I've been on an emotional roller coaster the past few weeks. Hubby and I are connecting like never before and it is really awesome. I know I should just live in the now and forget the past, but I am really feeling hurt. Now that he is opening up about the things he has been keeping to himself and admitting that he has had in depth discussions with another woman about those things I'm having trouble with my own emotions. At first I thought I was scared of losing him, but I know he loves me and wouldn't leave. I have spent a while tonight thinking about it and I realized I'm actually just deeply hurt. Not because he talked to her exactly, more because he didn't feel like he could talk to me. I feel like even though things are getting better now that I totally failed as a wife for so long. There is a whole side to him that he never felt he could show me before. We have been together for 14 years and married for 9 and somehow I was never supportive enough for him to talk to me. Also after a very long dry spell for us where I always felt he just didn't want sex I find out he's horny pretty much all of the time but wouldn't come to me. Things are improving but I still feel like I barely know him now. I'm scared to talk to him about it too much because I don't want him to feel like I'm invading his privacy but I really hate that there are things he doesn't tell me since I tell him everything. OK, I'll stop venting now, I just would really love some thoughts on this. How does everyone else handle their lover's secrets?