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  1. pyroman13

    pyroman13 New Member

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    How do u make a girl orgasm by fingering her.Like whats the technique? In a sitting down position like two ppl sittin next to each other in a movie theatre. Sorry for the lame explanations
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    That position might work if you're actually in a movie theater:brow

    I can vouch that one great way to do it is adding the fingering while doing oral. It's a sure fire way to make her scream with pleasure & wanting more.

  3. pyroman13

    pyroman13 New Member

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    I see

    I know how to eat her out and make her orgasm, but how do i go about it when i finger her in the movie theatre?
  4. Quinnie

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    If you're right handed, sit on her left side. (Vice versa if you're left handed!)

    Reach over with your hand and use either your index finger or your middle finger or both. Hopefully she'll open her legs a little for you - it's better if she's wearing a skirt. Rub her pussy gently and teasingly through the material of her underwear for a little while - girls like the teasing build up. Stroke up and down and if you can feel the slight bulge of her clitoris, then focus on that a little too - tickle it gently but firmly and then go back to stroking up and down. She should be getting nice and damp by now.

    Ease aside the material of her underwear and dip inside to her pussy. Start by probing the entrance hole to her pussy first - don't actually finger fuck her - just dip in and out gently and slowly to excite her. Play with her lips - both inner and outer - for a while, stroking and squeezing. Her clitoris should really be tingling by now.

    Move your finger/s up to her swollen clitoris and with either one or two fingers, rub her button smoothly and slowly in circles. (Lots of girls, me included, can't bear the sensation of direct pressure to the head of the clitoris so maybe focus on the shaft and the area that surrounds the erect clitoris itself. If she moans and shifts her hips, you can apply more pressure to the head.)

    You can alternate between fingering her hole with rubbing her clitoris. But to have an orgasm, a woman needs the pressure to be ryhthmically applied to her clitoris. Once she gets to the point where she wants to come, keep the rubbing constant and don't stop and start or change tactic. Just keep on doing what you're doing and soon she'll be flooding.

    Would love to hear how you got on.
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    Well, I'll let you know what works for me,

    Clitoral stimulation is always a plus, but have you guys ever heard of a G-Spot? Its true that only 20-35% of women can attain g-spot orgasm, but if you can get your girl there, its totaly worth it. As Quinnie said, start off nice and slow, don't just rush at your girl. Girls tend to like it slow, and its them wetter if you tease them more. Once your girl is good and ready, slip your pointer and middle fingers inside of her so that your palm is facing towards her stomach (if once you get going 2 fingers isn't enough, go for the ring finger as well). On the fronth (where her tummy is) inside wall is where you will find the G-Spot. Using a come hither motion of your fingers (think of a six year old calling her cat). At first she might feel like she has to pee really bad, but generally it gets better from there. If she wants to get involved, get her to push on the outside of her stomach where you are inside, this makes its tighter and gets a warm feeling going all the way through her!

    Hope this helps!
  6. AndyC

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    Here's a guy's view on this :)! Get nice and comfortable. Always helps. There's two positions I tend to use to finger a gal to orgasm. Each allows slightly different techniques to be used.

    The first is with her lying on her back and me to the right of her so I can lean above her from the right (I'm right handed, switch to the other side if u're left handed). I'll describe what I do in this position first and then cover the other things u can do with the second.

    Stroke all over her body to start of with. A sensual touch varies from woman to woman. For one it might be a light feathery touch with the nails slowly dragged up and down her body. For another it might be a much firmer touch with the pads of your fingers. Experimentation is the key.. that and picking up on how she responds. Does she wriggle like it's ticklish? Can you feel goosebumps? Try a different touch. Can you see her starting to flush/breathe harder? Always a good sign. Again vary your touch and find one that your gf likes. Touch and pressure is everything AND bear in mind what may work fine in early arousal is hardly adequate later on (generally a much firmer/some would say harder touch is required as a lady gets more turned on though some just prefer the same light touch throughout). Move in a downwards direction. Slide your fingers up the inner side of her thighs (first one and then the other) towards her crotch but avoiding direct contact with clit/labia/vagina at this stage. Once you reach the crotch with your fingers, slide around the labia towards her pubic bone. Repeat several times. Don't be afraid to go back to a more generalised caress of her entire body. Tease her :).

