead thinking I'd get even more pleasure. Masturbation for me tends to just involve rubbing my clit through my underwear and while it feels great, the pleasure tends to be quiet short lived.

    So I put on one of my favorite pornos, did some nipple play and got to work fingering myself. I started with one finger then added another. To say the least I was surprised to have not felt any pleasure at all. I tried pushing my fingers in as far as they could go, did circular motions and curved my fingers upward and stroked which only resulted in me pressing against what I can only assume was my bladder because I had the feeling of wanting to pee. I tried different speeds and still nothing.

    I must have been at it for atleast 15-20 minutes. I don't know what the heck I was doing wrong. Is this even normal?

    Frankly I'm disappointed and any excitement I might have had towards having sex for the first time has gone down significantly.
     
  2. Baby girl, I don't know what happened. I'm so sorry. Maybe you need a little help! :) You know us girls got to stick together.

    I actually didn't feel too much until I lost my virginity. Now I'm super sensitive. I don't know! Keep trying! (;
     
  3. MordsithLove

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    Don't pressure yourself too much. I can only be satisfied by clitoral stimulation when I masturbate, any penetration I do, does nothing for me. However , sex is ah-mae-zing and i cant get enough :) So just because fingering or penetrating yourself doesn't do much, does not mean penetration from sex will be the same.
     
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    im the same way. no penetration when i masturbate becuase it would just be a waste of time for me. if i can orgasm over and over again from clitoral, id rather spend my time doing that then penetration that gives me nothing. but like mordsith said, sex still feels great. its for some reason when its me doing it to myself and it just doesnt do anything for me.
     
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    Agreed.
    i have short fingers and a belly, so fingering myself is just really akward, and i get nothing out of it. sometimes, i will use a dildo or something, but usually, its just my fingers or a vibe against my clit.

    penetration during sex, though, feels amazing. And when redic is going down on me, i love it when he uses his fingers (which he rarely does) inside of me while his tongue plays with my clit.
     
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    Nah, nothing wrong with ya. I don't get much outta fingering. I can get really wet and squirt, but no orgasm. And it's hard work to achieve that. Haha. I don't even bother anymore. I can only get and orgasm from my hubs fingering me if I'm really horny and my clit is being stimulated too.
     
  7. Dragon_Fire

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    Yep, I'm another one who gets nothing out of fingering myself. However when they're HIS fingers it's a whole lot different.
     
  8. rileyjane

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    I have about a 3" vibrator made especially for clotorial stimulation.... It works great give it a try!
     
  9. Nikkitta

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    Vibrators all way for solo fun :)
     
  10. MordsithLove

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    Agreed, vibrators will be next on the list of precious items to save when the house burns down. It's like lays potato chips..."Bet'cha can't have just one!"
     
  11. Nikkitta

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    :lol got myself a 'love box' to save face in this exact event.
     
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    ^^Exhibit A
     
  14. mrcock

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    do you mean it is a nudity, illegal to post at this section?
     
  15. MordsithLove

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    No...
    I really mean Exhibt A.
     
  16. mrcock

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    seems like I get it now
     
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    Exhibit A shows why without extra long arms (or real short body) it is not easy for a woman to do this and enjoy the full experience.
    Some can do however.........:)
     
  18. mrcock

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    toy can solve the problem
     
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    The only way I get any satisfaction out of fingering myself is when I finger my G-spot inside. You were way in too deep if you were hitting your bladder. Try to find your own spot by softly and barely curving your finger don't bend too much cuz that can hurt, when you find it you'll know it. If I try going in and out ehhh does nothing for me either. But like a lot of you pointed out when its someone else's fingers.... Oh hell yes! I love that shit!
     
  20. Dragon_Fire

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    I think it's kind of like nipple play. If he does it, I can orgasm but if I do it myself it's as exciting as watching the grass grow.