Female led marriage (flm)

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  1. travis beck

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    My wife recently found out that some of our friends practice FLM, and have for a few years now. We have agreed to try this for 30 days and see how it goes. Is there anyone out there that has experience with this? I'd love to chat and find out about your experience.
     
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    I have to admit I've never heard that term before, so I googled it. I'm not really sure why this is considered a "practice" as opposed to any other sort of relationship arrangement. I find the fact that it's even a "term" to be rather odd, as in many relationships there is often one person who tends to take more control than the other, regradless of their gender. And in other cases (I'd say most?) it's shared equally.

    But if you mean a sort of Domme/sub relationship, where the Domme controls her submissive male partner, then yeah - that's different. ;) xx
     
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    Is this something you have done long term, or just in play settings?
     
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    FLM? No, I don't do marriage. But Domme/sub relationships? Definitely, with all genders.

    However, being pansexual, I don't usually fit into the M/F category that questions like this are applied to, haha. So I'm probably not the best person to ask. I just replied as I thought it was funny that a "practice" has been constructed around the idea that a woman can be in charge in a relationship as opposed to a man - as if this is such a bizarre concept that it needs its own label. ;) xx
     
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    If I understood it correctly, I'd say that leadership is a natural skill. I'd think it difficult to shift the dynamics within a couple at will. Mainly if they'd been together for a long time.

    Interesting experiment.
     
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    I agree. So far, it's been arousing and frustrating on my part, but the sex has been great. For us, it's more her manipulating when and how I cum, not just during playtime, but overall. The rest of our marriage dynamic remains the same.
     
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    Oh, I didn't get it that way. Have fun!
     
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    In what way?
     
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    I've always been in "Female Led Relationships" - to the point that some people'd probably call them codependent. :confused:
     
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    Your title would be wrong then if it only pertains to sex and not the rest of your marriage.
     
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    It sounds like you are experimenting with a sort of dom/sub relationship, a true flm is one where the woman controls everything.
     
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    It is a Dom/sub relationship. Reading about the various levels, I'm not sure how you could have a relationship where one partner controls everything.
     
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    As unlikely as it sounds they exist.
     
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    So I guess I'll be that guy that has to ask; how exactly is this different from any other heterosexual relationship if as a man you're not rich or famous? Lol
     
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    Lol. For us, it is more about her control of sex and my orgasms. We still have sex, kinky sex. I just can't masturbate during the day and by the time I'm home, all I want is her. It's been frustrating at times, but the sex is better so far. I understand there are multiple levels of this and we aren't there.
     
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    OK...so basically you're living the life of every guy with a prudish gf/wife/SO, except the sex is kinkier?
     
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    Kinkier and daily.
     
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    More power to ya buddy..you seem to like it, reportedly she loves it..so I can't hate on that.
     
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    Woman control all relationships. They are so good at it men don't realize it.
    ;)
     
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    I was married for 25 yrs to my soul mate. She was wonderful, beautiful and a bitch and she would be the first to admit it. We owned a few small businesses and we found that I was good at the daily management and she was good at bookkeeping. It was a power struggle for a few years realizing this. When were home I would be more submissive ( just so you yungin's relate) , she managed me. I was comfortable with that for many years. She would say on days off "what are you going to do today?' I'd say " I'm going to play golf with Greg, come home barbeque a butterfly lamb roast and drink whiskey!" she'd say "WTF! You need to paint your daughters room, weed the garden with me and then cook the Roast!!" I'd say " Fuck too! I'm golfing!!!". Anger, time for compromise. " okay, I'll weed the garden before I golf and cook the roast. I'll get paint for her room tomorrow and we'll have our neighbors over for the roast tonight" Done Deal! Is that what you call a FLM.? LMAO! God rest her soul, she passed away from a heart attack. You ladies check you're blood pressure frequently!!! P. S. I did paint the room the next day!! I miss her always!!!
     
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