    Once you're ready for more, don't just dive straight in with your fingers into her vagina. Again use a more general touch.. say the flat of your palm and rub it firmly against the genital area you've been carefully avoiding before now. If she's dripping wet at this stage, u'll feel it and know it and can consider mixing some finger penetration in though not too much.. u're still wanting to get her as turned on as possible (even frustrated that u're teasing her so much!) Here's a link to a pic that shows the difference between the labia majora (outer lips) and labia minora (inner lips).

    http://www.physiciansselect.com/viagra-for-women.htm

    The point to note is almost everyone knows that the clit is the female equivalent of the penis. But not many know that the labia majora is the female equivalent of the scrotum. Play with the labia majora. Most guys like their scrotum been played with.. so too do women enjoy caresses to their labia majora. I use two fingers (palm facing vagina - fingers curved like a pianists) and run it in between the groove of the labia majora and labia minora. Start from the bottom of the vaginal opening and run fingers up along the mentioned groove and it will lead you straight on to the clit. Again avoid it the first few times.. and then just as she's least expecting it have your fingers run up around the grooves till they meet at the clit. (I always find this a gasp inducing moment if u've spent long enough making them really want you to touch that spot). Also if you've done this right they'll be dripping wet which gives u all the lubrication u need to insert a finger or four (depending on what's comfortable for them of course!)

    There are several clitoral caresses that you can use and I vary them but generally I use a light touch initially especially if it's still hidden beneath it's hood and not very erect. Usually this is with two fingers over the hood and I simply rub from side to side/or just rub down one side/or in an O/even tapping gently over it.. start slow and move to very fast (as she gets more excited). How fast is fast enough? Simple.. nothing is quite ever fast enough :). But the key again is variation not only to tease her but to give your fingers a rest. When I need a break I often move on to something else (generally finger stimulation/penetration at this stage). As the clitoris protrudes more some (becomes more erect) some ladies will tolerate a more direct touch.. other ladies will find it much to sensitive and will still prefer that u rub the clit indirectly through it's hood. If she's pushing towards you fingers go harder. If she's pushing into the bed then go lighter. If she tolerates a more direct touch I often use my index and ring fingers to spread the labia majora and use the middle finger to rub directly on the clit.

    Fingering the vagina.. again there are several techniques that I use and vary. The first time u insert a finger always make sure she's wet. If she's not then tease her more first. I tend to start with one finger (my middle) and in keeping with my teasing theme I insert that slowly and just within the introitus (opening of the vagina) at first. If that's wet I "tickle" the opening just letting the tip of my finger in each time my finger strokes and then all of a sudden I'll just slide my finger in as deep as I can (hence make sure she's dripping wet). This is another gasp inducing moment if done right.

    There are several things you can do with your fingers. Just a slow in out motion with one or more fingers (simulating intercourse). Bear in mind that the introitus has the most nerve endings (especially stretch receptors) compared to the inside of the vagina which has much fewer nerve endings. That's why a lot of ladies like thickness over length. Use that when u finger her.. as u move your fingers from inside to out, spread them in a v shape so that they stretch the introitus. Not too much though, u can over do this one. Or use the reverse.. ie 3/4 fingers if you can get them to slide easily in. How many fingers u can get in depends on the girl. The younger they are the more toned the muscles generally are and the fewer fingers u will be able to get in. Use as many as she finds pleasurable. Bear in mind some ladies actually find a degree of discomfort pleasureable too.

