Something that's been bothering me lately, is that misconception that I somehow have that single men are for some reason, inferior. I know it's a stupid misconception, but it's a feel that I just can't shake off. It feels like if you're single at 30 years of age, as a man, you're a loser. For women it's different: a woman that is single at 30 is seen as strong, independent and able to stand for herself. A man that is single at that age is seen as a loser that no woman wants and that is at the shallow end of the gene pool and undesirable for procreation. Like if Nature denies them that. I can't shake the feeling that I'm inferior and that there is something wrong with me because I'm 30 and single. And thank God I lost my virginity (allbeit at a late age) because otherwise this feeling would be much worse. When I see my friends who have a girlfriend, it feels like they're the superior ones and that nature selected them as "good enough to procreate" while I'm just too inferior or something. And the stupid thing is... I don't even want kids. But I still have that feeling. It really badly hits on my self esteem. After a while, I start wondering what the hell is wrong with me? Am I just too damn ugly? I come to a point where I think I'm indeed just ugly and undesirable. Or do I have a shitty personality? Or ... I dunno. Anyone else ever went through a phase like this? The fact that it's Valentine's day soon doesn't make it better... I just feel like I'm missing out on a whole chunk of my life by being single. And the stupid part is that I'm not really unhappy. I actually like coming home and being able to live according to my rules and being able to hang out with friends when I want... but I just feel abnormal and like an outcast compared to everyone else. And then sometimes I also miss the sex, to be blunt. I was in a relationship for months a few years ago and I don't regret having ended it back then, but I do miss the physical pleasure sometimes. And I'm too shy and unconfident around women (yes I put them on a pedestal) to just "pick one up" in some bar and have sex with "no string attached". I have this one woman I already spoke about in another thread but I have no idea if I'm friendzoned or not. I guess time will tell. I registered on a dating site a while ago but women barely ever reply to messages from men apparently. And of course, I don't copy/paste the same shit to everyone. I take time to read their profile, to comment on it and ask a question about their hobbies or something, but in 90% of the cases, they reply with a thunderous silence. I either have to be extremely patient and continue sending messages... LOADS of messages or I should just accept that I'm indeed ugly or undesirable for women... Sucks. Well... feels good to let this off my chest.