Fetish Connections?

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by Bowler, Jan 7, 2010.

  1. Bowler

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    So, as you all may or may not know, I am new to :sf

    This is probably why I've never thought of this before.
    Sure, one or the other have been spoken about by myself and other around me many times.
    Never at the same time, though.
    Seeing the topics in black and white has made me think.

    Anyway....

    Is it just me who sees a connection between M-F strap-on, and shemale sex?

    Is a shemale seen sexually as a woman with a real dick, or a man with boobs?

    Do some people fantasize about shemales because they feel it allows them to fantasize about a real penis without making them "gay"?

    I would love to hear some peoples opinions on the subject.



    In my opinion, there is a very strong connection.

    I see them as women with a little extra. ;)

    And seeing as I'm openly bi, I have no fears of people labelling me gay, because I'm very secure with my sexuality. Let people say what they wish.
     
  2. HardRocker

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    In the context of internet pornography, I see them as chicks with dicks. While watching what most of the shemale videos present, I'm not bothered as a straight guy by the thought of actually sucking one of those beauty's dicks. But, in reality, I think most of them can't really get an erection without going off of their hormone treatments for a while, and repeatedly doing so can wreck their endocrine systems (tell me if I'm mistaken). So I think the possibility of an opportunity ever actually occurring is slim to none since if I ever meet a shemale, h** dick would likely be limp.
     
  3. heelfetish

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    As a transgender individual, I see them as they see themselves, a female. They just have the incorrect plumbing. However I also see no need for labels, someone's fantasies need not be labeled as 'straight' or 'gay'. Have I fantasized about sex with a shemale? Yes. Have I fantasized about actually BEING a shemale? Hell yes.

    However, in my very humble opinion, I don't believe sexual fantasies about shemales are gay, as gay by definition is sex with someone of the same sex. And in that case, I believe a shemale to be (mostly) female. They certainly connect strongly enough with the female sex to permanently alter their appearance and physical body construction. And most are on their way to full SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery).

    That brings up another interesting question... Would someone consider a person who completed SRS to be their newly assigned sex, or their birth sex?
     
  4. Dreama

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    Gender and sex are two different things, as Heely has stated, and as I have learned in my human sexuality classes. Gender is how you identify. Sex is your organ. You can be a female and have male genitalia. The only label a person should deal with, is the label they put on themselves.
     
  5. Dragon_Fire

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    I consider them to be the gender that they present before me. I had someone staying with me who had gender issues. When this person dressed or behaved as a man, everyone considered him to be a man. When this person dressed or behaved as a woman, she was like my long lost sister. Unfortunately, this person disappeared from my life so I have no idea what I would be calling them now.
     
  6. heelfetish

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    I'm so sorry to hear that, Dragon. :(
     
  7. Dragon_Fire

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    I think of them regularly and wonder if they are happy. This person was seriously conflicted inside regarding their identity.