    Other things to do with your fingers? Well there's the running your fingertips along the anterior wall of the vagina (palm against the labia - hook fingers) that's been described in another post to find the G-Spot. (This always feels like a bump to me and most gals will know when u hit it). U can also draw little O's inside with the tip of your fingers (ala Sybian/Rabbit vibrators that have a revolving end).

    Play find the cervix (neck of the womb - link to pic for those who don't know what it looks like.. it's in the upper diagram)

    http://health.allrefer.com/health/cervix-treatment-cryosurgery-female-reproductive-anatomy-1.html

    The cervix doesn't actually have a lot of nerve endings BUT some ladies definitely find it makes a difference when it's touched/hit during intercourse (hence why some ladies like a really long one). There are several things u can do.. push hard/deep against it (simulating deep penetration), run your fingers around the circumference (draw O's around it).

    One other thing I do to have my palm flat against the labia/clit and to curve my fingers so that's it's lying against the front (anterior) wall of the vagina (like for G spot stimulation). Then I simulate intercourse but as the fingers are withdrawn they rub along whe whole front wall of the vagina and as they come out the palm/lower end of the fingers is putting pressure against the labia/clitoris and the reverse is true. As you insert your fingers back in along the front wall u're also putting pressure over the clitoral area with your palm and sliding your fingers internally over the G spot. (Really a best of both worlds if done right - just can't be done as fast as some of the other techniques and less likely to induce an orgasm).

    When u're ready to make her come, I'd suggest one of two things. Direct clitoral stimulation using a firm touch as described above or vaginal stimulation using a thrusting in out motion or both. With the vaginal a very deep fast thrusting motion usually with two/three fingers is most effective and I mean fast. And once she come that way if my hand is tired (and believe me it's usually quite tired) I'll move on to direct clitoral stimulation. Generally speaking if they are aroused enough, it's quite easy to bring them off to multiple orgasms - the key really is the heightened state of sexual arousal. Keep going after they come and don't stop vary between the two types of stimulation. When do u stop? Well when they hit what physiologist would call an absolute refractory state :). That's when the nerves no longer function as they would normally which translates in real life to your touch is ticklish and they are giggling as opposed to coming some more :). You can stop then as there isn't any point to continuing not unless u want to tickle them of course.

    The other position is with them on their back and with me straddled in between their legs. This is advantageous as its good for mixing in oral in amongst all the fingering but also allows you to use both hands. (In the above position the right hand is doing all the work - the left hand can't really do much). Having two hands and a mouth n tongue is even better. Just use a combination of all the techniques described above. One thing u can do with two hands is to grasp the skin around the pubic area/clit and lift away gently from the pubic area. This stimulates the clit through (what ladies have described to me as a rubbing sensation) and is useful early on in foreplay. Disadvantage? Well my fingers are less supple in this position and it's much harder to keep going for whole lengths of time with my fingers facing up the way inside the vagina then down the way (more natural position - as used in typing/playing the piano).

    How long do u do this? Well that depends. If the aim is to have sex then I'll stop after one/two orgasms and move on to penetrative sex. When the ladies are that aroused it's not difficult for them to have orgasms from sex as well which is always very nice for you too (the payoff!) :) especially when those muscles clamp down hard on you. If u're not looking to have penetrative sex (and often my gf and I have what we call "exclusive sessions" where we concentrate solely on one person's pleasure either mine or hers) then keep going till she can't take it any more.

    Other things to do.

    Anal stimulation if they like it. The left hand can be used to stimulate the anal area/insertion into the bum.

    Use your tongue! Lick on the breasts in the first position.. oral in the second.

    Concentrate on the nipples when they are just about to come. Most ladies love their nipples being tweaked/bitten gently as they are coming. Adds to the whole overall sensation.

    Oh and lastly, apologies for the length of post.. if u've made it here congrats! Now go practice!
  7. MiRi

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    The best way for me to orgasm is a guy giving me oral while fingering me.
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